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Not for me now, if someone isn’t interested, I tend to stop thinking about them. But I think if someone is over keen it can make me less interested and if they are not just a pushover, it has made me chase a bit regrettably in the past. I think it’s just more fun when it’s not easy. |
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By *eliWoman 8 weeks ago
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I don't really find the whole game playing around it attractive. Like if someone is interested in me, great, if they're doing that weird "oh I don't like anyone" dismissive attitude it's so painfully clichéd I dry up instantly.
I don't like people chasing and respect people who don't.
People who are in the middle are great.  |
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"I don't really find the whole game playing around it attractive. Like if someone is interested in me, great, if they're doing that weird "oh I don't like anyone" dismissive attitude it's so painfully clichéd I dry up instantly.
I don't like people chasing and respect people who don't.
People who are in the middle are great. "
Happy medium is good😏 |
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"I don't really find the whole game playing around it attractive. Like if someone is interested in me, great, if they're doing that weird "oh I don't like anyone" dismissive attitude it's so painfully clichéd I dry up instantly.
I don't like people chasing and respect people who don't.
People who are in the middle are great. "
I agree and find those that like being chased are less likely to meet as it is the proverbial thrill of the chase and often then seek it elsewhere
Just my thoughts |
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I can't be bothered with that. I move on. Match the effort and enthusiasm or it's a turn off. And it's typically permanent. No coming back from folk who can't build up the anticipation.
Hot/cold is pants |
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By *eliWoman 8 weeks ago
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"Girl, people don’t like me. If someone didn’t like me it would just be standard  "
Nooo, the OP doesn't mean that.
Say you're a person who is used to people falling at their feet (pussy power) and then one day, someone doesn't fall at your feet. They fancy you, they like you but it doesn't mean they'll be blowing smoke up your arse. They challenge you but not in a game way. I think that's what she means. |
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You can’t help liking someone, if someone knows how, please tell me!
I also don’t fall for chasing the unattainable, it’s wasted energy when it begins to feel like prick teasing and leading you down a merry path. So I turn down my enthusiasm of anything leading somewhere, as it normally doesn’t.
In the rare occasions where I do fancy someone I feel isn’t interested and they are still cool about things, I might still be open to chatting them up now and then, to let them know I actually DO really like them.
These are the rules I play with. Haha.
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"Girl, people don’t like me. If someone didn’t like me it would just be standard
Nooo, the OP doesn't mean that.
Say you're a person who is used to people falling at their feet (pussy power) and then one day, someone doesn't fall at your feet. They fancy you, they like you but it doesn't mean they'll be blowing smoke up your arse. They challenge you but not in a game way. I think that's what she means."
Oh.
My answer is still nah. |
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"My default is to assume people don't like me, so no, I'm never in that 'I want it more cos of the challenge' state of mind.
If it was a challenge and I was up for it, I’d win.  "
You could seduce a lamp post if you were feeling competitive enough? |
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If we both like each other and that power struggle is constantly ongoing I’d get bored and fade away. I don’t chase, I’d need something and I prefer when communication is upfront so as not to play games/waste one another’s time. If energy is not matched I’m offski 🍭 |
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"My default is to assume people don't like me, so no, I'm never in that 'I want it more cos of the challenge' state of mind.
If it was a challenge and I was up for it, I’d win.
You could seduce a lamp post if you were feeling competitive enough? "
“You watch me turn this thing on  “
Haha.
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"If we both like each other and that power struggle is constantly ongoing I’d get bored and fade away. I don’t chase, I’d need something and I prefer when communication is upfront so as not to play games/waste one another’s time. If energy is not matched I’m offski 🍭"
Very good point 😊
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"Is this a thing for people?
I’m not even talking married or anything.. I’m talking you’re so used to everyone else wanting you.. when someone isn’t as keen.. you want them more.. COME HERE YOU 🥵🤣"
Is this like a double bluff thing |
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"Girl, people don’t like me. If someone didn’t like me it would just be standard
Nooo, the OP doesn't mean that.
Say you're a person who is used to people falling at their feet (pussy power) and then one day, someone doesn't fall at your feet. They fancy you, they like you but it doesn't mean they'll be blowing smoke up your arse. They challenge you but not in a game way. I think that's what she means."
I’m not sure she does because she says want what you can’t have in the title.
What you’re describing is very normal. Some people are more cautious and not just a pushover. I guess it’s different for women where a lot of men are constantly saying they will do anything to meet them but for a guy when a woman comes across as a little bit more cautious or just wanting to take it more slowly it’s quite attractive. |
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"Girl, people don’t like me. If someone didn’t like me it would just be standard
Nooo, the OP doesn't mean that.
Say you're a person who is used to people falling at their feet (pussy power) and then one day, someone doesn't fall at your feet. They fancy you, they like you but it doesn't mean they'll be blowing smoke up your arse. They challenge you but not in a game way. I think that's what she means.
I’m not sure she does because she says want what you can’t have in the title.
What you’re describing is very normal. Some people are more cautious and not just a pushover. I guess it’s different for women where a lot of men are constantly saying they will do anything to meet them but for a guy when a woman comes across as a little bit more cautious or just wanting to take it more slowly it’s quite attractive."
Meli has my deeper meaning down to a tee.
The title was tongue in cheek, it covers a broad area of things I think |
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By *eliWoman 8 weeks ago
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"Girl, people don’t like me. If someone didn’t like me it would just be standard
Nooo, the OP doesn't mean that.
Say you're a person who is used to people falling at their feet (pussy power) and then one day, someone doesn't fall at your feet. They fancy you, they like you but it doesn't mean they'll be blowing smoke up your arse. They challenge you but not in a game way. I think that's what she means.
I’m not sure she does because she says want what you can’t have in the title.
What you’re describing is very normal. Some people are more cautious and not just a pushover. I guess it’s different for women where a lot of men are constantly saying they will do anything to meet them but for a guy when a woman comes across as a little bit more cautious or just wanting to take it more slowly it’s quite attractive.
Meli has my deeper meaning down to a tee.
The title was tongue in cheek, it covers a broad area of things I think"
Fuck yeah.
(Sorry Notts)
I do know the attractiveness of someone not rushing in to things. I like when people aren't pushy, cautious. Suppose that's because it's how I am. Talk to people for months, decide to meet them. Maybe something more happens. It's taken me years before. |
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I get it.
It's easy to become complacent when women just fall at your feet. Then one day this woman just walks past me all nonchalant and doesn't even spare me a glance?
I want her. She's hot because she has power |
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣"
But what if you're all 'She-ra he WILL bow to my sexy ways and feminine whiles!!' And he does shag you eventually... but underneath it all he truly doesn't fancy you much and they just went with the flow coz you were firing easy pussy at them... bit shit when you realise it if you're just an interchangeable hole to them 🤔
I think it's better to read the room and keep moving on to those who match your interest😈 |
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣
But what if you're all 'She-ra he WILL bow to my sexy ways and feminine whiles!!' And he does shag you eventually... but underneath it all he truly doesn't fancy you much and they just went with the flow coz you were firing easy pussy at them... bit shit when you realise it if you're just an interchangeable hole to them 🤔
I think it's better to read the room and keep moving on to those who match your interest😈"
‘Easy pussy’ isn’t the aim of the game. You can make someone want you without giving them that. It’s all in the mind 😇 |
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"Is this a thing for people?
I’m not even talking married or anything.. I’m talking you’re so used to everyone else wanting you.. when someone isn’t as keen.. you want them more.. COME HERE YOU 🥵🤣"
This actually happens to people?.... Eye opener 🥪 |
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣
But what if you're all 'She-ra he WILL bow to my sexy ways and feminine whiles!!' And he does shag you eventually... but underneath it all he truly doesn't fancy you much and they just went with the flow coz you were firing easy pussy at them... bit shit when you realise it if you're just an interchangeable hole to them 🤔
I think it's better to read the room and keep moving on to those who match your interest😈
‘Easy pussy’ isn’t the aim of the game. You can make someone want you without giving them that. It’s all in the mind 😇"
So you're trying to reel them in? You only want to make them want you but you don't want to fk them? |
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣
Aloofness is very attractive though. Someone fawning over you isn't.
If you say so 🥪"
Luckily you have your fan club 🤣
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"*googles rejection complex*"
Is this what you're dealing with?
Google says:
Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), often called a "rejection complex," is an intense emotional sensitivity to criticism or rejection, often experienced as an overwhelming feeling of pain or discomfort. It's not a formally recognized diagnosis, but it's a term used to describe the heightened sensitivity to rejection experienced by some individuals, particularly those with ADHD or autism. |
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"*googles rejection complex*
Is this what you're dealing with?
Google says:
Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), often called a "rejection complex," is an intense emotional sensitivity to criticism or rejection, often experienced as an overwhelming feeling of pain or discomfort. It's not a formally recognized diagnosis, but it's a term used to describe the heightened sensitivity to rejection experienced by some individuals, particularly those with ADHD or autism. "
It was a joke🤣🤣 |
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣
Aloofness is very attractive though. Someone fawning over you isn't.
If you say so 🥪
Luckily you have your fan club 🤣
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and it's full, sorry, 🥪 |
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣
Aloofness is very attractive though. Someone fawning over you isn't.
If you say so 🥪
Luckily you have your fan club 🤣
and it's full, sorry, 🥪"
Oh. You’re the butty man? |
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"*googles rejection complex*
Is this what you're dealing with?
Google says:
Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), often called a "rejection complex," is an intense emotional sensitivity to criticism or rejection, often experienced as an overwhelming feeling of pain or discomfort. It's not a formally recognized diagnosis, but it's a term used to describe the heightened sensitivity to rejection experienced by some individuals, particularly those with ADHD or autism. "
I’d say if you’re reasonably smart and half decent looking, don’t have a big nose or a wonky eye, etc , it’s pretty normal to get what you want, especially if you try hard but at some point as your age you’re gonna have to get used to not getting what you want all the time because they will be younger smarter more sexy people than you taking the li_elight.
I’ve even noticed it happening to me just lately it’s bloody depressing |
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"Is this a thing for people?
I’m not even talking married or anything.. I’m talking you’re so used to everyone else wanting you.. when someone isn’t as keen.. you want them more.. COME HERE YOU 🥵🤣"
I want you. I doubt it's on the cards though. |
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"*googles rejection complex*
Is this what you're dealing with?
Google says:
Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), often called a "rejection complex," is an intense emotional sensitivity to criticism or rejection, often experienced as an overwhelming feeling of pain or discomfort. It's not a formally recognized diagnosis, but it's a term used to describe the heightened sensitivity to rejection experienced by some individuals, particularly those with ADHD or autism.
It was a joke🤣🤣"
Ahh fair enough.
I was thinking it would be a tough gig on fab with that going on 😁 |
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣
Aloofness is very attractive though. Someone fawning over you isn't.
If you say so 🥪
Luckily you have your fan club 🤣
and it's full, sorry, 🥪
Oh. You’re the butty man? "
You have a nice butt, can there be 2 butt men?
Or does that cause celestial nashing of teeth? |
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣
Aloofness is very attractive though. Someone fawning over you isn't.
If you say so 🥪
Luckily you have your fan club 🤣
and it's full, sorry, 🥪"
That'll get you brownie points! |
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By *edSirenWoman 8 weeks ago
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"Is this a thing for people?
I’m not even talking married or anything.. I’m talking you’re so used to everyone else wanting you.. when someone isn’t as keen.. you want them more.. COME HERE YOU 🥵🤣"
Nah, not so much. Disinterest isn’t appealing to me in the slightest. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want them proclaiming undying love/lust for me either. But I’m not interested in someone if I’m not their type. I’ll just politely salivate over their sexy asses and respectfully leave it at that 🤷🏻♀️😅 |
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"Grown ass people playing games like they're teenagers...do people actually have time for these "I want you, I don't want you / push-pull" type of nonsense?"
Instead of grown ass lions? Sea lions? |
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By *aizyWoman 8 weeks ago
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"I generally get what I want 🤷🏻♀️
This is my mentality.🤣
Aloofness is very attractive though. Someone fawning over you isn't.
If you say so 🥪
Luckily you have your fan club 🤣
and it's full, sorry, 🥪
That'll get you brownie points! "
Are you ready for your 🥪 fan club badge yet, Raven? |
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By *a LunaWoman 8 weeks ago
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"I prefer aloofness to keenness. But not the red flag waving kind of aloofness.
That said, I’m pretty aloof too. 🤦🏻♀️😁
So whichever way it goes, it’s hard work!
You are hard work"
You typed that out loud Stephen! |
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"I prefer aloofness to keenness. But not the red flag waving kind of aloofness.
That said, I’m pretty aloof too. 🤦🏻♀️😁
So whichever way it goes, it’s hard work!
You are hard work
You typed that out loud Stephen! "
Oh fuck.
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An esteemed associate once said to me, if she teases then it's because I'm going to get it, she just wants to see me squirm till I'm feral first.
I like that kind of torment. The longing for something I can never have, that passes very quickly. |
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"An esteemed associate once said to me, if she teases then it's because I'm going to get it, she just wants to see me squirm till I'm feral first.
I like that kind of torment. The longing for something I can never have, that passes very quickly."
^^^This is hot af. I love building anticipation 😈 |
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"If someone makes it clear they aren't interested in me my brain closes off my feelings for them.
To expand on this: My long term partner of 15 years doesn't want a relationship. I knew that when we met, so, my brain doesn't go there. It keeps us as just sex.
I can still think of men I'd have liked to have got naked with without feel sad, upset, or pine for them."
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"An esteemed associate once said to me, if she teases then it's because I'm going to get it, she just wants to see me squirm till I'm feral first.
I like that kind of torment. The longing for something I can never have, that passes very quickly.
^^^This is hot af. I love building anticipation 😈"
You are welcome to practice your craft on me.  |
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By *agic.MMan 8 weeks ago
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"Grown ass people playing games like they're teenagers...do people actually have time for these "I want you, I don't want you / push-pull" type of nonsense?
Hey M… I want you 😉"
See..that's all it takes 😁 ...no time be wasting...Let's do this !😜 |
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By *edSirenWoman 8 weeks ago
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"Grown ass people playing games like they're teenagers...do people actually have time for these "I want you, I don't want you / push-pull" type of nonsense?
Hey M… I want you 😉
Smooth girl😏"
Why thank you 😎 you know I’d have you too 😘 |
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By *edSirenWoman 8 weeks ago
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"Grown ass people playing games like they're teenagers...do people actually have time for these "I want you, I don't want you / push-pull" type of nonsense?
Hey M… I want you 😉
See..that's all it takes 😁 ...no time be wasting...Let's do this !😜"
😁 be round in 10 yeah 😉 |
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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"Is this a thing for people?
I’m not even talking married or anything.. I’m talking you’re so used to everyone else wanting you.. when someone isn’t as keen.. you want them more.. COME HERE YOU 🥵🤣"
Defo a girl thing lol
Defo a girl thing |
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"Is this a thing for people?
I’m not even talking married or anything.. I’m talking you’re so used to everyone else wanting you.. when someone isn’t as keen.. you want them more.. COME HERE YOU 🥵🤣
Nah, not so much. Disinterest isn’t appealing to me in the slightest. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want them proclaiming undying love/lust for me either. But I’m not interested in someone if I’m not their type. I’ll just politely salivate over their sexy asses and respectfully leave it at that 🤷🏻♀️😅"
I get what you mean, you want there to be that mutual interest because otherwise, it can seem a little cringey if the flirting isn't reciprocated when you're trying to get their attention. That being said, don't dehydrate yourself salivating over my ass 😜 |
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