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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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Hey all,
I’m hoping for some advice from more experienced members. When I message someone, I always take the time to fully read their profile and write a message tailored specifically to them, no copy-paste stuff. I keep it respectful, friendly, and direct. Despite that, most of the time I get ghosted. And when I do get a reply and respond back, I’ve sometimes been blocked with no explanation.
I’m genuinely trying to approach people the right way, but clearly I’m missing something. Has anyone else gone through this? Any tips or perspective on what might help or what I might be doing wrong would be really appreciated.
Thanks in advance!
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By *WANDTGCouple 9 weeks ago
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I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times ! |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !"
I didn’t see the part when I joined where I had to justify my reason for being here
I’ll check the small print |
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !"
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But was relevance does that have to the OP's thread? 🤔 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !"
I get where you’re coming from—there are definitely people who fit that stereotype. But for me, it’s not about chasing an easy option or avoiding relationships. I’m here because I’m open-minded, respectful, and genuinely interested in connecting with people who share a similar mindset, whatever form that takes.
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !"
I don't get why couples are on here tbh. They should be sat in their pjs watching coronation street.
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By *WANDTGCouple 9 weeks ago
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !
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Relevance being we see these messages Day in day out, if they aren't getting success on here maybe try elsewhere. That's all I'm alluding to.
But was relevance does that have to the OP's thread? 🤔"
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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If I was a single male, I wouldn't even read the profiles. They won't reply unless they are attracted to you anyway, just be you (hopefully with a little humour).
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By *WANDTGCouple 9 weeks ago
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !
I don't get why couples are on here tbh. They should be sat in their pjs watching coronation street.
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I hate all soaps, if there's anything else you can recommend, I'm all ears, who wears pajamas in this day and age . Hahaha |
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By *og-ManMan 9 weeks ago
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Apart from the fact you're one of hundreds of men or messages you also have the problem of your age being against you
Nothing you can do about that
Not sure about clubs or socials in The UK but in Ireland socials are the best way to get started and not messages |
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By *WANDTGCouple 9 weeks ago
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times ! I get where you’re coming from—there are definitely people who fit that stereotype. But for me, it’s not about chasing an easy option or avoiding relationships. I’m here because I’m open-minded, respectful, and genuinely interested in connecting with people who share a similar mindset, whatever form that takes."
Wasn't a personal swipe, more a generic observation on what's put on the forums. I just see people moaning about not getting interaction , so if it's failing why not try a different means. That's all. |
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !"
Maybe they've discovered the swinging lifestyle and are keen to experience it for themselves and see Fab as a way of exploring their desires in an open and non judgemental environment.
Unfortunately there's quite a few who can't help being judgemental and think everyone should conform to their own criteria. |
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !
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Relevance being we see these messages Day in day out, if they aren't getting success on here maybe try elsewhere. That's all I'm alluding to.
But was relevance does that have to the OP's thread? 🤔"
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Don't let it concern yourself. I also see the same threads, day in / day out, but it's not necessarily from the same people. Until there's an "FAQ for unsuccessful males" these hackneyed threads will prevail. Understandably. |
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times ! I get where you’re coming from—there are definitely people who fit that stereotype. But for me, it’s not about chasing an easy option or avoiding relationships. I’m here because I’m open-minded, respectful, and genuinely interested in connecting with people who share a similar mindset, whatever form that takes.
Wasn't a personal swipe, more a generic observation on what's put on the forums. I just see people moaning about not getting interaction , so if it's failing why not try a different means. That's all. "
Who says they're not doing both? I am 
But as the above said, I really enjoy the hot wife dynamic, chances of finding that in your local pub are vastly smaller than on here, even if the message success rate is comically low because of supply and demand x |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"I always wonder why single blokes are on here, why aren't they chasing skirt in pubs or on dating apps. Maybe they think it's a fee fuck without the complications of a relationship. Especially the discreet ones who can only meet at certain times !
Maybe they've discovered the swinging lifestyle and are keen to experience it for themselves and see Fab as a way of exploring their desires in an open and non judgemental environment.
Unfortunately there's quite a few who can't help being judgemental and think everyone should conform to their own criteria."
Same as the thread last night where someone commented that if you’re married or a couple you don’t love each other as if you did you wouldn’t swing (pretty much paraphrasing)
I don’t see the need for people to judge other people’s life choices. Get on and live your own life
So I totally agree with what you said |
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You are doing nothing wrong but the % of males both single and pretending to be so ( their updates tend to give the game away) compared to the % of us couples who actually do meet you ( without expecting stuff in return or jumping through hoops) and then the % of males as already has been said who think the likes of Mrs4 is gagging for it 24/7 and so a very easy lay with zero effort is amazing ? despite what they might say so basically you will find it very hard going to say the least but try to go to afew social events ? and like us most couples do try very hard not to judge despite the above but that's the cold hard facts of being on here but we inundated with messages from males ? so best of luck xxx  |
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"Hey all,
I’m hoping for some advice from more experienced members. When I message someone, I always take the time to fully read their profile and write a message tailored specifically to them, no copy-paste stuff. I keep it respectful, friendly, and direct. Despite that, most of the time I get ghosted. And when I do get a reply and respond back, I’ve sometimes been blocked with no explanation.
I’m genuinely trying to approach people the right way,
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And you are. Keep being yourself pal, and you’ll be alright.
It frustrating when you try to talk with someone, but those that ignore you are obviously not your type of person anyway. That’s how I see it.
Move on to better things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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"Hey all,
I’m hoping for some advice from more experienced members. When I message someone, I always take the time to fully read their profile and write a message tailored specifically to them, no copy-paste stuff. I keep it respectful, friendly, and direct. Despite that, most of the time I get ghosted. And when I do get a reply and respond back, I’ve sometimes been blocked with no explanation.
I’m genuinely trying to approach people the right way,
And you are. Keep being yourself pal, and you’ll be alright.
It frustrating when you try to talk with someone, but those that ignore you are obviously not your type of person anyway. That’s how I see it.
Move on to better things. "
Cheers, mate, that means a lot. You’re right, no point stressing over people who aren’t a good fit anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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"Hi OP, I don't see anything wrong with your profile as such.......Your pics are Fab & I like your bio but what might put some people off is your age preference 18-99......"
thank you I think didn't change that since the start will update it, if that's looked at too.  |
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What do you expect? Most people are not mutually compatible. It's only realistic expectations that you have, if you based them on that.
No reply= no thanks, because you're not in the tiny minority who are mutually compatible |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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"What do you expect? Most people are not mutually compatible. It's only realistic expectations that you have, if you based them on that.
No reply= no thanks, because you're not in the tiny minority who are mutually compatible "
I understand what you said no reply= no thanks. I get that. But i had asked why talk and then ghost what's the point of that, I get they're not interested so just say so. Anyways just wanted to ask the forum if there is any shortfall on my behalf. Apologies if this forum post was inappropriate as I gathered from some responses that it might be |
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"What do you expect? Most people are not mutually compatible. It's only realistic expectations that you have, if you based them on that.
No reply= no thanks, because you're not in the tiny minority who are mutually compatible
I understand what you said no reply= no thanks. I get that. But i had asked why talk and then ghost what's the point of that, I get they're not interested so just say so. Anyways just wanted to ask the forum if there is any shortfall on my behalf. Apologies if this forum post was inappropriate as I gathered from some responses that it might be "
You have made the cardinal error of asking a forbidden question and being male.
How very dare you!
Also don't worry. Most messages by most people are ignored by most people. Nm |
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