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By *eli OP Woman 4 weeks ago
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After catching up with a dear friend yesterday I've been thinking about how things have changed for me from when I first joined Fab.
Have you changed since joining? Discovered a love for something sexual, an approach to sex/relationships that wasn't there before etc? |
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"After catching up with a dear friend yesterday I've been thinking about how things have changed for me from when I first joined Fab.
Have you changed since joining? Discovered a love for something sexual, an approach to sex/relationships that wasn't there before etc? "
Not really Meli, not for me in any case. |
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Well I had a healthy, active and imaginative sex life when I joined fab.
Now I'm on my own, sexless and about to become a nun
Seriously, that's true but I'm just in a different chapter of my life now. |
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I think I came into it not really knowing what to expect and being a bit "deer in the headlights" about it all, from socials, to clubs, to even the forums. I think I might just be a bit more assured of what I'm doing now and feel comfortable being a bit more forward with my intentions where I didn't feel as confident doing so when I first joined. |
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"Well I had a healthy, active and imaginative sex life when I joined fab.
Now I'm on my own, sexless and about to become a nun
Seriously, that's true but I'm just in a different chapter of my life now."
Every chapter has a beginning and end often the next chapter is more exciting and een more exciting if you help to write that chapter yourself |
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Well we met on here so that changed our focus and dynamics as having to think of someone else, other than yourself, in this lifestyle is very much different.
I would say our sexual desires have changed and shaped from the relationships we’ve had with a few people. We’ve pushed boundaries and now sometimes C has met a few people by herself, once trust and respect for us both has been established, which is something we didn’t think would be a turn on.
I also have a lot more respect for the varied dynamics of couples - there’s no one size fits all and appreciating and respectful other couples and what they get off on, has been an eye opener.
Every day is a lesson for sure.
K |
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I’m in a different chapter of my life OP.
My sexual preferences haven’t changed but my determination to only pursue those that I want to certainly has.
Older. Wiser - which is very questionable for me, and still have the same cheery attitude to it 😘 |
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Fab wasn’t around when I first joined - that’s one big change - the big players, the number of sites and there’s more knowledge about swinging even if it’s still not commonplace.
Initially I got into the scene to meet couples and ended up meeting men more frequently.
I got into kink.
Meeting S was unexpected so I should probably mention that too.
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I have changed a lot since first joining - in outlook, in what I seek, in how I play, in me as a person, in how I contribute to the forums and in terms of being in a fully open relationship
There are only two constants here Meli - you and crumpet loaf   |
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I would say I have changed a lot, not because of Fab but over the time I've been here. I was never a frequent meeter but I did meet people sometimes and finding people to meet was my main reason for being here. Now it's more about community, I'm open to meeting should an appropriate person come to light but I'm not pushing for it or expecting it.
Partly I think I've changed because of lockdown and partly because there are more apps now where people are a little more free about what they want and while I still meet relatively rarely on them I still feel more comfortable on them than on here when it comes to trying to get dates/meets. |
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I was married and here as part of a couple when I first was on fab and we rarely arranged meets, it was more a way to stay in touch in with people we met at clubs.
Coming back on my own is a totally different experience, I wanted to make friends this time so decided to start being active in the forums as well as attending clubs on my own. I’ve pushed my own boundaries and met people that are becoming good friends. I’ve learned more about my wants and needs and have become far better at saying no. So overall, I think it is a much better experience this time around. 😍 |
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I think I'm a completely different person now.
I was lacking in so much confidence when I first joined (around 5 years ago I think) but now I have a lot of love for myself and I don't care if people like me or not. I remember sometimes I would feel hurt by comments people would make on here and in real life when it came to my appearance but I genuinely don't give a fuck anymore. I've discovered a lot of confidence when it comes to sex; new kinks I never thought would be my thing at all and I have enjoyed pushing boundaries with new people I have trust in. I used to hide myself quite a lot but I've realised now life is too short. So yes, a huge confidence change in myself appearance wise and even personality. I even get so many comments from people who knew me then who wouldn't recognise me today.
It's crazy how things can change for the better. |
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Yes fab has changed me, I'm more confident than I was & I was amazed by the demand on here......
Saying that, I'm no longer fascinated by all the dick pics I receive, Yes I was fascinated at 1st how every penis looks so different & I did visually 'study' them 🤭
It's not a novelty anymore though & I won't say why......  (re- dick pics) |
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"After catching up with a dear friend yesterday I've been thinking about how things have changed for me from when I first joined Fab.
Have you changed since joining? Discovered a love for something sexual, an approach to sex/relationships that wasn't there before etc? "
Please tell me it was Ligeia 
You two then spent the afternoon pillow fighting in just a pair of star wars socks each 🤤 |
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Yes, we’ve changed in our boundaries and desires.
When we first started here we were strictly about bisexual ladies joining us as that’s all we’d ever known.
A chance opportunity lead us into a mf foursome with a wonderful couple and then Pandora’s box had so much potential. Since then we enjoy the same level of kink with men as we always did with women.
Strictly straight men though.
Still don’t wanna catch the ghey like  |
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I've learned a remarkable amount about my needs in the two years I've been here. Particularly how they shift and quite a bit about what I thought I needed but don't.
Thanks to FAB my mind is pretty much a FOMO free zone when it comes to sex and, by extension, relationships |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 weeks ago
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"Well I had a healthy, active and imaginative sex life when I joined fab.
Now I'm on my own, sexless and about to become a nun
Seriously, that's true but I'm just in a different chapter of my life now."
Yeah, I like the different chapter idea. I hope that if you want to not be a nun, you don't have to be one. |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 weeks ago
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"I think I came into it not really knowing what to expect and being a bit "deer in the headlights" about it all, from socials, to clubs, to even the forums. I think I might just be a bit more assured of what I'm doing now and feel comfortable being a bit more forward with my intentions where I didn't feel as confident doing so when I first joined."
Oh Joe this is lovely and the sort of thing I was hoping to read. Confidence can make such a difference can't it? Even on the forums... finding your voice, what you want to talk about and being able to do so is important.
I like that your confidence has grown and you're cool with being a bottom. 🩷 |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 weeks ago
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"After catching up with a dear friend yesterday I've been thinking about how things have changed for me from when I first joined Fab.
Have you changed since joining? Discovered a love for something sexual, an approach to sex/relationships that wasn't there before etc?
Please tell me it was Ligeia
You two then spent the afternoon pillow fighting in just a pair of star wars socks each 🤤"
It wasn't.  Alas. She's one of two who will always be on the pedestal.  |
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Older.. but tbh, it’s desire to me has changed since covid and perhaps cuz I’m getting older and out of a lot of age ranges … so I find it not so good anymore… it was great at the beginning, meeting seemed easier.. but hey, onwards and upwards  |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 weeks ago
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"God, yes. We thought we’d be meeting other couples and swapping. Turns out we both really enjoy more of a hot wife scenario.
Mrs TMN x"
That's brilliant to read NipNips. You've found what really does it for you both. 🩷 |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 weeks ago
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"Well we met on here so that changed our focus and dynamics as having to think of someone else, other than yourself, in this lifestyle is very much different. "
Yes! Even going from being single to an ENM and then poly relationship... you have to think about another. Well choose to.
"I would say our sexual desires have changed and shaped from the relationships we’ve had with a few people. We’ve pushed boundaries and now sometimes C has met a few people by herself, once trust and respect for us both has been established, which is something we didn’t think would be a turn on. "
The right person, at the right time can really form part of your sexual identity, can't they? There are certain things that I'd have never really envisioned enjoying. And now I do thoroughly. And repeatedly.
"I also have a lot more respect for the varied dynamics of couples - there’s no one size fits all and appreciating and respectful other couples and what they get off on, has been an eye opener.
Every day is a lesson for sure.
K"
You softie K. How many years have you been together now?
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I'm sure I have changed.
I've never had a high sex drive and can take it or leave it and the same applies to fab.
I've gone through stages where I've been slightly more invested but the last 5 years have been a bit shit personally and health-wise so I have chosen not to meet anyone new during that time.
The only change I'm really aware of is that I'm definitely a lot more cynical since signing up here in 2016.
The vast majority of my fab experiences have been positive but I have met and chatted to a number of individuals who would literally sell their granny to climb the fab ladder, be relevant or be associated with certain other fabbers.
The reason my fab life has been mostly good is that I've never stooped to the levels that some are prepared to. |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 weeks ago
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"I have changed a lot since first joining - in outlook, in what I seek, in how I play, in me as a person, in how I contribute to the forums and in terms of being in a fully open relationship
There are only two constants here Meli - you and crumpet loaf "
Do you think you're still enjoying it as much? Being on Fab that is.
I'm quite a constant. Increasingly less so. You're the only person who I've ever thought about when eating delicious baked goods. ❤️ |
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Have been on here for about 5 years. And I've changed a lot, but not because of Fab but other things. Those changes have altered the way I use Fab, and consequently here a lot less. But it's all good and undoubtedly I'll continue changing |
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We've discovered a new love of a few things since joining. I discovered a new-found confidence to (re)try some things with Mr. Certainly thankful for that boost!
I'm feeling a little burnt out recently. My health has taken a little nose-dive. And, I'm craving for Mr to be more actively involved. And I feel maybe we need to pause until we can make that happen.
Still here for the socials and forums though!  |
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"Well we met on here so that changed our focus and dynamics as having to think of someone else, other than yourself, in this lifestyle is very much different. Yes! Even going from being single to an ENM and then poly relationship... you have to think about another. Well choose to.
I would say our sexual desires have changed and shaped from the relationships we’ve had with a few people. We’ve pushed boundaries and now sometimes C has met a few people by herself, once trust and respect for us both has been established, which is something we didn’t think would be a turn on.
The right person, at the right time can really form part of your sexual identity, can't they? There are certain things that I'd have never really envisioned enjoying. And now I do thoroughly. And repeatedly.
I also have a lot more respect for the varied dynamics of couples - there’s no one size fits all and appreciating and respectful other couples and what they get off on, has been an eye opener.
Every day is a lesson for sure.
K
You softie K. How many years have you been together now?
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5 years….we are getting old.
Although going to Ibiza event at a club tonight |
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By *eli OP Woman 4 weeks ago
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"I would say I have changed a lot, not because of Fab but over the time I've been here. I was never a frequent meeter but I did meet people sometimes and finding people to meet was my main reason for being here. Now it's more about community, I'm open to meeting should an appropriate person come to light but I'm not pushing for it or expecting it.
Partly I think I've changed because of lockdown and partly because there are more apps now where people are a little more free about what they want and while I still meet relatively rarely on them I still feel more comfortable on them than on here when it comes to trying to get dates/meets. "
I think viewing it as more of a community helps a lot. It removes the pressure doesn't it? You can enjoy it for what it is and anything else is a bonus. Meeting people etc.
Why are you more comfortable elsewhere sorting out meeting people? |
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"I have changed a lot since first joining - in outlook, in what I seek, in how I play, in me as a person, in how I contribute to the forums and in terms of being in a fully open relationship
There are only two constants here Meli - you and crumpet loaf
Do you think you're still enjoying it as much? Being on Fab that is.
I'm quite a constant. Increasingly less so. You're the only person who I've ever thought about when eating delicious baked goods. ❤️"
I have a love / hate relationship with Fab
I suspect it is on a par with some kind of addiction
I am largely inactive on the site these days
I certainly don't actively seek meets with any regularity
I do occasionally cast a line and see if anyone bites, but it usually goes no further than upping profile views
I am realistic about this though
I am now of an age that many aren't interested in
I am overweight, I am short, I am in a relationship, I have more terms and conditions to tick off than a mortgage application
No pitted lip though
Life is so much more than Fab
A point that many forget
I am also amused and concerned in equal measures that I come to mind as you sink your teeth into something hot and buttery |
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I used to take this place more seriously, which would lead to frustration with the low success rate a lot of us single males experience. But these days I just keep it as something to do when I'm bored, and if anything comes of it, great. It works pretty well for me. |
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