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Do their values make them more attractive?
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"They do but with men being chosen by ladies/couples I guess the physical attraction has to come first on a site like fab?
At least in the real world you get chance to show that early on"
I suppose it’s just that these qualities make them MORE attractive compared to others they find visually appealing |
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"They do but with men being chosen by ladies/couples I guess the physical attraction has to come first on a site like fab?
At least in the real world you get chance to show that early on
I suppose it’s just that these qualities make them MORE attractive compared to others they find visually appealing"
Absolutely agree
It’s just off fab you get time to see others deeper qualities
Not complaining though it’s all good  |
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"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?"
Hugely so. In fact I can’t imagine being attracted to anyone who wasn’t passionate 😘 |
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"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?
Hugely so. In fact I can’t imagine being attracted to anyone who wasn’t passionate 😘"
Yeah but does what they’re passionate about matter? Would it be better if its like your own passions? |
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"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?
Hugely so. In fact I can’t imagine being attracted to anyone who wasn’t passionate 😘
Yeah but does what they’re passionate about matter? Would it be better if its like your own passions?"
To me know. I just love to listen about their passions. It excites and thrills me and makes them achingly more attractive to me as a person, not just sexually 😘 |
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"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!
Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes "
Fuck! It's meant to say...
Anyone who thinks red grapes are better than green grapes!
Green grapes are the best! |
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I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving. |
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"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving."
Always surprises me when I meet someone who’s really into coffee and then I find out they only drink instant or rum and it’s Kraken, but these things are forgivable if everything else is good |
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"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?
Hugely so. In fact I can’t imagine being attracted to anyone who wasn’t passionate 😘"
Absolutely this! 🫶 |
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"Not sure which way round it works. But yes."
I was just pondering this. But for me it's physical first (yeah, call me Shallow Hal).
I could quickly find someone much less attractive based on their values, but I'm unlikely to fancy someone on the strength of their values alone. |
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I seem to be bucking the trend because im not sure values or morals means someone is more attractive to me.
Whether this makes them more attractive to me depends on the relationship.
If you are talking about meeting someone from here than I dont think it matters much, so long as the person is trying to push something I find repulsive down my throat, morally that is not physically obviously.
As for a long term relationship I think its important that there's some common ground but even then I dont think these things need to align perfectly, like they say opposites attract, just not too opposite and that's the trick I think,
Mrs x |
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"If someone's on the same wavelength as me I will definitely find them more attractive. Looks will attract me, but if our values don't align then the initial spark fades."
I totally agree and could've said that word for word! Isn'tit funny how that works out? 👀 |
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"I seem to be bucking the trend because im not sure values or morals means someone is more attractive to me.
Whether this makes them more attractive to me depends on the relationship.
If you are talking about meeting someone from here than I dont think it matters much, so long as the person is trying to push something I find repulsive down my throat, morally that is not physically obviously.
As for a long term relationship I think its important that there's some common ground but even then I dont think these things need to align perfectly, like they say opposites attract, just not too opposite and that's the trick I think,
Mrs x"
I meant NOT trying to push something morally repugnant down my throat, Mrs x |
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"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving."
What if they don't drink coffee at all?
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"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!
Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes
Fuck! It's meant to say...
Anyone who thinks red grapes are better than green grapes!
Green grapes are the best!"
Oh. My. God.
You can’t be for real?! |
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By *aizyWoman 4 weeks ago
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"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving."
Is the Nescafe a hard red line?? |
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"If someone's on the same wavelength as me I will definitely find them more attractive. Looks will attract me, but if our values don't align then the initial spark fades.
I totally agree and could've said that word for word! Isn'tit funny how that works out? 👀"
Plus I don't drink Nescafe. |
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"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving.
What if they don't drink coffee at all?
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I can live with that if they can live with me making it my whole personality. See, compromise! 😆 |
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"I can't imagine a relationship where someone's morals and values are totally different 🤔 I think there are a few things that can be compromised on but if I find out they drink Nescafé, then I can't see that relationship surviving.
Is the Nescafe a hard red line?? "
I'm only teasing... But if they're open to being converted 👀 |
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"If someone's on the same wavelength as me I will definitely find them more attractive. Looks will attract me, but if our values don't align then the initial spark fades.
I totally agree and could've said that word for word! Isn'tit funny how that works out? 👀
Plus I don't drink Nescafe."
Damn, you just keep getting better 😍 |
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"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?"
For me definitely. And context is always important. For people who align on those things there's a better chance of connecting, but equally if someone has different values, morals and passions, it can be a good chance to learn about something new, learn, develop, grow... Someone who is passionate about anything can be really compelling and attractive even if it's not something I am passionate about. |
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"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!
Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes "
But would you get into bed with someone those who thinks all grapes are an abomination? 🫣 |
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"Do people whose values align to us become more attractive to us? And do the morals or passions of someone make them more attractive? Or just do these things not matter much?"
Yes, these things absolutely matter to me. As I'm all about friendship before the benefits happen, then values are hugely important as it's very unlikely I'll find it possible to be friends with someone that has opposing values to me, let alone do anything else with them. |
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"Yeah, I'm not getting into bed with anyone who supported Liz Truss!
Or anyone who thinks green grapes are better than red grapes
But would you get into bed with someone those who thinks all grapes are an abomination? 🫣"
Grapes? You mean raw wine? |
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