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Can you ever get over a breakup?
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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Are you also following eastenders and the drama between phil and sharon? They have broken up and are not together anymore and havent been so for a while, it goes back and forth with them two.
But it seems that phil cant get over the break up this time and it have worsen for him espeically mentally as he cant cope so good, as he still got feelings for her and keeps hoping that she will get back to him on day.
What is your view about it, can you ever get over a break up, have you been in the same situacion where you still fancy your partner and hoped that you would get together in the end, if so, did you?
I would say that yes, it is possible to get over it, first of all. I dont think it is good to keep hoping or healthy that one day you might get toghether again because you would lose many years thinkig this way and not be happy.
There are different stages to get through it like, one is acknowledging the loss and allowing yourself to heal, the next stage is to focus on healing and eebuilding your life, for some it goes quicker than others, do you kow of any other ways too?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can. But you mourn it in a funny way.
Albeit it depends I guess on how good the actual relationship had been up till it went tits up.
A good relationship turned bad at the end is easier to mourn and look back on fondly than a pure toxic/abusive relationship.
Relationships always leave their mark. Sometimes we just miss who we were in happier times.
As for Sharon and Phil, they have had enough chances to make a relationship work, and they screw it up every time. They’re toxic to each other, and to everyone caught in their web. |
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By *amo47Man
over a year ago
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Don't watch eastenders, took me a long time to get over my breakup couple of years ago, I still think about her and the good times we had together. Then my brain goes to the time it all went downhill |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My view would be to not compare your relationships with a couple from Eastenders 
But yes, of course you can. People move on all the time. Meet others, who are better than before.
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For me yeah. If someone doesn’t want me anymore I most certainly won’t want them so I’d never be hoping someone would change their mind. I may think aw that’s a shame I really liked them but that’s about it. I don’t really wallow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'm probably a bit odd but yes. I didn't want my marriage to end. But it did. I mourned it for a while. I mean I was properly sad, heartbroken, upset, hurt etc but I don't feel any of that now. Maybe a little sad but I feel totally over it. I'm like that with many big "events" that have happened in my life. I feel a bit cold and heartless that these things don't seem to affect me as much as they do other people. Maybe I'm just good at realising that you don't get anything out of dwelling on things or moving backwards over old ground. For me the only way is to accept it and move on.
I don't know anything about Sharon or Phil though. Just my experience. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"You can. But you mourn it in a funny way.
Albeit it depends I guess on how good the actual relationship had been up till it went tits up.
A good relationship turned bad at the end is easier to mourn and look back on fondly than a pure toxic/abusive relationship.
Relationships always leave their mark. Sometimes we just miss who we were in happier times.
As for Sharon and Phil, they have had enough chances to make a relationship work, and they screw it up every time. They’re toxic to each other, and to everyone caught in their web."
Hi luna, yes, you are right there, you mourn it in a funny way, yes, it also depends how good ge actual relationship had been up till then too |
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You don’t forget a wonderful time. You learn to live with the break up, but you don’t get over it easily, or at least I don’t.
I love deep, and when they leave that space you gave them in your heart, it leaves an empty black hole that is heavy to carry, and hard to fill again.
Short relationships are easy to get over.
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"Don't watch eastenders, took me a long time to get over my breakup couple of years ago, I still think about her and the good times we had together. Then my brain goes to the time it all went downhill "
Yes, it can take long time to get over it too  |
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Yep.
Once something is done, it’s done for me. May feel a wounded internally for a little while depending on the depth of feeling towards the other but mostly I can easily remove/erase any emotion towards them, walk away and not look back. #Toodleoomuthafucker
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"Quick answer, yes you can.
Some are much harder to get over than others. Some you're already mentally checked out of before it's actually ended. "
Hi kinkyycurvyy, yes, you are right there, some are harder to get over than others too |
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I get what everyone is saying with the 'yes's, and I am inclined to agree with the logic; time is a great healer and all that, but I've had one break-up that will always leave a little scar💔 and as such, no, don't think you (I) can fully get over someone if they really meant that much to you. It took a long time before I knew it was a case of 'give up and move on', remembering the good times rather than dwelling on 'the end'. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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"For me yeah. If someone doesn’t want me anymore I most certainly won’t want them so I’d never be hoping someone would change their mind. I may think aw that’s a shame I really liked them but that’s about it. I don’t really wallow. "
Hi nora, yes, you are right there, if someone doesnt want you, you dont want them, yes, it would be a shame too |
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There is only one that I won't get over for various reasons....the rest, I have as we parted amicably so there was no hard feelings on any side. I am on friendly terms with all bar one (not the one I won't get over) |
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