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By *odgerMoore OP   Man 13 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper

I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?

What do you guys think?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Anything less than an "I'll be around in ten minutes to suck your dick so dry you'll never need a mop again" is the absolute height of rudeness and bad manners. You should adjust your attitude 💜

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By *aughty driverMan 13 weeks ago

Romford


"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?

Curious to know what they said

What do you guys think? "

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By *ariaxxxxWoman 13 weeks ago

Kent/London/Greater London

For me I just don't reply at all anymore if someone just isn't for me, It has left me open to extreme verbal abuse for no reason whatsoever.

Some just can't handle 'rejection' & get all nasty.........So I have learnt to just ignore.

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By *adbod451000Man 13 weeks ago

cardiff

Should always be honest and shouldn't get any shit messages back 😒

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By *adbod451000Man 13 weeks ago

cardiff

Totally agree. U don't deserve shit at all it is what it is. Move on always someone for everyone

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By *aughty driverMan 13 weeks ago

Romford

I think if someone is rude just be rude back or block em

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By *adbod451000Man 13 weeks ago

cardiff


"For me I just don't reply at all anymore if someone just isn't for me, It has left me open to extreme verbal abuse for no reason whatsoever.

Some just can't handle 'rejection' & get all nasty.........So I have learnt to just ignore."

Best way

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By *odgerMoore OP   Man 13 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper


"Anything less than an "I'll be around in ten minutes to suck your dick so dry you'll never need a mop again" is the absolute height of rudeness and bad manners. You should adjust your attitude 💜"

Pmsl - make it 9 show your keen . It was a bit of a surprise to get a shitty message after Id tried to be polite and say no thanks… you definitely never getting a no thanks!! You’re getting a ‘ posh biscuits’ visit

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By *he Filthy Gorgeous OnesCouple 13 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?

What do you guys think? "

Was your message to a man.

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By *odgerMoore OP   Man 13 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper


"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?

What do you guys think?

No a woman

Was your message to a man."

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By *he Silver FuxMan 13 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?

What do you guys think? "

I think fuck you. That was the same message I send you every week. Now it’s ’I’m not feeling a connection’ rather than ‘I’m still in contact with the police’?

Don’t toy with my emotions you monster.

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By *odgerMoore OP   Man 13 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper


"I received quite an impolite response to my ‘ thanks for your message but im not feeling a connection’. Message. I thought my answer was quite polite and respectful… am i wrong? If not … is it just that some people just can’t take no for an answer?

What do you guys think?

I think fuck you. That was the same message I send you every week. Now it’s ’I’m not feeling a connection’ rather than ‘I’m still in contact with the police’?

Don’t toy with my emotions you monster."

I told you after the first time that I could only do what you wanted if I was double jointed and where was I going to find a trapeze set up at short notice??

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By *ansoffateMan 13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Expecting politeness in that situation is a bit much I reckon.

I have no issue with people being pissed off with me, I'm happy to own that and take it on the chin.

Abuse is different though that's over the line.

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By *odgerMoore OP   Man 13 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper


"Expecting politeness in that situation is a bit much I reckon.

I have no issue with people being pissed off with me, I'm happy to own that and take it on the chin.

Abuse is different though that's over the line."

I think we should have an expectation of politeness- if the rejection is polite and it relates equally to Men and Women - one of the most common issues on here is people getting abuse after sending a polite no thanks. Fab would definitely be a better place if people accepted ‘rejection’ with good grace.

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By *ansoffateMan 13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"Expecting politeness in that situation is a bit much I reckon.

I have no issue with people being pissed off with me, I'm happy to own that and take it on the chin.

Abuse is different though that's over the line.

I think we should have an expectation of politeness- if the rejection is polite and it relates equally to Men and Women - one of the most common issues on here is people getting abuse after sending a polite no thanks. Fab would definitely be a better place if people accepted ‘rejection’ with good grace. "

Just not being abusive is all I expect. I think that's more realistic and fair.

I don't really value politeness unless it's authentic.

I definitely don't expect someone to be polite to me, if I have rejected them.

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By *ena AmourTV/TS 13 weeks ago

Chard

No reply is no, I have resorted to ignore, then if pestering continues, block. Only way. Can only imagine the level this gets to for women/couples!

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By *ariaxxxxWoman 13 weeks ago

Kent/London/Greater London


"No reply is no, I have resorted to ignore, then if pestering continues, block. Only way. Can only imagine the level this gets to for women/couples!"

Yes, better off to ignore persistent dms like "meet now" "why not" & a full graphic close up of his Dick, a zoomed in photo with nothing else showing (just smegma) Wouldn't be great if we could block close up genitalia , with nothing else showing

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By *ena AmourTV/TS 13 weeks ago

Chard


"No reply is no, I have resorted to ignore, then if pestering continues, block. Only way. Can only imagine the level this gets to for women/couples!

Yes, better off to ignore persistent dms like "meet now" "why not" & a full graphic close up of his Dick, a zoomed in photo with nothing else showing (just smegma) Wouldn't be great if we could block close up genitalia , with nothing else showing

"

Evan as a lover of cock, I own one and don't need it in detail. At least if it's dirty or too hairy it is a shortcut to a block!

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By *eys00Man 13 weeks ago

have boots will travel

As we say in the business; no comment is a comment!

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By *andadbodMan 13 weeks ago

Liverpool

People can be quite abusive hiding behind a keyboard 🤷‍♂️

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By *hechonkyduoCouple 13 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

This is why we go straight block if we aren't interested.

There is only so many times you can give a polite no and get abuse back before you decide its not worth the hassle.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple 13 weeks ago

Brum

It’s the reason we say yes to everything.

Honestly think my dick might fall off.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman 13 weeks ago

Cambs

Some people just can not take a polite decline well... the minute someone is rude about a "no thank you" type message they're blocked.

Most people appreciate a response, but I totally understand why a lot of people just delete rather than reply.

B.

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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago

I hardly reply nowadays as theres only so much abuse one can take

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By *008sloverMan 13 weeks ago

Near you

Block button can be your best friend... Dont bring unwanted stress in your life

Hit that little button and everything will be ok

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By *ora the explorerWoman 13 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Receive message - not interested - delete and block. I still don’t understand why people open themselves up to abuse, especially when it really affects them. I’ve never had any.

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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago

Can’t please them all.

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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago

This is why I have a zero reply policy.

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By *ou only live onceMan 13 weeks ago

London

I've had a couple of replies to replies that were a bit off, but only very few few. I think most people just get on with their lives after a polite no, as I do when in their shoes.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple 13 weeks ago

Chigwell


"Anything less than an "I'll be around in ten minutes to suck your dick so dry you'll never need a mop again" is the absolute height of rudeness and bad manners. You should adjust your attitude 💜"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

👏👏👏👏👏

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By *oneyBee200Woman 13 weeks ago

Kent

I try to give a polite no thank you but some just can't accept it. I sometimes get a reasons why I'm missing out reply, or what makes me so special (I'm not) so will just block.

Life is too short to put up with 💩

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By *aron Van WinkleMan 13 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire


"

What do you guys think? "

I don’t think anymore, nothing online suprise me so I’m never sat there anticipating something that is normally expected.

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By *odgerMoore OP   Man 13 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper

This has been really interesting - i think the no reply option is the way fwd. for context we had been chatting back and forth so it wasn’t just a random- we had a connection enough to go to exchanging pics but I knew at that point There was no oooft so… anyway.. im off to perv all of the lovely women on this thread and block issue dick pics - to everyone!!! - Joking!!!!!!

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By *reative-mindMan 13 weeks ago

exeter

Personally I only reply after the 11th message from someone. I need to know they actually are proper keen on me.

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By *issmorganWoman 13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"This is why we go straight block if we aren't interested.

There is only so many times you can give a polite no and get abuse back before you decide its not worth the hassle."

I do the same, if I say no thanks, I block now,so they can't start asking why not or trying to persuade me otherwise.

If I delete a message and they send another, especially quickly afterwards, I block too.

Some people just can't take a no, that includes women I imagine and definitely couples.

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By *phroditeWoman 13 weeks ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

If, and only if, the initial message of saying, "Thanks but no thanks" is phrased in a kind and respectful way - it is the recipient's mindset that determines whether they perceive it as a devasting and unjustified rejection. A sense of rejection lies within the recipient, not the sender.

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By *odgerMoore OP   Man 13 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper


"If, and only if, the initial message of saying, "Thanks but no thanks" is phrased in a kind and respectful way - it is the recipient's mindset that determines whether they perceive it as a devasting and unjustified rejection. A sense of rejection lies within the recipient, not the sender."

You know me well enough I think - to know i would be very conscious not to be harsh or cruel. X reading this thread has definitely got me thinking no answer is a better option. I get no thanks messages all the time - never becomes a discussion why not or a trigger to send an offensive message back though x

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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago

It’s YOUR loss! I wouldn’t have touched you cock with an oven glove anyway!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 13 weeks ago

Reading

Wow rejecting a woman on fab?? It's unheard of.

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By *phroditeWoman 13 weeks ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"If, and only if, the initial message of saying, "Thanks but no thanks" is phrased in a kind and respectful way - it is the recipient's mindset that determines whether they perceive it as a devasting and unjustified rejection. A sense of rejection lies within the recipient, not the sender.

You know me well enough I think - to know i would be very conscious not to be harsh or cruel. X reading this thread has definitely got me thinking no answer is a better option. I get no thanks messages all the time - never becomes a discussion why not or a trigger to send an offensive message back though x"

Absolutely xx

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By *phroditeWoman 13 weeks ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Wow rejecting a woman on fab?? It's unheard of. "
Oh it is not - I have been told too wordy in my profile, too old, too fat to whatever. Admittedly not all that often and usually by somebody who probably felt a bit threatened by my seemingly no-nonsense approach but it does happen to most of us I think.

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By *aizyWoman 13 weeks ago

west midlands

Wait! Are you saying you got a first msg from a woman?? I didn't think that happened on here 🤯

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By *odgerMoore OP   Man 13 weeks ago

Rummage Up The Jumper


"Wait! Are you saying you got a first msg from a woman?? I didn't think that happened on here 🤯"

Noooo thats outrageous xx. I sent first message we got chatting had a laugh then swapped face pics and I didn’t get a tingle so… xx

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By *andKCouple 13 weeks ago

Wrea Green


"What do you guys think? "

We like to treat people as we would like to be treated. So if it's a No, we send a polite message.

Not everyone receives that very well. If they respond with abuse, it's delete and block.

But we won't stop being us. We will continue sending those no thank you messages. We often get a pleasant replies back.

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By *aoirse NaughtyWoman 13 weeks ago

Cork

At first I used to try reply to all messages and got so many aggressive nasty messages back when i said no that now when i see single man I just deleate

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By *VANDYMan 13 weeks ago

Dawlish

Well this has been an eye opener. I can see it from both sides and unfortunately I think it’s the usual case of the minority spoiling it for the majority.

My first message is always polite and respectful and it does frustrate me when it’s deleted or read and ignored. At least a polite “not interested” would save me checking my messages every day for a reply. However I get it having read some of the comments on here.

No abuse here if anyone is interested

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