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"Depends.
On fab? No.
On LinkedIn? A little bit.
At work or in a social situation? Yes. "
I think I care less in the work environment
I’ve stated to the manager on many occasions in here to do my job and do it well, I’m not here to make friends |
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"Depends.
On fab? No.
On LinkedIn? A little bit.
At work or in a social situation? Yes.
I think I care less in the work environment
I’ve stated to the manager on many occasions in here to do my job and do it well, I’m not here to make friends "
I hear this. But work is always full of gossips. |
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"Depends.
On fab? No.
On LinkedIn? A little bit.
At work or in a social situation? Yes.
I think I care less in the work environment
I’ve stated to the manager on many occasions in here to do my job and do it well, I’m not here to make friends
I hear this. But work is always full of gossips. "
And those ones really don’t get my time in the work place as I usually don’t have to have anything to do with them |
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"Do you really care what random strangers think about you? "
Random strangers no….i say this because if they’re random strangers then they don’t know me as a person so their opinion of me can’t be based on anything?
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I don't. Not at all. I used to feel it to an excruciating degree though so I can imagine that there just be a lot of people that have felt or do feel the same and I have empathy for them.
I guess my age and life experience are the big factors but others thoughts of me do not occupy my headspace anymore. |
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I think most people are going to say no on this thread. Because it’s hard to say yes. Sometimes it’s hard to admit that to ourselves. Definitely hard to admit that in public.
I’m going to say mostly, no. It hasn’t always been that way though, and if I’m feeling down or vulnerable then it’s more likely to bother me.
Mrs TMN x |
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"I think most people are going to say no on this thread. Because it’s hard to say yes. Sometimes it’s hard to admit that to ourselves. Definitely hard to admit that in public.
I’m going to say mostly, no. It hasn’t always been that way though, and if I’m feeling down or vulnerable then it’s more likely to bother me.
Mrs TMN x"
You see right through me |
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"I think most people are going to say no on this thread. Because it’s hard to say yes. Sometimes it’s hard to admit that to ourselves. Definitely hard to admit that in public.
I’m going to say mostly, no. It hasn’t always been that way though, and if I’m feeling down or vulnerable then it’s more likely to bother me.
Mrs TMN x"
a part of me did want to say no, but it's simply not true.
Somethings that are said feel more hurtful then other's I guess, I agree alot with this, if I'm in a shit head space stuff tends to go right through me. |
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Yes it affects me.
I get upset but I try to look at it through the lense of them being insecure about their own inadequacy and it makes more sense that way.
Their opinions and influence do matter to an extent even when they are wrong and malicious. They can prevent you from getting where you want to be. |
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In a job interview, yes.
I don't usually behave in a way that would make random strangers think bad of me but people will always form opinions of you based on their own experiences and prejudices. I don't have any control over that so I'm not too concerned. |
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I do if something I have done has affected them in any way and would want to put it right. Other than that, just family, friends and work are important to me so of course I care. One of the things I always enjoyed was honest reverse appraisals at work. Saw as a development opportunities and imporyant also to team cohesion |
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"Do you really care what random strangers think about you? "
I like to think they don’t think about me.
I don’t think about you.
If you’re reading this and we don’t know each other I’d like to reassure you that I’ve never even given you a single thought.
You’re totally insignificant to me.
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I'll go further than TwistyNips..... Those who say 'no' or 'no not at all' are probably labouring under a highly unexamined perspective of human relationships and the impact on every aspect of your being ......
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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"yeah I cry at night if I get ignored I’m here. I have a happy wank if someone says something nice.
You are the light of my FAB visits. You brighten my morning and are just so good to look at"
Happy wank imminent... |
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"Do you really care what random strangers think about you? "
No, those who matter don’t mind, those who mind don’t matter.
Of course we all have an element of care because that’s how society works, however, it wouldn’t influence me to behave or dress or act differently x |
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"Yes it affects me.
I get upset but I try to look at it through the lense of them being insecure about their own inadequacy and it makes more sense that way.
Their opinions and influence do matter to an extent even when they are wrong and malicious. They can prevent you from getting where you want to be."
I totally get you with this |
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"I'll go further than TwistyNips..... Those who say 'no' or 'no not at all' are probably labouring under a highly unexamined perspective of human relationships and the impact on every aspect of your being ......
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Our relationship with random strangers? |
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"It’s nice to be liked by people met in person but randoms strangers online not so bothered…..xx "
Thats how I look at it too.
Its nice to be liked but other peoples opinions of me are out my hands so i try not to let it bother me.
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"I'll go further than TwistyNips..... Those who say 'no' or 'no not at all' are probably labouring under a highly unexamined perspective of human relationships and the impact on every aspect of your being ......
Our relationship with random strangers?
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Maybe 'to' as opposed to 'with'
humans are social creatures, and even if we don’t consciously care, we often still make subtle adjustments based on perceived judgments—like how we dress, speak, or behave in public.
Maybe a more honest or clear answer would be......
“I try not to care what random strangers think, especially if their judgment isn’t meaningful or informed. But as a human, I still sometimes feel the pressure of social perception—consciously or unconsciously.”
Easier to say Nah.... |
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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To an extent yes i do. When I go out I'd rather people think oh she looks nice, rather than quick hide your kids this one looks like she'll eat them for breakfast. But voiced opinions from people that don't know me mean nothing, unless they have a valid point. I guess it's very circumstantial. I don't feel the desire to be like by everyone, but that wasn't the question. |
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"I'll go further than TwistyNips..... Those who say 'no' or 'no not at all' are probably labouring under a highly unexamined perspective of human relationships and the impact on every aspect of your being ......
Our relationship with random strangers?
Maybe 'to' as opposed to 'with'
humans are social creatures, and even if we don’t consciously care, we often still make subtle adjustments based on perceived judgments—like how we dress, speak, or behave in public.
Maybe a more honest or clear answer would be......
“I try not to care what random strangers think, especially if their judgment isn’t meaningful or informed. But as a human, I still sometimes feel the pressure of social perception—consciously or unconsciously.”
Easier to say Nah...."
Yes 'tis easier to say no. I'll stick with that for the purposes of this discussion but I won't go out in public in any of the outfits on our profile. So it's a yes really. |
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For me if they are a total random then I don't care especially when I've had zero interactions with them. The only opinions that matter and I do care about are from the actual people who know me personally x |
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"I'll go further than TwistyNips..... Those who say 'no' or 'no not at all' are probably labouring under a highly unexamined perspective of human relationships and the impact on every aspect of your being ......
Our relationship with random strangers?
Maybe 'to' as opposed to 'with'
humans are social creatures, and even if we don’t consciously care, we often still make subtle adjustments based on perceived judgments—like how we dress, speak, or behave in public.
Maybe a more honest or clear answer would be......
“I try not to care what random strangers think, especially if their judgment isn’t meaningful or informed. But as a human, I still sometimes feel the pressure of social perception—consciously or unconsciously.”
Easier to say Nah....
Yes 'tis easier to say no. I'll stick with that for the purposes of this discussion but I won't go out in public in any of the outfits on our profile. So it's a yes really. "
If I had your figure, I'd be out everywhere in that leopard print catsuit  |
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Absolutely not.
I'm like marmite love me or hate me
Doesn't really matter which side if the fence ones on, but I am me. A true and honest version of me.
Only caveat; abuse me and I will bring the wrath of a thousand needles to the eyes. |
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"Do you really care what random strangers think about you? "
Is there a difference between a stranger and a random stranger.?or is it simple someone you don't know?
It's situational. Sometimes yes and sometimes no.
If you're doing something that causes someone to have an opinion of you at work or in your social circle then yes of course. What goes around comes around.
If its someone you bump into at a gig or an airport and will never see them again. Then probably no. |
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Not in the slightest, and without sounding vane or arrogant, which I'm far from, there's enough people who know me think that I'm a very okay kind of guy, and very safe option to play with which on here my verifications confirm, for me to bothered by the opinions of keyboard warriors. |
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"I'll go further than TwistyNips..... Those who say 'no' or 'no not at all' are probably labouring under a highly unexamined perspective of human relationships and the impact on every aspect of your being ......
Our relationship with random strangers?
Maybe 'to' as opposed to 'with'
humans are social creatures, and even if we don’t consciously care, we often still make subtle adjustments based on perceived judgments—like how we dress, speak, or behave in public.
Maybe a more honest or clear answer would be......
“I try not to care what random strangers think, especially if their judgment isn’t meaningful or informed. But as a human, I still sometimes feel the pressure of social perception—consciously or unconsciously.”
Easier to say Nah....
Yes 'tis easier to say no. I'll stick with that for the purposes of this discussion but I won't go out in public in any of the outfits on our profile. So it's a yes really.
If I had your figure, I'd be out everywhere in that leopard print catsuit "
Why thank you.
I just don't have the courage which kind of backs up what GC said. Also it has a zip that goes all the way round and I just know I'd nip to the loo and have to ask a random stranger whose opinion I would then find I very much cared about, to zip me up.  |
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"I'll go further than TwistyNips..... Those who say 'no' or 'no not at all' are probably labouring under a highly unexamined perspective of human relationships and the impact on every aspect of your being ......
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Or may have highly examined their human relationships and come through the other side.
I don't concern myself with what other people think of me. It's not a simple decision I made. It's a process I went through. It used to cripple me. Now it doesn't. |
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By *a LunaWoman 8 weeks ago
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I’d say no, but then I know if I walked into a room of strangers and they all called me a dickhead I’d feel a tad upset.
But I think I have a smidge of people pleaser about me, and so although I could fool myself I don’t really give two hoots etc. I suspect I might. Just a little.
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