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By *odgerMoore OP Man 14 weeks ago
Rummage Up The Jumper |
I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?
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"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?
Curious to know what they said
What do you guys think? "
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By *ariaxxxxWoman 14 weeks ago
Kent/London/Greater London |
For me I just don't reply at all anymore if someone just isn't for me, It has left me open to extreme verbal abuse for no reason whatsoever.
Some just can't handle 'rejection' & get all nasty.........So I have learnt to just ignore. |
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"For me I just don't reply at all anymore if someone just isn't for me, It has left me open to extreme verbal abuse for no reason whatsoever.
Some just can't handle 'rejection' & get all nasty.........So I have learnt to just ignore."
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By *odgerMoore OP Man 14 weeks ago
Rummage Up The Jumper |
"Anything less than an "I'll be around in ten minutes to suck your dick so dry you'll never need a mop again" is the absolute height of rudeness and bad manners. You should adjust your attitude 💜"
Pmsl - make it 9 show your keen  . It was a bit of a surprise to get a shitty message after Id tried to be polite and say no thanks… you definitely never getting a no thanks!! You’re getting a ‘ posh biscuits’ visit  |
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"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?
What do you guys think? "
Was your message to a man. |
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By *odgerMoore OP Man 14 weeks ago
Rummage Up The Jumper |
"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?
What do you guys think?
No a woman
Was your message to a man."
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"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?
What do you guys think? "
I think fuck you. That was the same message I send you every week. Now it’s ’I’m not feeling a connection’ rather than ‘I’m still in contact with the police’?
Don’t toy with my emotions you monster. |
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By *odgerMoore OP Man 14 weeks ago
Rummage Up The Jumper |
"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?
What do you guys think?
I think fuck you. That was the same message I send you every week. Now it’s ’I’m not feeling a connection’ rather than ‘I’m still in contact with the police’?
Don’t toy with my emotions you monster."
I told you after the first time that I could only do what you wanted if I was double jointed and where was I going to find a trapeze set up at short notice?? |
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Expecting politeness in that situation is a bit much I reckon.
I have no issue with people being pissed off with me, I'm happy to own that and take it on the chin.
Abuse is different though that's over the line. |
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By *odgerMoore OP Man 14 weeks ago
Rummage Up The Jumper |
"Expecting politeness in that situation is a bit much I reckon.
I have no issue with people being pissed off with me, I'm happy to own that and take it on the chin.
Abuse is different though that's over the line."
I think we should have an expectation of politeness- if the rejection is polite and it relates equally to Men and Women - one of the most common issues on here is people getting abuse after sending a polite no thanks. Fab would definitely be a better place if people accepted ‘rejection’ with good grace. |
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"Expecting politeness in that situation is a bit much I reckon.
I have no issue with people being pissed off with me, I'm happy to own that and take it on the chin.
Abuse is different though that's over the line.
I think we should have an expectation of politeness- if the rejection is polite and it relates equally to Men and Women - one of the most common issues on here is people getting abuse after sending a polite no thanks. Fab would definitely be a better place if people accepted ‘rejection’ with good grace. "
Just not being abusive is all I expect. I think that's more realistic and fair.
I don't really value politeness unless it's authentic.
I definitely don't expect someone to be polite to me, if I have rejected them. |
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By *ariaxxxxWoman 14 weeks ago
Kent/London/Greater London |
"No reply is no, I have resorted to ignore, then if pestering continues, block. Only way. Can only imagine the level this gets to for women/couples!"
Yes, better off to ignore persistent dms like "meet now" "why not" & a full graphic close up of his Dick, a zoomed in photo with nothing else showing (just smegma) Wouldn't be great if we could block close up genitalia , with nothing else showing
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"No reply is no, I have resorted to ignore, then if pestering continues, block. Only way. Can only imagine the level this gets to for women/couples!
Yes, better off to ignore persistent dms like "meet now" "why not" & a full graphic close up of his Dick, a zoomed in photo with nothing else showing (just smegma) Wouldn't be great if we could block close up genitalia , with nothing else showing
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Evan as a lover of cock, I own one and don't need it in detail. At least if it's dirty or too hairy it is a shortcut to a block! |
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Some people just can not take a polite decline well... the minute someone is rude about a "no thank you" type message they're blocked.
Most people appreciate a response, but I totally understand why a lot of people just delete rather than reply.
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"Anything less than an "I'll be around in ten minutes to suck your dick so dry you'll never need a mop again" is the absolute height of rudeness and bad manners. You should adjust your attitude 💜"
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I try to give a polite no thank you but some just can't accept it. I sometimes get a reasons why I'm missing out reply, or what makes me so special (I'm not) so will just block.
Life is too short to put up with 💩 |
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"This is why we go straight block if we aren't interested.
There is only so many times you can give a polite no and get abuse back before you decide its not worth the hassle."
I do the same, if I say no thanks, I block now,so they can't start asking why not or trying to persuade me otherwise.
If I delete a message and they send another, especially quickly afterwards, I block too.
Some people just can't take a no, that includes women I imagine and definitely couples. |
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By *phroditeWoman 14 weeks ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
If, and only if, the initial message of saying, "Thanks but no thanks" is phrased in a kind and respectful way - it is the recipient's mindset that determines whether they perceive it as a devasting and unjustified rejection. A sense of rejection lies within the recipient, not the sender. |
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By *odgerMoore OP Man 14 weeks ago
Rummage Up The Jumper |
"If, and only if, the initial message of saying, "Thanks but no thanks" is phrased in a kind and respectful way - it is the recipient's mindset that determines whether they perceive it as a devasting and unjustified rejection. A sense of rejection lies within the recipient, not the sender."
You know me well enough I think - to know i would be very conscious not to be harsh or cruel. X reading this thread has definitely got me thinking no answer is a better option. I get no thanks messages all the time - never becomes a discussion why not or a trigger to send an offensive message back though x |
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By *phroditeWoman 14 weeks ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"If, and only if, the initial message of saying, "Thanks but no thanks" is phrased in a kind and respectful way - it is the recipient's mindset that determines whether they perceive it as a devasting and unjustified rejection. A sense of rejection lies within the recipient, not the sender.
You know me well enough I think - to know i would be very conscious not to be harsh or cruel. X reading this thread has definitely got me thinking no answer is a better option. I get no thanks messages all the time - never becomes a discussion why not or a trigger to send an offensive message back though x"
Absolutely xx |
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By *phroditeWoman 14 weeks ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Wow rejecting a woman on fab?? It's unheard of. "
Oh it is not - I have been told too wordy in my profile, too old, too fat to whatever. Admittedly not all that often and usually by somebody who probably felt a bit threatened by my seemingly no-nonsense approach but it does happen to most of us I think. |
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By *odgerMoore OP Man 14 weeks ago
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"Wait! Are you saying you got a first msg from a woman?? I didn't think that happened on here 🤯"
Noooo thats outrageous xx. I sent first message we got chatting had a laugh then swapped face pics and I didn’t get a tingle so… xx |
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By *andKCouple 14 weeks ago
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"What do you guys think? "
We like to treat people as we would like to be treated. So if it's a No, we send a polite message.
Not everyone receives that very well. If they respond with abuse, it's delete and block.
But we won't stop being us. We will continue sending those no thank you messages. We often get a pleasant replies back. |
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By *VANDYMan 14 weeks ago
Dawlish |
Well this has been an eye opener. I can see it from both sides and unfortunately I think it’s the usual case of the minority spoiling it for the majority.
My first message is always polite and respectful and it does frustrate me when it’s deleted or read and ignored. At least a polite “not interested” would save me checking my messages every day for a reply. However I get it having read some of the comments on here.
No abuse here if anyone is interested |
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