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I do. I cultivate this part of myself and try to manage it in such a way that letting go when it's time isn't always crushing.
I like having a crush on someone. I like strings and romance. I don't need to be joined at the hip with someone to feel those things and I don't worry about getting hurt when I do. |
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"I do. I cultivate this part of myself and try to manage it in such a way that letting go when it's time isn't always crushing.
I like having a crush on someone. I like strings and romance. I don't need to be joined at the hip with someone to feel those things and I don't worry about getting hurt when I do."
I feel this in my entire being. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Do you catch feelings easily for people?"
Not in general as I'm generally not interested in most people. If I find someone who floats my boat then definitely yes.
"Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "
I'd say so, judging by my previous relationships. |
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I always thought I fell in love easily. But reflection recently has made me realise that I absolutely get infatuated with people, and I don't honestly think I've ever truly been in love with anyone.
I definitely try now not to become too engrossed with people, but I find it's such a fine line to walk. If you like someone, you're interested in them and want to be around them right? But equally how do you not overdo it and another them? |
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Yes and no, I get attached to people in my life in a superficial way really easily.
Attached to the point I do anything for you rarely. I don't like letting people in and tbh most don't want to either |
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"Do you catch feelings easily for people?
Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "
Ah. I absolutely do, because I deliberately shun the social norms that there is casual sex and there is A Relationship and there is nothing in between. What has been important for me is to learn that I can feel things without a requirement for the other person to feel the same thing. It is wonderfully freeing to open myself up to organically letting feelings grow, whatever they may be, free from the constraints of a need for reciprocation.
And also that feelings can be transient. I may see someone for only a few hours and never see them again - but why not fully lean in to that experience, be open and vulnerable, fully immersed. It's intense and rewarding.
But if you mean am I a clingy pest who obsesses over people, no, definitely not. |
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Feelings? Define this.
Are we talking about luuuurve?
Because if we are then my answer is no, I do not and will not fall (or catch feelings) for someone. It If I lived my life like that, I’d be heart broken after every good friend I have/had.
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I am deeply in love with my husband. When we met, which was on here btw, we fell for each other very quickly and that surprised both of us.
Now that we swing as a couple, the feelings part of us is not available for other people to get close to.
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"Do you catch feelings easily for people?
Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "
Yes.
No - I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. It means I’m human and like to feel things. Feelings come in all shapes and sizes. Mostly, for me, they’re positive 😘 |
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I don't know. If I like someone I like them I don't know if other people find it more or less difficult than me.
As I've grown older I have learned to reserve judgement until I know someone better though |
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"Do you catch feelings easily for people?
Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "
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No. My head rules my emotions and my feelings. They only get a say if my will desires it. And emotion is just a chemical response to a stimulus, and I get to decide how to respond to that response.
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Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily ? Of course not. Some people enjoy that and it works for them. I just know it doesn't work for me.
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"Do you catch feelings easily for people?
Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "
I catch feelings far too easily, not love but feelings and it annoys me a lot.
I wish I didn't feel like I do and was more relaxed about feelings but then again I'd rather be too much than not enough |
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"I used to be the ice queen.
It would however appear, that certain people are able to break that.. and boy do I have the feels🙃🙃
Nah. She’s right above you ⬆️
No… I’m below you  "
That can be arranged 🤣 |
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I think I'm becoming more and more hardened against having feelings for people easily. I used to get very invested very quickly to the point I would overthink, wondering if I was maybe being a bit too much, whether I need to reign it in etc.
I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away. |
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"Yes and no, I get attached to people in my life in a superficial way really easily.
Attached to the point I do anything for you rarely. I don't like letting people in and tbh most don't want to either"
I can’t imagine NOT wanting to be in you |
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"I think I'm becoming more and more hardened against having feelings for people easily. I used to get very invested very quickly to the point I would overthink, wondering if I was maybe being a bit too much, whether I need to reign it in etc.
I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away."
You got older and more experienced is what changed. 😊 |
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Yes definitely.
And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.
I think I have an odd mindset though. I never get hurt because if someone doesn’t want me anymore I definitely don’t want them. It has to be mutual. This is why I’ve never understood the obsessive bunny boiler types. |
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"Yes definitely.
And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.
I think I have an odd mindset though. I never get hurt because if someone doesn’t want me anymore I definitely don’t want them. It has to be mutual. This is why I’ve never understood the obsessive bunny boiler types. "
Oh wow now there’s a sight for sore eyes |
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"Yes definitely.
And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.
I think I have an odd mindset though. I never get hurt because if someone doesn’t want me anymore I definitely don’t want them. It has to be mutual. This is why I’ve never understood the obsessive bunny boiler types.
Oh wow now there’s a sight for sore eyes"
What is 😳 |
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"Yes definitely.
And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.
I think I have an odd mindset though. I never get hurt because if someone doesn’t want me anymore I definitely don’t want them. It has to be mutual. This is why I’ve never understood the obsessive bunny boiler types.
Oh wow now there’s a sight for sore eyes
What is 😳"
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"Yes definitely.
And no I don’t think it’s a bad thing.
I think I have an odd mindset though. I never get hurt because if someone doesn’t want me anymore I definitely don’t want them. It has to be mutual. This is why I’ve never understood the obsessive bunny boiler types.
Oh wow now there’s a sight for sore eyes
What is 😳
You "
Awww 🥰 |
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"I'm not such a cold fish that I'm without feeling, but I'm not going to feel much beyond having a general feeling of like towards someone until I spend time with someone and get to know them "
Honestly, I like the idea that there are people you have feelings for. |
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"I think I'm becoming more and more hardened against having feelings for people easily. I used to get very invested very quickly to the point I would overthink, wondering if I was maybe being a bit too much, whether I need to reign it in etc.
I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away.
You got older and more experienced is what changed. 😊"
Oh joy, can't wait to be an emotional basket case at 40 🙈 |
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"I think I'm becoming more and more hardened against having feelings for people easily. I used to get very invested very quickly to the point I would overthink, wondering if I was maybe being a bit too much, whether I need to reign it in etc.
I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away.
You got older and more experienced is what changed. 😊
Oh joy, can't wait to be an emotional basket case at 40 🙈"
Too afraid of ever having feelings again at 40? You’ll fit right in on here  |
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"Do you catch feelings easily for people?
Is it a bad thing to catch feelings easily? "
Depends on the feelings.
And your life philosophy.
I'm a little demisexual.
So like a connection as good chemistry makes for great sex.
I enjoy the social side of the lifestyle so having friends isn't an issue. Also being poly opens up options.
So having feelings isn't necessarily bad so long as you're honest about the feelings.
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"I think I'm becoming more and more hardened against having feelings for people easily. I used to get very invested very quickly to the point I would overthink, wondering if I was maybe being a bit too much, whether I need to reign it in etc.
I'm not sure what changed, but I'm less likely to jump into having strong feelings for people straight away.
You got older and more experienced is what changed. 😊
Oh joy, can't wait to be an emotional basket case at 40 🙈
Too afraid of ever having feelings again at 40? You’ll fit right in on here "
 Wow, absolute savagery! I mean it's true, but you're not supposed to say it out loud! |
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By *eliWoman 12 weeks ago
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Feelings as in love? No. Not at all. Limerence? No.
But I do like people when there's that connection. Love spending time, learning all of the little things. It's a great thing to feel, to be alive and I'm happiest when I'm embracing who I am. Feelings are a part of that.
Feelings aren't bad unless they are weaponised, the person is a massive throbber or it's too intense and not reciprocated - like after one social/date. Oh and when it becomes limerence. Never a great look on anyone. |
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By *zeroMan 12 weeks ago
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As in do I feel in love with people? No, I've only ever felt that truly with one person and it wasn't to be.
I do however find it very easy to become attached to people as friends. I can often come off as stand offish but if I warm to someone I'm a lot different. A bit like a cat. That's why it often hurts me if we stop talking or drift apart for whatever reason. Occasionally I'll sit back and get a bit sentimental thinking about the times we had together and how we are more or less strangers now |
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By *sWyldWoman 12 weeks ago
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I think I can fall in love a little bit quite a lot . It's what happens when you wear your heart on your sleeve.
Feelings don't scare me. It's all part of the experience.
It doesn't need to be heartbreaking and it also doesn't mean I suddenly have expectations either.
It means I allow myself to truly get lost in someone and in the moments we share.
I may only love for the night or it may be longer but I don't fight it if it feels right.
My heart may indeed be a beautiful liability but equally it's much stronger for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Mandem are talking about love 😭🥴
I’m kidding but honestly it’s not about love. Catching feelings is more the stage well before love"
While they are vastly different, it's a slippery slope for me.
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"Mandem are talking about love 😭🥴
I’m kidding but honestly it’s not about love. Catching feelings is more the stage well before love
While they are vastly different, it's a slippery slope for me.
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Agreed. Once I like you, buckle up, the L word is coming. |
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By *eriScotMan 12 weeks ago
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"I really don’t, I can block off those emotions quite easily. I do however build friendships easily "
I am exactly the same as you, friendships very easily but relationship wise absolutely not to the point people think im heartless but it’s far from the reason |
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"I really don’t, I can block off those emotions quite easily. I do however build friendships easily
I am exactly the same as you, friendships very easily but relationship wise absolutely not to the point people think im heartless but it’s far from the reason "
I completely get it |
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