Always been curious if a lady can explain what she gets from this.
My fb/fwb is clearly wanting it, so of course she'll get what she wants. Costs me nothing - happy to oblige.
I've just never understood the pain/pleasure crossover there seems to be.
Anyone? |
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"Always been curious if a lady can explain what she gets from this.
My fb/fwb is clearly wanting it, so of course she'll get what she wants. Costs me nothing - happy to oblige.
I've just never understood the pain/pleasure crossover there seems to be.
Anyone?"
Financially may not cost you anything but don’t think there’s never a cost to it.
Aftercare is huge especially with any impact play so there is an emotional and psychological connection and if you’re not in the place to give that it could cost you the relationship
Oh and not just woman enjoy being spanked
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There are levels to spanking.
I'd only ever consider myself a spanking tourist.
I typically wouldn't settle in there and look for a long dedicated spanking session over someone's knee.
But I totally see the attraction for those who do seek it. It's very restorative and all the lovely words.
I'm sure others can describe it better than I ever could. |
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"Always been curious if a lady can explain what she gets from this.
My fb/fwb is clearly wanting it, so of course she'll get what she wants. Costs me nothing - happy to oblige.
I've just never understood the pain/pleasure crossover there seems to be.
Anyone?
Financially may not cost you anything but don’t think there’s never a cost to it.
Aftercare is huge especially with any impact play so there is an emotional and psychological connection and if you’re not in the place to give that it could cost you the relationship
Oh and not just woman enjoy being spanked
Just my thoughts "
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"There are levels to spanking.
I'd only ever consider myself a spanking tourist.
I typically wouldn't settle in there and look for a long dedicated spanking session over someone's knee.
But I totally see the attraction for those who do seek it. It's very restorative and all the lovely words.
I'm sure others can describe it better than I ever could."
You've made a good start. Thank you. I doubt my friend seeks anything extreme, but who knows...  |
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"There are levels to spanking.
I'd only ever consider myself a spanking tourist.
I typically wouldn't settle in there and look for a long dedicated spanking session over someone's knee.
But I totally see the attraction for those who do seek it. It's very restorative and all the lovely words.
I'm sure others can describe it better than I ever could.
You've made a good start. Thank you. I doubt my friend seeks anything extreme, but who knows... "
I'm sure you're well aware but worth repeating, talking it all out in detail is essential before you even think to start.
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"There are levels to spanking.
I'd only ever consider myself a spanking tourist.
I typically wouldn't settle in there and look for a long dedicated spanking session over someone's knee.
But I totally see the attraction for those who do seek it. It's very restorative and all the lovely words.
I'm sure others can describe it better than I ever could.
You've made a good start. Thank you. I doubt my friend seeks anything extreme, but who knows...
I'm sure you're well aware but worth repeating, talking it all out in detail is essential before you even think to start.
Enjoy!"
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Impact play is very different for different people. For some it’s a small tap. For others a deep bruise. And everything in between
Make sure you listen to the person. Have pre set limits so these are not broken by either of you getting carried away in the moment |
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"Impact play is very different for different people. For some it’s a small tap. For others a deep bruise. And everything in between
Make sure you listen to the person. Have pre set limits so these are not broken by either of you getting carried away in the moment "
No chance of that - its not my thing. Wi |
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A little research goes a long way.
Look into the chemical effect of things like spanking has on the brain.
Look into the effects of a state called subspace, it may or may not happen, however the first time I put someone into subspace space, it scared the shit out of me.
I would suggest searching the net for techniques, things like laying on, laying off and going through, these all have different effects.
Flat palm and cupped palm.
Once you are confident, mix it up
Learn where is ok to spank and where isn't.
Learn where the sweet spot is, some have been known to cum from impact there.
Be prepared for different emotional responses, and provide the appropriate aftercare
Negotiate a safety system, either traffic light or numbers
But, and I can't emphasise this strongly enough talk to you partner first, discuss what is acceptable and what isn't.
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"A little research goes a long way.
Look into the chemical effect of things like spanking has on the brain.
Look into the effects of a state called subspace, it may or may not happen, however the first time I put someone into subspace space, it scared the shit out of me.
I would suggest searching the net for techniques, things like laying on, laying off and going through, these all have different effects.
Flat palm and cupped palm.
Once you are confident, mix it up
Learn where is ok to spank and where isn't.
Learn where the sweet spot is, some have been known to cum from impact there.
Be prepared for different emotional responses, and provide the appropriate aftercare
Negotiate a safety system, either traffic light or numbers
But, and I can't emphasise this strongly enough talk to you partner first, discuss what is acceptable and what isn't.
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Turning me on just reading this 🙈
🙃 clearly I need a holiday more than I thought. |
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"A little research goes a long way.
Look into the chemical effect of things like spanking has on the brain.
Look into the effects of a state called subspace, it may or may not happen, however the first time I put someone into subspace space, it scared the shit out of me.
I would suggest searching the net for techniques, things like laying on, laying off and going through, these all have different effects.
Flat palm and cupped palm.
Once you are confident, mix it up
Learn where is ok to spank and where isn't.
Learn where the sweet spot is, some have been known to cum from impact there.
Be prepared for different emotional responses, and provide the appropriate aftercare
Negotiate a safety system, either traffic light or numbers
But, and I can't emphasise this strongly enough talk to you partner first, discuss what is acceptable and what isn't.
Turning me on just reading this 🙈
🙃 clearly I need a holiday more than I thought."
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I like to spank but it’s nothing to do with pain really, it’s really good for setting up a dynamic and can massively engage a parter. Asking her questions while punishing/rewarding.
Honestly don’t be surprised if she doesn’t want pain at all it might be more about the act of going over the knee and talking through what she wants that night. Vulnerability might be the turn on.
Good luck 🤞 |
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"I like to spank but it’s nothing to do with pain really, it’s really good for setting up a dynamic and can massively engage a parter. Asking her questions while punishing/rewarding.
Honestly don’t be surprised if she doesn’t want pain at all it might be more about the act of going over the knee and talking through what she wants that night. Vulnerability might be the turn on.
Good luck 🤞 "
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"I like to spank but it’s nothing to do with pain really, it’s really good for setting up a dynamic and can massively engage a parter. Asking her questions while punishing/rewarding.
Honestly don’t be surprised if she doesn’t want pain at all it might be more about the act of going over the knee and talking through what she wants that night. Vulnerability might be the turn on.
Good luck 🤞
Thank you"
It’s way more nuanced than you would maybe think, if it is a pain thing though I would deffo take the advice posted above. |
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