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"I went 7 months without, met someone off here and 1st meet was pretty good, 2nd time I actually couldn't wait for him to bugger off. Just aswell I guess because I didn't hear from him again. I'm in no hurry to meet anyone else and tbh get more satisfaction from a toy. Men talk the talk but when it comes down to it they're normally pretty selfish. " Thats why I stopped meeting from here.. the night of passion promised turns into a quick 10 minute shag he cums and thats it, my last meet probably January last year ended up like this its just not worth the bother of getting all ready. Think its a combination of that and life in general thats put me off sex, i dont even get the urge to use a toy... i might be broken haha | |||
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"I am going through something similar but I am blaming menopause for it haha. Been a long time since my breath has been taken away from me… by someone new. " But are you open enough to allow the right person to take your breath away ? Are you approachable in real life not in this fab fantasy world on here ? | |||
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"I am going through something similar but I am blaming menopause for it haha. Been a long time since my breath has been taken away from me… by someone new. But are you open enough to allow the right person to take your breath away ? Are you approachable in real life not in this fab fantasy world on here ?" The right person, yes. That doesn’t mean -any- person. 😉 | |||
"I am going through something similar but I am blaming menopause for it haha. Been a long time since my breath has been taken away from me… by someone new. But are you open enough to allow the right person to take your breath away ? Are you approachable in real life not in this fab fantasy world on here ? The right person, yes. That doesn’t mean -any- person. 😉" Oh course not! But so many people give off a vibe or body language that can stop a person from even engaging in a chat Do you find this ? | |||
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"I always find it odd when there are people on here that are not passionate about sex, I would expect it to be the one thing that we have in common 🤷♂️" I don't find it odd at all. Sex has never been a priority for me at any stage in my life and I don't ever remember having sex more than twice in the same week. I joined here after having zero sexual contact for 10 years and therefore having very little experience in comparison to some. Even then I've never been like a child in a sweet shop and have been very very fussy and selective in who I meet. I much prefer to meet people who have limited experience like myself and are therefore exploring things for the very first time even in our 50s or 60s. I know for some people, life revolves around sex and meeting people for sex but I find that very odd and if I'm honest a little sad at times that they don't have a life beyond their sex life. | |||
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"To befair your attitude is right (I think you know that). You know there's nothing wrong with you but I'm sure there's plenty on here in a similar position being glad you voiced this and glad they read this. At the end of the day this site will aways be here and so will people. Just enjoy your life, do the things that fulfill you and bring you joy now. In time you'll find the intimacy and pleasure you seek if you find the desire to seek it. You may not find that desire and thats ok too. Doesn't matter either way as long as you're comfortable in your own skin, listen to what your inner self desires and just do the things you need. Mr" Thank you. 100% me. I'm still attending socials and chatting to some really nice men. Its just not a priority for me. | |||
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"I went 7 months without, met someone off here and 1st meet was pretty good, 2nd time I actually couldn't wait for him to bugger off. Just aswell I guess because I didn't hear from him again. I'm in no hurry to meet anyone else and tbh get more satisfaction from a toy. Men talk the talk but when it comes down to it they're normally pretty selfish. Thats why I stopped meeting from here.. the night of passion promised turns into a quick 10 minute shag he cums and thats it, my last meet probably January last year ended up like this its just not worth the bother of getting all ready. Think its a combination of that and life in general thats put me off sex, i dont even get the urge to use a toy... i might be broken haha" Yep! We put all that effort in and they literally just cum and go.. this last one actually put more effort in than they normally do but ghosted after 2nd meet. Generally though it's all about them and they turn up looking like a tramp when ive had an everything bath and make sure a look and smell nice | |||
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"Sex: I actually couldnt be bothered 🙈 I went without it for a good few years. Broke the dry spell with a few encounters from here but I've not had any of their cocks in me....I am always to keen to give a bj & sure then its game over. My own fault. I'm at the stage of being uninspired, even looking at what I consider an attractive profile. I'm not going to say "what is wrong with me" as I know there is nothing wrong with me: I've been single a good few years, focusing on my kids, my health battles & other stuff in my personal life. Its been so long since I had proper real meaningful intimacy, I've forgotten what I am missing. I don't need an influx of offers, thanks though 😅" I don't think it is strange at all, as others have said I think everyone goes through phases like this at times. Sometimes other life stuff takes priority, sometimes your sex drive is just through the floor because of hormones, mental health, medication etc. We have all been there. I go through phases with this site where I'm less active and more active etc. If you are happy and use the site in a way that works for you and gives you what you need then you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. | |||
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"We all have the same cards, but life shuffles the deck. I like hanging out with straight guys specifically cause it’s platonic, other things than sex are central to the time. " Get on the minibus and prepare to shoot the shit by the fire. | |||
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"I always find it odd when there are people on here that are not passionate about sex, I would expect it to be the one thing that we have in common 🤷♂️ I don't find it odd at all. Sex has never been a priority for me at any stage in my life and I don't ever remember having sex more than twice in the same week. I joined here after having zero sexual contact for 10 years and therefore having very little experience in comparison to some. Even then I've never been like a child in a sweet shop and have been very very fussy and selective in who I meet. I much prefer to meet people who have limited experience like myself and are therefore exploring things for the very first time even in our 50s or 60s. I know for some people, life revolves around sex and meeting people for sex but I find that very odd and if I'm honest a little sad at times that they don't have a life beyond their sex life." I find it odd primarily because this is a sex site or non-monogamy, not a friendship or dating site. I love it when I connect with people that have the same passion sex that I do , and there are a lot of them on here . I love sex. It’s one of my favourite things after food, and I have a huge life outside of both full of adventures and relationships, very much people person, but sex is a massive part of my life. This is why I liked this website. | |||
"I always find it odd when there are people on here that are not passionate about sex, I would expect it to be the one thing that we have in common 🤷♂️" People can enjoy sex and be passionate about it, it doesn't mean they want it 24/7 or that it's high up in life's priorities. | |||
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"I always find it odd when there are people on here that are not passionate about sex, I would expect it to be the one thing that we have in common 🤷♂️ People can enjoy sex and be passionate about it, it doesn't mean they want it 24/7 or that it's high up in life's priorities. " Sure, I was referring to the people that really don’t seem bothered about sex, it’s like I wouldn’t join a fishing for him if I wasn’t interested at all in fishing | |||
"I always find it odd when there are people on here that are not passionate about sex, I would expect it to be the one thing that we have in common 🤷♂️ People can enjoy sex and be passionate about it, it doesn't mean they want it 24/7 or that it's high up in life's priorities. Sure, I was referring to the people that really don’t seem bothered about sex, it’s like I wouldn’t join a fishing for him if I wasn’t interested at all in fishing" There's a big difference between not being bothered about something and not being interested in it. I'm very interested in sex but only when I'm having it. Otherwise it rarely crosses my mind. I've never once had a conversation about sex with someone I wasn't having sexy with. I joined fab as a hobby, not as a lifestyle choice | |||
"I always find it odd when there are people on here that are not passionate about sex, I would expect it to be the one thing that we have in common 🤷♂️" Because of what this site is, does it remove a lot of the conventional baggage of conversion? Is the openness here, without the shame and awkwardness, why we are here? Sometimes, it's just nice to be able to discuss biscuits, books and the latest news event and be able to compliment someone on happening to have nice pants on. | |||
"I always find it odd when there are people on here that are not passionate about sex, I would expect it to be the one thing that we have in common 🤷♂️ People can enjoy sex and be passionate about it, it doesn't mean they want it 24/7 or that it's high up in life's priorities. Sure, I was referring to the people that really don’t seem bothered about sex, it’s like I wouldn’t join a fishing for him if I wasn’t interested at all in fishing" Yeah I get that, most people do join here with the intention of sex, however that moment, that intention doesn't always stay, it'll come and go, people still stay. | |||
"I always find it odd when there are people on here that are not passionate about sex, I would expect it to be the one thing that we have in common 🤷♂️ People can enjoy sex and be passionate about it, it doesn't mean they want it 24/7 or that it's high up in life's priorities. Sure, I was referring to the people that really don’t seem bothered about sex, it’s like I wouldn’t join a fishing for him if I wasn’t interested at all in fishing" I did enjoy sex and have had many great meets, nowadays i dont want sex (not to say i wont in the future) but i like the site for the forums, its been part of my life for about 14 years | |||
