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I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. |
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Probably the easiest way is to get one of your existing play partners and work together to find the third that you are both comfortable with.
Works best when everyone already knows each other. |
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I imagine if you need an emotional attachment to both me men then your only option is to find two fwbs or a partner that have an existing interest in this…preferably experience to enhance your experience and not worry if they will like the reality as much as the idea.
I have explored mmf quite a lot with a partner but as long as we had our emotional connection we didn’t need it with the third person. In that scenario it was very easy to organise on fab and we met some great guys to join us after social and attraction checks.
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I usually ask a guy that I know to pick somebody to join us. The guy that I know will pick someone he gets on with and he will protect me and make sure I am okay.
In short, I need to know and trust the primary guy. |
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. "
I have the same desire and have pondered the exact same things 😂 so I'm bookmarking this! |
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. "
Message a guy. Say ‘I like the look of you, bring a friend’. Kinda just goes from there really 🤷🏻 |
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There's a few profiles on here that are guy mates that actively look for mmf with single women.
Personal I'd love to find a guy to team up with for this, it's hard to find bi guys that are happy too for some reason , at least that's what I've found.
The WhatsApp group thing sounds like a good idea though |
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This isn’t relevant if it’s bi mmf…
But if you want the best experience with straight mfm in my experience you need guys that are comfortable having a lot of bodily contact with each other….some of the best mfm activities require a lot of entwined bodies |
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. "
I think if you put that on your profile you would be inundated with offers, I think you are overthinking it.
As others have said do it with a couple of fwb’s if you need that emotional pull, having said that there are quite a few MM couples on here that look for single women so at least they have experience |
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"I've been trying to persuade my partners to set up an MM account for this. I think they'd be popular. As long as they still made time for me! 😂"
I wasn’t expecting a ‘my partners would be great for this’ comment 😂 |
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"I've been trying to persuade my partners to set up an MM account for this. I think they'd be popular. As long as they still made time for me! 😂
I wasn’t expecting a ‘my partners would be great for this’ comment 😂"
Poly strikes again!!!! |
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"Can you not speak to two men you have met in the past and maybe create a what’s app group for 3 way chat ?
Most of us don’t really have a problem with it as long as it’s not bi compulsory."
I love how optimistic you are that previous partners and I still get on 😬 |
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It's worth considering everyone's experience level
My first mfm was with a couple and it was all of our first time. It was awkward AF and we all laughed a lot. We are still very good friends over a year later.
So I would say pick very easy going guys who won't mind dicks not getting hard if they've never had to kneel on another guys legs before or pick guys who know the craic and are game for anything. |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. "
First thing I'm thinking even before reading anyone else's comments.
Consider your safety. Only chose people you trust and make sure you have someone on hand (obviously doesn't have to be in the room) to support you, should you need it or should you suddenly feel uncomfortable.
Then I'd say, the world is your oyster in here and you'll have queues of men willing to take you up on it.
But having only experienced a few, I'll defer to others for how to expect the evening to flow out egos etc.
But if it's for you. You be a little selfish and ensure whoever you choose knows this is about you. Xxx
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First thing I'm thinking even before reading anyone else's comments.
Consider your safety. Only chose people you trust and make sure you have someone on hand (obviously doesn't have to be in the room) to support you, should you need it or should you suddenly feel uncomfortable.
Then I'd say, the world is your oyster in here and you'll have queues of men willing to take you up on it.
But having only experienced a few, I'll defer to others for how to expect the evening to flow out egos etc.
But if it's for you. You be a little selfish and ensure whoever you choose knows this is about you. Xxx
Have fun. "
Thank you for bringing up my safety. But I wouldn’t get anywhere near a man that I didn’t trust or felt safe with. Part of attraction for me is safety. Both physically and emotionally. |
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. "
I hope it goes well for you OP. It can be so hot.. but it can be so fucking awkward also.
The dynamic really has to be ‘right’ otherwise it feels like one too many sausage rolls at the after party. |
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When I first joined fab I threw myself in at the deep end and met up with a well verified MM duo. It was a great experience as they were very comfortable with one another and happy to lead when I needed them to. It’s definitely an option I’d personally consider again if I got that urge.
Something to ponder anyway x |
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"I've been trying to persuade my partners to set up an MM account for this. I think they'd be popular. As long as they still made time for me! 😂
I wasn’t expecting a ‘my partners would be great for this’ comment 😂"
Yeah, I guess that side of our dynamic is a little unusual. The friendship and sexual connection happened before the romantic one so there was a foursome fairly early on (me and B, him and his ex-partner). I am very lucky that the sexual side continues alongside the poly thing with me being the hinge partner relationship-wise.
Our threesomes are incredible! I'm just having wonderful flashbacks to Saturday night/Sunday morning 😈❤️🔥
There's a lot of overlap in the femmes they both find attractive and who find them both attractive so I do think there's potential for the MM thing. Anyway, you'll hopefully meet them both in July at the London social so if you think there's the possibility of mutual attraction you could always let me know and I'll do the "My friend fancies you thing" 😂😂
Important things for whoever you do this with. People you can laugh with - the logistics of an MMF can be awkward and hilarious. Working out whose legs (and other bits) need to go where!! Discussion beforehand of hopes, hard limits and boundaries for you and them. |
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I hope it goes well for you OP. It can be so hot.. but it can be so fucking awkward also.
The dynamic really has to be ‘right’ otherwise it feels like one too many sausage rolls at the after party."
Oh my god, the way that I just ch*ked laughing at too many sausage rolls at the after party 😂 |
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As a typical Alpha male type and a single guy, I will answer this in the most honest and straight forward way I can. I may get shot down in flames of saying it, but I don't care.
The way I see it, women are in control in this situation, so think of it like shopping for your fantasy fuck date. Totally get the emotional connection your looking for so once you've got the hots for a guy arrange a drink, and see how you get on, maybe developed that and explain your mmf fantasy, a lot of open minded guys would be up for it.? Remember that Sex is not as emotional for guys as it is for women, they just want to fuck you.
Then arrange the second date and meet up and if your comfortable explain your MMF fantasy, you will be in bed with both of them in no time.
Go for it babe!! Live is for living |
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I hope it goes well for you OP. It can be so hot.. but it can be so fucking awkward also.
The dynamic really has to be ‘right’ otherwise it feels like one too many sausage rolls at the after party.
Oh my god, the way that I just ch*ked laughing at too many sausage rolls at the after party 😂"
I have a way with words, so I’m told🤭🤣 |
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By *HUSH-Man 5 weeks ago
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My limited experience is that it’s important for both guys to get on. In terms of height, build, cock size etc it’s not something that’s ever bothered me.
As for the act I pretty much took the approach that if he’s down one end I’ll go down the other. No need for conflict. Just sharing and spoiling her. |
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"When I first joined fab I threw myself in at the deep end and met up with a well verified MM duo. It was a great experience as they were very comfortable with one another and happy to lead when I needed them to. It’s definitely an option I’d personally consider again if I got that urge.
Something to ponder anyway x "
I think this is probably what I'll end up doing - in that I'll create a new connection rather than ask anyone I might be currently having sex with. I don't want to risk or jeopardise what I have with anyone. It feels easier to go down a different route. |
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There's a lot of overlap in the femmes they both find attractive and who find them both attractive so I do think there's potential for the MM thing. Anyway, you'll hopefully meet them both in July at the London social so if you think there's the possibility of mutual attraction you could always let me know and I'll do the "My friend fancies you thing" 😂😂
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And Julie, what if it's you I fancy?  Asking for a friend. |
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By *adetMan 5 weeks ago
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I met two guys once who supported opposing football teams. It worked out fine after a little back and forth between them and once you get going everyone just seems to know what to do  |
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There's a lot of overlap in the femmes they both find attractive and who find them both attractive so I do think there's potential for the MM thing. Anyway, you'll hopefully meet them both in July at the London social so if you think there's the possibility of mutual attraction you could always let me know and I'll do the "My friend fancies you thing" 😂😂
And Julie, what if it's you I fancy? Asking for a friend. "
July is ages away. It's far too soon to be inducing bi-panic!    |
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There is the MM search on Fab.
I wouldn't think about it quite so much. I wouldn't worry about their feelings too much either. Just think about what you'd like to get out of the experience.
Do you see a guy that you like already? If so I'd ask him if he fancied a MFM.
Some guys do view it like a porn scenario where the woman gets very little pleasure out of it. So choose guys you like who will give you the pleasure you deserve.
Most of all enjoy it. If the first try isn't quite what you wanted try again as it can be amazing with the right guys but it can also be quite mediocre.
I'd say go for it. Just give them strict and clear boundaries of what they can and can't do and what they must do like wear a condom.
Most of all enjoy!
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I've set a couple of girlfriends up for MFM threesomes, when they wanted to try. The first was at a Premier Inn near Airdrie in Scotland, where I was staying, the lady in question had fucked me a few times, but did have a second FWB, who she asked to join us. She was really nervous, we all had a drink and chat, and I took her to the room. He followed a few minutes later, and the lady loved the 2 of us taking her in turn. She left well and truly fucked. About an hour later, a second lady friend came to stay the night. BLISS!! |
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"I met two guys once who supported opposing football teams. It worked out fine after a little back and forth between them and once you get going everyone just seems to know what to do "
This sounds like carnage to me. Also, I'm fairly certain it would be more difficult for me to find someone attractive that supports certain opposing teams. |
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By *oekingMan 5 weeks ago
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed.
I have the same desire and have pondered the exact same things 😂 so I'm bookmarking this! "
Should imagine if you took that crop (in your picture) out of your mouth and told them there are a few blokes that would just crack on lols |
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By *bi HaiveMan 5 weeks ago
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"As a typical Alpha male type and a single guy, I will answer this in the most honest and straight forward way I can. I may get shot down in flames of saying it, but I don't care.
The way I see it, women are in control in this situation, so think of it like shopping for your fantasy fuck date. Totally get the emotional connection your looking for so once you've got the hots for a guy arrange a drink, and see how you get on, maybe developed that and explain your mmf fantasy, a lot of open minded guys would be up for it.? Remember that Sex is not as emotional for guys as it is for women, they just want to fuck you.
Then arrange the second date and meet up and if your comfortable explain your MMF fantasy, you will be in bed with both of them in no time.
Go for it babe!! Live is for living "
Not gonna shoot you down in flames but I am going to disagree completely.
Sex may not be as emotional for you personally, but the majority of guys I know, myself included do need some kind of connection. We don't just want a hole to fuck. A threesome is about three peoples wants and desires, not one being the centre of attention and the other two being human sex toys. In my experience guys who perceive themselves as in some way 'alpha' have more issues with another guy in the equation than normal guys. They see their involvement as some kind of competition with the other guy to be more impressive.
I'd advise, as others have, to talk to a guy you know well, who you know would be comfortable in a threesome scenario and who has experience. Then either approach someone either of you already know, or spend time looking on Fab and make an approach yourselves. Take time to talk them, make sure you have a social meet first and take it from there.
Networking at socials is also a good route.
The issue with looking at MM profiles is that whilst they may be comfortable with an MMF/MFM there's no guarantees you'll be attracted to both. Choosing two singles gives you a better chance to get the right 'fit'.
It may take time. You may have to make several approaches. You may have to wait a while for plans to.come together. But being in no rush will make for a much more comfortable and enjoyable experience.
As for worrying about whether the two guys will have issues comparing themselves, their bodies and especially dick sizes? There's no guarantees of course, but finding guys who have had multiple verified meets with couples is often a good pointer that there shouldn't be any problems. |
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Thanks for the interesting responses everyone.
I think I've come to the conclusion that I won't be rushed into anything (and that I'm probably diving down this sexual rabbit hole because I'm going through emotional chaos right now!) and that I need to consider it more and take my time.
I also really appreciate that I got next to no offers for help in my DMs. Thanks for being respectful! |
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I shared a couples profile on here. We clearly stated we were looking for bi curious guy to join us . Not as easy as first seems so many straight guys messaged grrrrr
Then when we did build up a rapport with bi guys in group messaging they directed all their attentions to her. Several even direct messaging her outside of the wattsap group chat ….so frustrating that we decided to delete our profile |
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I think this is probably what I'll end up doing - in that I'll create a new connection rather than ask anyone I might be currently having sex with. I don't want to risk or jeopardise what I have with anyone. It feels easier to go down a different route."
I would say you should give your current guys the chance - they may actually be offended if you don't which would also jeopardise what you've got at the moment.
I find with MFM it doesn't matter if the guys have just met there and then, as long as the manhood matches size wise if your doing "advanced origami positions" - DVP and DP are reliant on equal sizes to stop the bigger one just dominating the area and pushing the smaller one out of the picture altogether! It has to be said, MFM is absolutely divine |
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed.
I have the same desire and have pondered the exact same things 😂 so I'm bookmarking this! "
What she just said |
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Any guy who wants to be involved in a MMF situation but has issues with their ego has to sort a few things out first.
I don’t think it’s the female’s responsibility to think of anyone else other than herself unless a partner is involved. If that’s the case, a lot of honest conversation needs to happen. |
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Know one of the men we'll and then reach out to another guy who you'd think would be up for it.
Keep your expectations realistic...the chances of it being with 2 guys you are equally attracted to and get on really well with are probably quite slim |
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I have a fwb who I met on here. Looking for another guy to join us. I'm planning socials then hopefully solo meets and if I'm lucky enough, find someone else I click with for a mmf but I'm not in a rush so no pressure.
My advice is go on socials, as many as you need to get a feel of someone and see if you click and go from there. |
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed.
I have the same desire and have pondered the exact same things 😂 so I'm bookmarking this! "
Same! 🍭 |
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My problem has been finding a suitable guy to pair up with.
I’ve often found that guys have expressed an interest in pairing up and have often gone off selfishly and excluded me from meetings.
I fully agree that finding a group of three people who socially and emotionally and physically want to play together very challenging.
I’m not sure if the fab platform really helps three people to get together as the way of having three-way conversations isn’t an option also how to show that you’re genuinely paired up with somebody on a single profile is tricky when you don’t want to advertise yourself as a pair.
I know you can have MM profiles, but if you’re not entirely comfortable with the other guy, it can be tricky to do that.
Anyway, I found it bloody hard and I’ll be interested to hear about anyone else’s experiences. Have you found it challenging but rewarding and finding three people to play together? |
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"Any guy who wants to be involved in a MMF situation but has issues with their ego has to sort a few things out first.
I don’t think it’s the female’s responsibility to think of anyone else other than herself unless a partner is involved. If that’s the case, a lot of honest conversation needs to happen."
Why doesn't a woman have a responsibility to think of the man/men she's sleeping with? |
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I would say you should give your current guys the chance - they may actually be offended if you don't which would also jeopardise what you've got at the moment.
I find with MFM it doesn't matter if the guys have just met there and then, as long as the manhood matches size wise if your doing "advanced origami positions" - DVP and DP are reliant on equal sizes to stop the bigger one just dominating the area and pushing the smaller one out of the picture altogether! It has to be said, MFM is absolutely divine "
I didn’t see this comment the first time around. I find it amusing 😬 that you think I should put the feelings of the men I’m currently having sex with before my own feelings??? |
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Sorry if this is slightly off-topic. It is personal curiosity. With you being demisexual would you need to have an emotional connection with both partners?
I've had threesomes with a partner and not really had any level of emotional connection with the other person and I've had instances where there is an emotional connection with both. They both work, but there's quite a qualitative difference to the experiences. |
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I have this profile and one on fab guys and mainly get offers a a three way. First is a social meeting when they start chatting about the threesome , I give them 10 questions on a paper so can discuss to each other, most are straightforward but some need chat in private before a discussion because I am just a sex toy that they can use in the bedroom. |
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By *m3232Man 3 weeks ago
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"I have a mild interest in exploring a threesome with two men (whether they interact with each other is up to them) but I have questions.
How does a single woman look for this? Does it just happen naturally? I don’t often attend clubs and I need an emotional connection before sex happens anyway so everything just generally moves slower for me.
Do you have to consider men’s egos?? Like, is it important to have men of a similar height, body shape and penis size to avoid conflict? Or does and mix and match scenario work fairly well regardless?
What am I not considering that I should? Advice and comments welcomed. "
If it’s a straight MMF I wouldn’t be worried about what the other person looked like. If BI then the other guy would have to be close to what I find attractive.
I would be happy to have either with you. |
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"Sorry if this is slightly off-topic. It is personal curiosity. With you being demisexual would you need to have an emotional connection with both partners?
I've had threesomes with a partner and not really had any level of emotional connection with the other person and I've had instances where there is an emotional connection with both. They both work, but there's quite a qualitative difference to the experiences."
I’m not sure. I’ve had two threesomes in the past and have had emotional connections with both (and both experiences have been amazing) I have no idea if I’d be able to have sex without it. Someone in an earlier comment mentioned an emotional anchor in one person and the other being someone new and I just don’t know how that would work for me. It’s possible? But I’ve never done it so I have no idea. |
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"Sorry if this is slightly off-topic. It is personal curiosity. With you being demisexual would you need to have an emotional connection with both partners?
I've had threesomes with a partner and not really had any level of emotional connection with the other person and I've had instances where there is an emotional connection with both. They both work, but there's quite a qualitative difference to the experiences.
I’m not sure. I’ve had two threesomes in the past and have had emotional connections with both (and both experiences have been amazing) I have no idea if I’d be able to have sex without it. Someone in an earlier comment mentioned an emotional anchor in one person and the other being someone new and I just don’t know how that would work for me. It’s possible? But I’ve never done it so I have no idea."
Emotional anchor feels like a term I can relate too. I'd say it's something that can and has worked for me. Anchor doesn't feel quite right though. It's more a source of vicarious arousal or compersive joy. It occurs usually with quite deeply intimate partners.
Where there's a mutual emotional connection between all involved, I have found that a very different experience and also rarer. |
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