FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > How social are you?
How social are you?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *rHotNotts OP Man 8 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
In your typical week how many evenings are you with people either sexually or socially? And how many do you like to keep or just you a bit of solitude?
I guess if you have a partner and or children living with you, it’s kind of different and you crave a bit of solitude probably? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *vaRoseWoman 8 weeks ago
Ankh-Morpork |
Sexually once a fortnight on average
Socially, I visit friends or see friends a couple of times a week
I have a husband and kids but that’s not the only reason I like alone time. I’m a bit of a loner and I’m happy to just chill in my own company |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It really does depend, I can be very social or I'm more than happy to be alone. I'm never alone for long though, but I work away, so get 3 weeks off at a time with nothing really planned during the days, so I get my me time then. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How social are you - In your typical week how many evenings are you with people either sexually or socially? And how many do you like to keep or just you a bit of solitude?
I guess if you have a partner and or children living with you, it’s kind of different and you crave a bit of solitude probably? "
I socialise daily, sometimes I enjoy it, sometimes people just do my bloody head in because they drain you of your niceness, you try to be everything to everyone but it's so tiring
Sexually, I'm married and lucky enough to have a BF too
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rHotNotts OP Man 8 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"How social are you - In your typical week how many evenings are you with people either sexually or socially? And how many do you like to keep or just you a bit of solitude?
I guess if you have a partner and or children living with you, it’s kind of different and you crave a bit of solitude probably?
I socialise daily, sometimes I enjoy it, sometimes people just do my bloody head in because they drain you of your niceness, you try to be everything to everyone but it's so tiring
Sexually, I'm married and lucky enough to have a BF too
"
Some people are so draining, aren’t they…. I have a friend that would happily meet me every week for lunch, but I’ve decided I can only really manage twice a month. I feel a bit bad because she’s recently become single and has admitted to me she is lonely but it
drains me so much I need a couple of days after to recover  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"How social are you - In your typical week how many evenings are you with people either sexually or socially? And how many do you like to keep or just you a bit of solitude?
I guess if you have a partner and or children living with you, it’s kind of different and you crave a bit of solitude probably?
I socialise daily, sometimes I enjoy it, sometimes people just do my bloody head in because they drain you of your niceness, you try to be everything to everyone but it's so tiring
Sexually, I'm married and lucky enough to have a BF too
Some people are so draining, aren’t they…. I have a friend that would happily meet me every week for lunch, but I’ve decided I can only really manage twice a month. I feel a bit bad because she’s recently become single and has admitted to me she is lonely but it
drains me so much I need a couple of days after to recover "
Peopling is hard work and you have to be in the mood to people
I'm the friendliest misanthropist ever! 😂 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rHotNotts OP Man 8 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Zero evenings unless we're on holiday.
During the day between zero and three times a week."
I would’ve thought it would be higher for someone retired? Is this by choice you enjoy not being over sociable? Since I stopped working, everyone thinks I have so much free time and I am feeling more burned out than when I was in a high pressure global role |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I often go out of an evening, but having only coupled up friends locally who either won't leave their partners, or 'have work tomorrow' (hello, so do I!!), my forays out are often on my own - to cinema, theatre or gigs.
I've challenged myself to get to more group socials - despite my social anxiety - in the hope I can improve my lack of fun friends! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My social life is very sparse, usually just things like cinema or eating out alone.
Most of my friends live 100+ miles away so don't see them often.
One of the reasons I joined fabs was to find new local open minded friends to enjoy all sorts of stuff with.
I really should start attending some fab socials. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Not something I do at all. I'm up at 4.45 every single day including weekends and holidays and it's over an hour's commute to work each day.
By the time I get home I don't want to be social and just need my own space.
At weekends, if I'm not working, I have a group of friends I go hiking with and a couple of times a year we'll meet up for a meal.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *a LunaWoman 8 weeks ago
o o OO o o |
I’m not socialable at all these days. I was a bit of a clubber back in the day, I think I socialised myself out!
I’m happiest with my family and my dogs. If that makes me weird then I’m ok with that. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Take chats at work out of it... I'm barely social, I'd like to be but my friends are 30 plus miles away (we talk on the phone and message) and it's hard to find new people to be social with on your own |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Zero evenings unless we're on holiday.
During the day between zero and three times a week.
I would’ve thought it would be higher for someone retired? Is this by choice you enjoy not being over sociable? Since I stopped working, everyone thinks I have so much free time and I am feeling more burned out than when I was in a high pressure global role"
Partly because we enjoy not being over sociable and partly because we have found it difficult to find people who we get along with since we moved. We don't stay at home twiddling our thumbs we're out and about regularly.
We also have family responsibilities that mean we quite enjoy peace and quiet in our down time. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
For someone with social anxiety, I love socialising. I just don't often get to.
I spend my daytime getting terrorised by our threenager. Then the other kids come home, we do "family stuff." Then my favourite time of day is chilling in bed with Mr.DS, chatting and watching our tv shows or Youtube.
I was seeing my fwb twice a month for a few months but that's not been possible this month. My hometown friends aren't social anymore. The only one of my best friends who wants to spend time with me lives hundreds of miles away.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ookie46Woman 8 weeks ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
Some weeks I can be super busy with kids, friends, work events etc then other weeks I quite enjoy doing nothing
Lots of people have socially wanted a piece of me lately for all the right reasons and I’m grateful but at times I just need to rest
Most people I know would describe me as a social butterfly 🦋 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Just socially, I pop into my local nearly every day, if I’m on the beer I’m socialising but when I’m off the beer I still calling to meet up with friends and I’m always bumping into people when out walking, not literally although I am blind, but a great town for being Social |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I like to chill is the best way to describe, as a default state. I like people who get in that chill bubble together.
I enjoy conversation and doing stuff, but I am not a fan of organised fun or activity groups. A touch of spontaneity is where it's at for me. How will everyone know, what we are in the mood for at the time? So what we do is more loose plans that are subject to change, see how we feel. We arrange to hangout, there's no pressure, if we want to it will happen.
If Friday is laid out for me 4 weeks in advance with an optimised schedule, it starts to feel like a chore.
I'm social, but if I'm not feeling it, my brain will check out and go into solitude mode in the middle of a gig stood in a field at a festival. If I try to do small talk, it just comes out as sarcasm, which certain friends appreciate, but it's definitely not for everyone. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *abba44Man 8 weeks ago
Broadstairs |
I’m lucky to have a great friend who is also my golf partner he has helped me get through a difficult time when I became a widower.
And it wasn’t because I helped him through a tough time with his prostate cancer, he just a great guy.
I now have a new lady who has become my friend and she helps me laugh at the world and supports me in the way I am. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"In your typical week how many evenings are you with people either sexually or socially? And how many do you like to keep or just you a bit of solitude?
I guess if you have a partner and or children living with you, it’s kind of different and you crave a bit of solitude probably? "
We go out together once or twice a week, sexually we look for a meet maybe twice a week but between ourselves we have sex maybe 3 times a week and I give me oral only the other days |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I am very social, particularly right now when I'm coming out of a withdrawn spell.
In an average week lately I will be out for dinner with friends maybe two or three evenings, family once, at the moment I meet up for sex maybe once a week, sometimes twice depending how much energy I have.
It's rare for me to spend more than two evenings alone in a week at present. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I might socialise in person a few times a year. Every 3 months or so at a rough guess. Feels about right for me.
I think before lockdowns, it was once a month, but everyone kind of got used to staying at home and after lockdown things didn't "spring back" the way they were before. To be fair, I haven't missed it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
During the week, none. Outside of my immediate family anyway. I'm a bit more sociable on the weekends but even then it's a small closed group. There's few people I like enough to actively spend my free time with. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
