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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " I absolutely HATE it, I've lost a significant amount of weight aswell as having two kids so it's stretchmarks and lose skin central over here....... I've never acrually had any complaints about it from playmates etc, but..... doesn't mean I don't absolutely hate it | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? I absolutely HATE it, I've lost a significant amount of weight aswell as having two kids so it's stretchmarks and lose skin central over here....... I've never acrually had any complaints about it from playmates etc, but..... doesn't mean I don't absolutely hate it " I don’t even feel as though I can dress sexily as I always wear baggy clothes to hide it | |||
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"I dont mind them at all. Its natural and part of your life journey. We all have our perceived 'flaws'. And im sure the majority on here would agree. Sexiness is a state of mind more than anything else id say. Hopefully you'll learn to embrace it over time. " 100% This (Mr)  | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " Sadly we only see the things we dislike in ourselves. It’s a terrible negative bias that our mind defaults to. Our bodies are beautiful, amazing things. The female body is absolutely incredible. The ability to grown, sustain and birth another life is absolutely astonishing. It puts us boys to shame. | |||
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"Just like how some women dislike a short man that is self conscious about being short and makes a big (pun intended) deal about it, I'd say I only have a problem when the woman makes it a bigger problem than it is...it's your body your choice, if you don't like your tummy or the way you look, change it..." Ah but that's not always possible if you have had Caesarians. I eat healthily, exercise etc, but the tummy 'pouch' is still evident due to scar tissue etc. I don't like it, but not easy to change | |||
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"Ah but that's not always possible if you have had Caesarians. I eat healthily, exercise etc, but the tummy 'pouch' is still evident due to scar tissue etc. I don't like it, but not easy to change" ^ this is so true about the build-up of scar tissue. I've lost 4st in the last couple of years. My hips and pelvis are now feeling bony, but the post-caesarean tummy remains, no matter how much exercise I do 🤷♀️ In terms of how I feel when I've been intimate with people...I've worn lingerie to hide it, but tbh when we're in the throes of hot passionate sex we're far too busy enjoying it to be worried about what we look like  | |||
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"I hate it and can't see it changing. As ridiculous at is, when I see other ladies with mum tums.. I don't give it a second thought but my own 🤢🤮" Yup. Same. I lost weight recently (and put most back on, that's a story for another time) and felt better in clothes, but worse naked! 🤷♀️ Can't undo those ingrained thoughts, bloody trauma!  | |||
"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " Yeah like a lot very sexy | |||
"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " I personally love them, so feminine and beautiful and lovely to kiss | |||
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"We are all our own worst judge, I bet what you don't like on yourself you have no problem with on other women, we all do it OP, we judge ourselves way more harshly than others do." I think this is the right take on this. The same anxiety exits around men and their penis, to short/tall, and I know of women who are conscious about their boobs being to big or no big… We are the shape and size that nature, life and the passage of time has made us… we all want to be as shapely as we were when we were 21 and self conscious about our looks then! Remember, everyone experiences being young but it is a privilege to experience being older. | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " I, Frankie, am normally oblivious to that kind of thing if I’m into a person, if I’ve chatted with someone for a period of time, I’m going to be into them as a person. If I’m meeting someone at a club it’s much more about the energy and attitude rather than superficial marks. | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? Sadly we only see the things we dislike in ourselves. It’s a terrible negative bias that our mind defaults to. Our bodies are beautiful, amazing things. The female body is absolutely incredible. The ability to grown, sustain and birth another life is absolutely astonishing. It puts us boys to shame. " what a beautiful way of putting it,I've a mum tummy and also don't like it but the boys seem to like it so us girls should be proud of our body's what ever size and shape | |||
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"Life is far too short at my age to be worrying how my body looks. I'm more concerned with how it works (or doesn't). I've got a fat belly. There could be less of it. I'm working on it for my health. Men still meet me. I'm pretty sure none of them have become ill after seeing me naked. " looks perfect to me and love to run my hands over your X | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " Not at all it's so beautiful really knowing what a ladies body has gone through to bring something into the world, I love kissing marks as part of foreplay | |||
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"I dont mind them at all. Its natural and part of your life journey. We all have our perceived 'flaws'. And im sure the majority on here would agree. Sexiness is a state of mind more than anything else id say. Hopefully you'll learn to embrace it over time. " Well said sir!!! couldn't agree more | |||
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"Just like how some women dislike a short man that is self conscious about being short and makes a big (pun intended) deal about it, I'd say I only have a problem when the woman makes it a bigger problem than it is...it's your body your choice, if you don't like your tummy or the way you look, change it... Ah but that's not always possible if you have had Caesarians. I eat healthily, exercise etc, but the tummy 'pouch' is still evident due to scar tissue etc. I don't like it, but not easy to change" Every problem has a solution...for internal scar tissue various forms of massage treatment help...for external scars you could cover it with a tattoo. The problem is that when ever someone says "it's not as easy" it's like they have already given up, and than jump into this vicious cycle of complaining about a problem, but not doing anything about it... and I personally no longer have the patience to constantly validate a person's insecurities | |||
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"Just like how some women dislike a short man that is self conscious about being short and makes a big (pun intended) deal about it, I'd say I only have a problem when the woman makes it a bigger problem than it is...it's your body your choice, if you don't like your tummy or the way you look, change it... Ah but that's not always possible if you have had Caesarians. I eat healthily, exercise etc, but the tummy 'pouch' is still evident due to scar tissue etc. I don't like it, but not easy to change Every problem has a solution...for internal scar tissue various forms of massage treatment help...for external scars you could cover it with a tattoo. The problem is that when ever someone says "it's not as easy" it's like they have already given up, and than jump into this vicious cycle of complaining about a problem, but not doing anything about it... and I personally no longer have the patience to constantly validate a person's insecurities " Um excuse me, I am not complaining about it, I don't really care enough, and I am not insecure about it!! I have a fabulous body, just having 2 cesarians it isn't easy to change. I certainly wouldn't get a tattoo down there, eeewww!!, you really have no idea!! | |||
"Just like how some women dislike a short man that is self conscious about being short and makes a big (pun intended) deal about it, I'd say I only have a problem when the woman makes it a bigger problem than it is...it's your body your choice, if you don't like your tummy or the way you look, change it... Ah but that's not always possible if you have had Caesarians. I eat healthily, exercise etc, but the tummy 'pouch' is still evident due to scar tissue etc. I don't like it, but not easy to change Every problem has a solution...for internal scar tissue various forms of massage treatment help...for external scars you could cover it with a tattoo. The problem is that when ever someone says "it's not as easy" it's like they have already given up, and than jump into this vicious cycle of complaining about a problem, but not doing anything about it... and I personally no longer have the patience to constantly validate a person's insecurities Um excuse me, I am not complaining about it, I don't really care enough, and I am not insecure about it!! I have a fabulous body, just having 2 cesarians it isn't easy to change. I certainly wouldn't get a tattoo down there, eeewww!!, you really have no idea!!" Apologies, I was speaking in general terms, this wasn't directed at you personally...I was just using the example you gave as a reference. If you look in the mirror and you are happy with what you see, than there's no issue. Also as a physical therapist who helps people with various forms of problems (including the ones you mentioned) I do have a small idea...I might not know how it feels like...but I do have an idea. | |||
"Just like how some women dislike a short man that is self conscious about being short and makes a big (pun intended) deal about it, I'd say I only have a problem when the woman makes it a bigger problem than it is...it's your body your choice, if you don't like your tummy or the way you look, change it... Ah but that's not always possible if you have had Caesarians. I eat healthily, exercise etc, but the tummy 'pouch' is still evident due to scar tissue etc. I don't like it, but not easy to change Every problem has a solution...for internal scar tissue various forms of massage treatment help...for external scars you could cover it with a tattoo. The problem is that when ever someone says "it's not as easy" it's like they have already given up, and than jump into this vicious cycle of complaining about a problem, but not doing anything about it... and I personally no longer have the patience to constantly validate a person's insecurities " Gosh. I’m not sure where on the thread of people sharing insecurities about their post-baby bodies you got the idea that they are complaining, haven’t tried to do anything about it if they are really miserable, or were asking for you to validate them? I think there’s a lot of expectations on women after having a baby to snap back into shape, whereas in reality their bodies and their lives have been fundamentally altered by the arrival of this tiny person. I think the idea that they should just fix something that’s problematic for them is naive. Yes, sometimes exercising and eating well will do the job. You can be super fit and healthy and still have scarring, stretch marks, loose skin or ab separation, however. Personally, I’d rather we rewrote the narrative so women were more comfortable in their bodies. I’m also very much in favour of being able to discuss insecurities openly rather than being chastised for complaining. I think this thread has brought out a lot of support and solidarity in that respect. Mrs TMN x | |||
"Just like how some women dislike a short man that is self conscious about being short and makes a big (pun intended) deal about it, I'd say I only have a problem when the woman makes it a bigger problem than it is...it's your body your choice, if you don't like your tummy or the way you look, change it... Ah but that's not always possible if you have had Caesarians. I eat healthily, exercise etc, but the tummy 'pouch' is still evident due to scar tissue etc. I don't like it, but not easy to change Every problem has a solution...for internal scar tissue various forms of massage treatment help...for external scars you could cover it with a tattoo. The problem is that when ever someone says "it's not as easy" it's like they have already given up, and than jump into this vicious cycle of complaining about a problem, but not doing anything about it... and I personally no longer have the patience to constantly validate a person's insecurities Um excuse me, I am not complaining about it, I don't really care enough, and I am not insecure about it!! I have a fabulous body, just having 2 cesarians it isn't easy to change. I certainly wouldn't get a tattoo down there, eeewww!!, you really have no idea!! Apologies, I was speaking in general terms, this wasn't directed at you personally...I was just using the example you gave as a reference. If you look in the mirror and you are happy with what you see, than there's no issue. Also as a physical therapist who helps people with various forms of problems (including the ones you mentioned) I do have a small idea...I might not know how it feels like...but I do have an idea. " Apology accepted. I'm sure you do have some idea, I'm not negating that. There is exercise, healthy eating etc you can do to eliminate said tummy pouch, possibly massage too, but after surgery and losing muscle there, and the build up of scar tissue, it really is very difficult to eliminate it completely without surgical intervention. | |||
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"Personally, I’d rather we rewrote the narrative so women were more comfortable in their bodies. I’m also very much in favour of being able to discuss insecurities openly rather than being chastised for complaining. I think this thread has brought out a lot of support and solidarity in that respect. Mrs TMN x" Thank you Mrs TMN 🙏 I whole-heartedly agree with you on this x | |||
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"I agree with others...I don't believe anyone has complained on this thread, they have simply, and honestly, shared their experiences about their post pregnancy bodies. I do, in part, agree with your statement about using massage to help internal scar tissue. It was recommended as part of my post-surgery recovery after having cancer removed from my leg and yes, it has reduced the nerve damage caused by the scar tissue. But, that is for a 2 inch scar, not an 8 inch scar from removing an 8lb baby. I can tell you that after 31 years, no amount of massage on my very prominent caesarean scar and surrounding area, has ever, or will ever completely eradicat the scar tissue. The gynaecologists & obstetricians tell us this pre and post surgery; as well as what both sweetiepie and Mrs TMN have reiterated, that healthy eating and exercise help, but they won't eliminate it entirely. I would like to ask...as a physio therapist who says he "helps women with various forms of problems (including the ones you mentioned)"...perhaps you would like to share your knowledge and experience with us. " I am happy to provide any useful information regarding any treatments (please just private message me with some info about the issue). In regards to the thread...I simply responded to one of the questions " do men mind a woman with a tummy " and I said that on a personal level I don't have an issue with it, unless she makes it a bigger problem than it has to be (in the same way how certain men make a big issue about their height). I also said "it's your body your choice" and if you (speaking generally) look in the mirror and see a problem, it is your responsibility to change or accept it, and not hope the rest of the world will validate or justify these insecurities, because if you see a problem when you look in the mirror, regardless of what anyone else will say, in your eyes there's still an issue. I never said women or people in genera are not allowed to talk about their problems (especially on the forums) I was simply responding on a personal note , that I wouldn't accept a person constantly talking about a problem without trying to fix the problem, because that to me sounds like just complaining (and I no longer have any patience for that type of people). Now, if the problem is someone looking in the mirror and not liking what they see, the solution (from my pov) is to find various ways to change how they see themselves (being fitness, beauty treatments, physical therapy or other forms of emotional therapy if necessary). I truly believe every problem has a solution and it is our responsibility to find the solution (if we want a change). Nowhere did I mention that a woman has to find ways to look as they did before the pregnancy (I have zero idea where that came from) ...even without pregnancy people are changing, as with age there comes a level of wear and tear on the body, so I don't think anyone on the thread said that women have to look in a specific way (or at least I have not said that). Bottom line is do as much ad you can until you look in the mirror and you see someone you are happy with. | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " Not at all, do you mind a dad bod? I love a mature women's body that tells her life story  | |||
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" I guess some tdo and some done as I had another comment where I was told great boobs, shame about the stomach... " What a massive twat. You're beautiful, every inch | |||
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"I'm sure a mummytummy is the lady equivalent of a dad bod ?" And ours are truly earned. 3 pregnancies are no joke, | |||
"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " IMO (bloke) Mature women whose appearance give the impression that they've lived a life are far more attractive than the ones who look like they've had a load of work done/spent half their lives in the gym. So, yes please to those mummy tummies, soft thighs, caressable upper arms and all the rest.... | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " I’ve noticed a lot of women on fab covering their stomachs with one hand to hide stretch marks Ladies don’t be ashamed of them , show them we love them | |||
"I like ladies with a mummy tummy, a wobbly tummy, a flat tummy. As long as they are comfortable then I'm comfortable." 👆same here ,...if you're okay..im okay 😊 | |||
"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " I’m sure you look amazing | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " Our bodies go through so many changes, be that from pregnancies, menopause, weight gain and weight loss and the stretch marks and tummy are just testament to that. I’m not overly bothered by mine, but I do fake tan and moisturise a lot as that seems to conceal the marks a little. I think over the years I’ve learnt to like my body but it takes time……. xx 😘 | |||
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"Used to hate it Now I don’t give a fuck, I guess my view on things like this changed n significantly as I got older. If someone is going to be put off by my c-section tummy or my stretch marks then they’re not the sort of man I want to invite to my bed" Love your attitude. Own it girl. | |||
"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " Used to hate mine but learned over time and new lovers that it's actually ok. It exists. So anyone not liking it can shuffle on. Everyone else form an orderly queue. There's sex to be had. | |||
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"I have a mummy tummy which I absolutely hate, I even try to cover up in front of Mr. Men do you mind ladies with a mummy tummy? Ladies how do you feel about it if you have one? " Any self respecting person would understand mummy tummies, it's part of nature unless your a lucky one xx | |||
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"I have a few.." sexy xx | |||
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