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By (user no longer on site) OP 11 weeks ago
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Would you be more inclined to do something sexually youve always wanted to with someone that you know will be a one off or with someone you have had or are in a relationship with
It is often said that we all have fantasies, what stops you acting on them, is it because you feel you may be rejected because of them or judged and therefore makes it easier if it was a one off? |
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By *eliWoman 11 weeks ago
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Someone I had/have a relationship with. I don't think I could relax enough with a stranger, the trust isn't there. It screams not a good idea and most of the time I'm preytg deaf to that kind of thing so it must be really bad.
I also know that with some people they wouldn't judge at all. It's safe and open. My fantasies/things I'd like to explore are often heavily influenced by the person I hope to do so with and that's enough reason. I wouldn't find it arousing with a stranger/random person. |
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"Someone I had/have a relationship with. I don't think I could relax enough with a stranger, the trust isn't there. It screams not a good idea and most of the time I'm preytg deaf to that kind of thing so it must be really bad.
I also know that with some people they wouldn't judge at all. It's safe and open. My fantasies/things I'd like to explore are often heavily influenced by the person I hope to do so with and that's enough reason. I wouldn't find it arousing with a stranger/random person."
Exactly this. I have opened up and explored so much with my fwb over the years. There's nobody that I would trust more than the person who knows me the best and talks to me about kinks and desires in detail. Can't ever second guess a stranger! |
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By *sWyldWoman 10 weeks ago
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I want trust and comfort with someone in order to be able to push boundaries.
I want to know that after whatever we indulge in , they will still want me and that I will be enough.
For instance if I ever had my MMF. I'd want just the two of us right after.
I guess it's a reclaim thing.
It's also those looks you can share, the silent, reassuring conversation during that let's you know you're both comfortable, both getting off on the situation and both still happy.
I think that's why pushing boundaries as a single can and has left me feeling a bit empty in the past . |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Someone I know.
I'm crap the first time I sleep with someone and just basic sex is an effort.
But then guys generally don't want me anymore after the first dismal attempt!
I think I do improve as time goes on though, more inclined to try other things. |
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