I’m guessing most people will say Personal, but does anyone else feel like their opening messages are starting to all sound the same? Like, apart from a few tweaks here and there, it feels a bit repetitive — and you start worrying you’re coming across as boring?
Here’s my current one:
Hi XXX,
I hope you don’t mind me reaching out.
I'd like to chat and get to know each other, see if there's a spark. Would you?
Sending Hugs 🤗
Or something similar to that... |
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Basically, write like you talk. Asking someone if they want to start a chat to see if there’s an interest sounds like har work…chat about what?
Mention something on their profile, something they said in the forums, a question which actually deserves a decent answer are all ideas. |
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"I’m guessing most people will say Personal, but does anyone else feel like their opening messages are starting to all sound the same? Like, apart from a few tweaks here and there, it feels a bit repetitive — and you start worrying you’re coming across as boring?
Here’s my current one:
Hi XXX,
I hope you don’t mind me reaching out.
I'd like to chat and get to know each other, see if there's a spark. Would you?
Sending Hugs 🤗
Or something similar to that..."
It' a step up from Hi, hey you, hi how are you? Or have you have a good day?
Perhaps put a little bit about yourself too.  |
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Mine is what ever nonsense pops into my head.
Sometimes that is just hello I think your tits are lovely
Sometimes it's a complete shite from my subconscious.
People will either engage it doesn't really bother me |
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I wouldn't use the same template for an opening message for each woman I attempt to chat with. Each individual has different qualities or something that's been written in their bio, that can easily be incorporated into an opening gambit. I try to make each one personal with a bit of humour thrown in. |
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Can I copy and paste that op?
Seriously, there’s no right or wrong.
My advice would be, just be you, and if they answer or send you a message and you are lucky enough to say hello to each other, it was meant to be. If not, it wasn’t and you’d have never got along anyway. |
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Nothing wrong with it apart from it would scream you have no personality for me.
I respond to the funny more piss taking ones. But that's just me.
People like different things. Who knew!
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This screams copy and paste message with no effort to personalise, would make me feel like you've likely not even read my profile. I probably wouldn't reply to this sorry, especially with the "sending hugs" bit 😬 |
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What’s wrong with “copy & paste”?
You want people to take the time to make a personalised message, when theirs a 90% chance they’re not gonna even look at it?
On the odd occasion I receive a message from a lady, what do I get?
“Hey”
“Hello”
“How are you?”
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"What’s wrong with “copy & paste”?
As a solo woman I don't appreciate copy and paste message which start "Hey guys. How are you both""
Haha.
I actually sent a message to someone complimenting their profile picture.
To later see them in my hotlist which a shadow pic (they’d took it down) and the message hadn’t been read yet.
So I do often think if they thought I’d copy and pasted from somewhere else. 🤷♂️
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My messages vary ~ read the persons profile, pick out what appeals and mention something along those lines.
Messages received can be pretty whacky; but even if a person just says "hi" I'm ok with that. It just opens a dialogue, doesn't it.  |
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