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By *inx000 OP Couple 15 weeks ago
Manchester |
Whilst being on Fab have any of you found exactly what you were looking for on here?Maybe you weren't looking for anything at the time but then found a connection with someone your really into?
Have you been lucky enough to find someone for the dynamic you specifically want such as a regular hook up,FWB etc or even just friendship and someone to hang our with?
Maybe even found love with someone special you met on here?
Or do you find your wasting your time and find it difficult to find what you are looking for on here? |
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I’ve always found what I’m looking for with men over the years I’ve been here even though it’s always taken a lot of time! I find it very hard to find ladies to meet though 😥. Would love to find some ladies to meet socially with the potential for more. |
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Not really found what I'm looking for. But I guess just a pal, buddy, friend who I can chat too, hang out with, and hang out of every now and then. I have an extremely busy life and spend a lot of time away from home/travelling. It's not always easy to find people who are ok with last minute changes to plans etc |
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Yes, weve been on and off here for around 5 years nearly now.
What we have primarily always looked for has never changed but we find it easier to find or it finds us now so can't complain.
Just using fab isn't the be all and end all, being social and going to socials/meets helps a lot rather than just relying solely on Fab itself.
We couldn't do this in the beginning as we joined just before COVID hit 😂
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We met on here when not looking at all, so we know that finding the right people is possible.
We’ve also had a couple of long term FWB’s - a single gent and a married lady who played with her husband’s permission. They both fitted our dynamics perfectly and us theirs so we seen them for over a year.
Situations have changed with both and so we’ve found ourselves searching again. However we know what works now and so it’s seemingly harder as the bar is set high now.
We love opening our relationship up to people and them feeling a part of it, for a time and we are all open and honest.
We’d also love to meet a couple where we meet socially as well as have sexy times and we all meet or if one can’t the others can catch up.
Finding that is very hard though.
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I've found various people and relationships on here, even love for those that believe such a thing exists.
I don't think it's a direct product of much energy one puts in to seeking, those things. There's a kind of optimal balance of discovery and engaging.
I try to be informed by my past, my present desires, but not defined rigidly by them.
I am not sure wasting my time, is the way I look at it. I think I can use my time ineffectually or non-optimally, but if I learn from that then it's not wasted time. |
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I found an amazing play partner of 3 years and yes there was a connection and a lot of love for him. But life got in the way and we parted a year ago, was the right thing and time.
Now been holding out for someone to spark that interest with no such luck.
Not in any rush but come on it’s been a year!
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"I've found various people and relationships on here, even love for those that believe such a thing exists.
I don't think it's a direct product of much energy one puts in to seeking, those things. There's a kind of optimal balance of discovery and engaging.
I try to be informed by my past, my present desires, but not defined rigidly by them.
I am not sure wasting my time, is the way I look at it. I think I can use my time ineffectually or non-optimally, but if I learn from that then it's not wasted time."
I’m take not of this. Needed to hear this today 💜 |
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Yes, I've been really lucky and found my partner here. Neither of us were looking for one another it just happened, it started from the forums. We've had a great time over the last 3 years and have experienced so many things together and met some lovely people through meets and socials. I'm not sure what our future holds but I hope it continues  |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I have no expectation of anything happening from fab. The best chance of a connection is only if you meet up in clubs. Think there are too many time wasters or exhibitionists on fab for it to be the ‘go to’ method for meeting people. |
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I find what I'm looking for. I also find some wonderful things I wasn't looking for.
(I mean, there's also a lot of things I'm not looking for and do not consider wonderful that appear in my inbox too, but what's a few blocks and deletes against what can be gained here?)
I like the forum for distracting me from work or giving my squirrel brain something to dance to when I need to process things in the background. I like the club listings even if I haven't made it to a standard swing night in months now, but I'll fix that when life stops lifing so hard 💜 |
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I'm not looking and haven't for years. The buddies, friends, people I met were wild, finding that again, the longevity and dynamics although not impossible is pretty unlikely. It's hard to explain but I'm maybe 10% fit at best, so as much as I'd like, even one off meets aren't something I'm bothering with. |
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Yes, it's taken a few meets, lots of messages, profile re writes, but yes, have found a few guys that fit perfectly.
My meets are few and far between so they need to deliver on both sides to make it work. |
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I found what I was looking for several times over the years.
Now it is proving more difficult. People who lie on their profiles about age, smokers, men posing as couples/women…
But I am not especially looking for anything atm, so happy to potter along till I get my breath taken away again.  |
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"Whilst being on Fab have any of you found exactly what you were looking for on here?Maybe you weren't looking for anything at the time but then found a connection with someone your really into?
Have you been lucky enough to find someone for the dynamic you specifically want such as a regular hook up,FWB etc or even just friendship and someone to hang our with?
Maybe even found love with someone special you met on here?
Or do you find your wasting your time and find it difficult to find what you are looking for on here?"
I've found exactly what I wanted and very happy with the situation 😁
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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Objectively no not found what I thought I was looking for, but over the last ten years on here I’ve worked out who I am so I’ve found me ( he’s an asshole one out of five stars would not recommend) but isn’t that what we all should do. |
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By *fffunCouple 15 weeks ago
Somewhere just outside London |
Not yet.... Still trying to find a female to join us for some mff fun x in the mean time just enjoying camming, something I didn't know I would enjoy so much since joining fab |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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"I came looking for hotwife / stag + Vixen / Cuckold couples, and have found them over the years, but it is hard work.
It’s like Snowboarding, if it was easy then everybody would do it.  "
Lol good analogy |
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By *idssissyTV/TS 15 weeks ago
Nr cricket ground birm |
Initially came here to get more experience giving o to men, coming from the kink scene.
Had a few meets though most was one offs.
Realised wanted regular and with a bit of kink.
Some great chats but meets harder to come by |
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I've been here since 2016 and the only thing I was looking for back then was to continue exploring what I had never experienced until very shortly before turning 50.
I've left and rejoined 3 times, each time with a clean slate and thought I wanted to do that exploring with different people.
I've discovered though how that can bring unwanted drama where I am collateral damage but I've been very lucky to meet someone I am able to explore everything and anything at our own pace with no outside interference.
We have a couples profile now too and continue to enjoy each others company 5 years down the line so I'm more than happy with that. |
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"I’ve always found what I’m looking for with men over the years I’ve been here even though it’s always taken a lot of time! I find it very hard to find ladies to meet though 😥. Would love to find some ladies to meet socially with the potential for more. "
*a-hem* 😁
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I'm not really looking for anything specific on here. There are things that would be nice to find that I'm open to, but I'm not actively searching for them. I'm just letting things occur naturally.
When I first joined I simply wanted to find one fwb who didn't want a romantic relationship with me at that point. But I've gained so many new friends, made new connections, had amazing experiences and explored things about myself I didn't realise existed. So what I got was so much more than I had planned for. |
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Yeah, I have a few of times, most of the time actually, I think I’m good at picking compatibles, and I usually take my time before meeting (often to the point they get fed up waiting !) casual things that just work really well over the long term and the odd one who took me by complete surprise when I wasn’t looking for something more.
I definitely don’t feel like I’m wasting my time on it. It’s never felt like that. |
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I joined this site having no real idea what I wanted as I'd been single for years & never been involved in swinging in any way before (boy was this site an eye opener!)
Met a guy a few weeks after joining, fell in love, are still together after 2 & a half years and are planning our future.
The only thing I'm missing now is a lady fwb to meet alone with but so far not had much luck but some times great things come along when you least expect it so I won't give up hope 😊 |
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"As this is a swinging site, I can here looking for NSA sex, I have found plenty of it.
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A few months ago on a similar thread a man posted a response very like this and got absolutely hammered by quite a few forumites telling him that this wasn't a site for NSA.
He was told to make himself more aware of what the lifestyle really was and join the social scene and stop treating people like pieces of meat. NSA and swinging are not compatible apparently according to some.
It was a strange reaction on what is supposed to be an open and welcoming site but quite a few people are here for NSA and like you have found exactly that. |
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I think it's necessary to find several people to meet a mixture of needs. To find one person that fulfills all needs is inlikely imo. At least that's what I've found so far...
And that's really why we are all here? |
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By *aizyWoman 15 weeks ago
west midlands |
"I'm not really looking for anything specific on here. There are things that would be nice to find that I'm open to, but I'm not actively searching for them. I'm just letting things occur naturally.
When I first joined I simply wanted to find one fwb who didn't want a romantic relationship with me at that point. But I've gained so many new friends, made new connections, had amazing experiences and explored things about myself I didn't realise existed. So what I got was so much more than I had planned for. "
That is such a nice way to put it, I had an fwb when I first joined didn't end well so I have been a bit hesitant about finding one again but, I think I am ready to try again now. You are so right about exploring and finding things out about yourself. |
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"As this is a swinging site, I can here looking for NSA sex, I have found plenty of it.
A few months ago on a similar thread a man posted a response very like this and got absolutely hammered by quite a few forumites telling him that this wasn't a site for NSA.
He was told to make himself more aware of what the lifestyle really was and join the social scene and stop treating people like pieces of meat. NSA and swinging are not compatible apparently according to some.
It was a strange reaction on what is supposed to be an open and welcoming site but quite a few people are here for NSA and like you have found exactly that."
The definition of swinging is people meeting up for sex.
The thing is lots of people still here having issues with people meeting up just for the pleasure of sex. Society has told us us we shouldn't.
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I wanted to find a FWB that’s local to me who I can meet up regularly with. I did find that, but not on FAB.
I did find a platonic friendship here, a woman that I’ve had some GREAT times with who’s quickly becoming a good friend mine and some Hotwife’s that I’m rather fond of.
So can’t complain 👌 |
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ATM no, maybe my ideas are too kinky hahaha. But so far I have been having a great time attending socials, and met some really awesome people along the way. If that's all that I get out of this site, I'm happy with that.
Wouldn't mind meeting someone to date a long the way, be more fun exploring as part of a couple. Also think I'm gonna travel Abit, try a few clubs/meets in the UK or abroad. Maybe pdi in Oct. Just exploring and learning. |
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"I'm not really looking for anything specific on here. There are things that would be nice to find that I'm open to, but I'm not actively searching for them. I'm just letting things occur naturally.
When I first joined I simply wanted to find one fwb who didn't want a romantic relationship with me at that point. But I've gained so many new friends, made new connections, had amazing experiences and explored things about myself I didn't realise existed. So what I got was so much more than I had planned for.
That is such a nice way to put it, I had an fwb when I first joined didn't end well so I have been a bit hesitant about finding one again but, I think I am ready to try again now. You are so right about exploring and finding things out about yourself."
Joining fab definitely opened up my eyes to a lot of new experiences I would never have considered before, and I feel like quite a different person from the version of me that joined up 4 years ago. |
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"I've found various people and relationships on here, even love for those that believe such a thing exists.
I don't think it's a direct product of much energy one puts in to seeking, those things. There's a kind of optimal balance of discovery and engaging.
I try to be informed by my past, my present desires, but not defined rigidly by them.
I am not sure wasting my time, is the way I look at it. I think I can use my time ineffectually or non-optimally, but if I learn from that then it's not wasted time.
I’m take not of this. Needed to hear this today 💜"
You are very welcome. There's days I need to take note of it too. 💜 |
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I don't know how to answer this without it coming across as a tad convoluted...
I never once thought I was wasting my time because Fab has mostly 'delivered', but I have never found "exactly" what I'm looking for because I'm torn between what I want and what I need...and most of the time not knowing what I'm looking for!
Ideally what I'm looking for is proximity: someone close by and not a million miles away, as is always the case, with whom I can meet as often as possible, to bond with and develop closeness/feelings and synergy without falling into a relationship with emotional ties.
•Have I found what I'm looking for?• I find them often enough but distances and logistics work against me; their circumstances change, they leave, the come back, they are unsure what they desire and they wallow in ambivalence, my circumstances change and that affects them, calendars conflict, the stars sometimes misalign and so forth.
Essentially... it's the distance. That's the overarching spectre. |
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What I’m looking for changes frequently 😂
I was first looking for a FWB, have now found myself in a relationship with the most gorgeous man.
Then we went in search of single women
Then couples
Then single men
Sometimes we’d like to find someone regular. Other times just a brief club meet.
Who knows what’s next 🤣 |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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"I'm only here because they cancelled Jeremy Kyle
You mean the forums? Yeah I can see it..." Tonight at the Forum Fab Hour - is it gay if a woman watches gay men porn? Stay tuned to find out" "
It's full of could have been jk stars! |
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"Whilst being on Fab have any of you found exactly what you were looking for on here?Maybe you weren't looking for anything at the time but then found a connection with someone your really into?
Have you been lucky enough to find someone for the dynamic you specifically want such as a regular hook up,FWB etc or even just friendship and someone to hang our with?
Maybe even found love with someone special you met on here?
Or do you find your wasting your time and find it difficult to find what you are looking for on here?"
It took me a year to find a couple with whom to enjoy mmf threesomes and we were together for six years, until quite recently when they split up. So yes, I did find exactly what I was looking for but whether I'll be lucky again is a big question. |
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I've found boatloads of cheating males. It's become so easy to suss them out. They always think they're clever and one step ahead. But every cheating male has the same habitual habits, messaging patterns etc. My block list is crammed with them.
There's the odd good guy out there. But they're vastly outnumbered by dishonest losers who's partners deserve better. |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I’ve had some really lovely conversations on here with cuck couples, hotwives, and some incredibly classy, mature women – each with their own unique spark. While nothing’s quite materialised into a meet just yet, the potential and chemistry have definitely been there. |
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By *eliWoman 15 weeks ago
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I've never found exactly what I'm looking for because I've never looked. Actively, specifically, none of that.
People have come in to my life when I've been open to certain things, go for it and I'm so very glad they did. That's not to say everything has been a resounding success, far from it. I'm getting better at saying this isn't working for me. Slowly. And going with things when they do.
There are/have been certain people and everything clicks effortlessly. And I've found love. Been loved by people. Even loved/love a couple of them back. There's been romantic love, which is great for my soft heart. There's also been the nourishing love of real friendship.
I've never felt here was a waste of my time - right now I'm loving the experiences this site can bring. The anticipation of dates in the diary, of things to come. I wouldn't say I'm lucky. Rather fortunate, yes. |
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"Whilst being on Fab have any of you found exactly what you were looking for on here?Maybe you weren't looking for anything at the time but then found a connection with someone your really into?
Have you been lucky enough to find someone for the dynamic you specifically want such as a regular hook up,FWB etc or even just friendship and someone to hang our with?
Maybe even found love with someone special you met on here?
Or do you find your wasting your time and find it difficult to find what you are looking for on here?"
As a male I find it more than a challenge on here
Couples and females looking for females I think do better than men |
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I've found what we were looking for and a whole lot more besides. An exploration of a fantasy has turned into amazing friendships, a fuck load of incredible sex, scenarios I didn't even know I wanted. Not to mention finding love with another partner and my marriage with B being better than ever. Me from September 2021 would never have believed it. |
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