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By *agic.MMan 12 weeks ago
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"Ever had someone in your life that manipulative? Alongside incredible intelligence that makes you question whether you’re being a psychopath inferring said manipulative behaviours 😅"
Not to that degree no...Met a lot of manipulative people, but most not very intelligent luckily |
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"Hmmmm….
Let me think OP. There has been more than one occasion for me 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Oh please discuss.. I feel like a fucking fruitloop atm! Overanalysing it all! But reality is, it’s manipulation! "
The best advice I can give you is trust your Scooby senses even if you feel weird and crazy doing that. That’s part of their tactic. Take some time. Keep your own counsel. Establish what is true and not true. And most importantly breathe. Find some peace in yourself. If you need a natter my DMs are open 😘 |
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"Ever had someone in your life that manipulative? Alongside incredible intelligence that makes you question whether you’re being a psychopath inferring said manipulative behaviours 😅
Not to that degree no...Met a lot of manipulative people, but most not very intelligent luckily "
Mixed with intelligence, it’s a fucking weapon! |
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Master manipulators tend to mix the manipulation with a bit of gaslighting for good measure, and leave you second guessing yourself and wondering if you're going mad/being paranoid.
All I can say is trust your instincts. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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Have a look at narcissistic behaviour disorder and see if the person you are talking about fits the criteria. Commonly someone who you think is manipulative has other traits that fit a personality disorder.
Sadly I’ve become all too familiar with a narcissist and it’s exhausting to say the least.
If at all possible, completely cut all ties with that person. |
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When you start prefacing everything with "I know I'm going to sound crazy" because you know that they're going to tell you you're crazy 🙃 even when what you're rausing is PERFECTLY VALID AND APPROPRIATE |
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"Ever had someone in your life that manipulative? Alongside incredible intelligence that makes you question whether you’re being a psychopath inferring said manipulative behaviours 😅"
Yes, a woman who blamed me for her mental health failure, in spite of having been in and out of institutions before we met.
Her mental health was fucked, and I pitied her and ended up supporting her far more than was warranted.
She would have these massive, raging meltdowns that would start with her grinding her teeth, followed by her screaming rage at me - often leaving me wondering what had triggered her so much.
Like, she would blow up out of nowhere, accuse me of starting fights just for asking her to clarify what she meant, and could never accept an alternative opinion without thinking it was an attack.
Everything that ever happened to her was someone else's fault - and every relationship she was ever in failed because of them.
Zero accountability for anything.
She ended up using physical violence against me, hit me, pushed me in the face, stamped on my foot, threatened me, threatened to kill herself and more - usually when she didn't get her own way.
I never responded with violence once - I usually froze like a rabbit caught in headlights.
I went through the whole system, support charities, MARAC, community mental health services and more.
It was exhausting.  |
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"I have one of these at the moment and it's killing me
Exit left!"
Would love to but unfortunately I have caught a feeling and therefore I like to forget everything the minute the wind changes and he's okay with me again 🙃 |
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By *tr8MrEMan 12 weeks ago
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"I have one of these at the moment and it's killing me
Exit left!
Would love to but unfortunately I have caught a feeling and therefore I like to forget everything the minute the wind changes and he's okay with me again 🙃"
Hmmm, I'd still exit left....if it's damaging you to the point of talking about on here |
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"I have one of these at the moment and it's killing me
Exit left!
Would love to but unfortunately I have caught a feeling and therefore I like to forget everything the minute the wind changes and he's okay with me again 🙃"
If you don't walk,away he's just going to carry on doing it as he knows you will put up with it |
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"I have one of these at the moment and it's killing me
Exit left!
Would love to but unfortunately I have caught a feeling and therefore I like to forget everything the minute the wind changes and he's okay with me again 🙃"
This is my problem right here! The feels are very very much there.. when apart and not talking.. I’m strong, badass and take no shit. I know exactly what I’ll say.. then he speaks to me and I melt into a puddle. |
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"I have one of these at the moment and it's killing me
Exit left!
Would love to but unfortunately I have caught a feeling and therefore I like to forget everything the minute the wind changes and he's okay with me again 🙃
This is my problem right here! The feels are very very much there.. when apart and not talking.. I’m strong, badass and take no shit. I know exactly what I’ll say.. then he speaks to me and I melt into a puddle."
Then you have to decide whether to cut him out of your life... If the answer is yes, delete everything and block him on everything
Good luck with whatever you decide, I know it's nowhere as easy as it sounds x |
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By *assy69Man 12 weeks ago
sussex and Wales |
"Ever had someone in your life that manipulative? Alongside incredible intelligence that makes you question whether you’re being a psychopath inferring said manipulative behaviours 😅"
Yes!! Took a long time but managed to walk away from it all about 18 months ago ……. |
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"Unfortunately yes. I seem to attract them 
For self preservation, walk away while you can as it won't get any better x
I guess this is the wrong time (or thread )for someone to say hello to you.  "
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take!! 🙌🥪 |
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"Unfortunately yes. I seem to attract them
For self preservation, walk away while you can as it won't get any better x
I guess this is the wrong time (or thread )for someone to say hello to you. "
Hello 😘 |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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I was in a relationship with a narcissist for far too long. The first 4/5 months of our relationship I was in pure heaven. Then the mask started slipping and it took a huge amount of time and energy to finally get myself discarded by her.
Never again would it happen though. I’m much better at identifying them.
Also, you can’t ever change them no matter how supportive and empathetic you are. You simply have to walk away. |
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