We love a bit of banter. A good natter is the way into our pants (sizeable knockers help, too).
I find that it's often hard to find people we can chat with. Some people hardly say anything. Some people only respond to things we say (like answer questions we ask) but never bring anything without some sort of prompting (like they never ask us anything or say something they want to say). Others there's loads to talk about and a conversation is a good sharing of thoughts, opinions, experiences and all sorts.
We find that last version rare, especially on Fab, but that's the version we seek. A lot of people want a few sentences and that will lead to the bedroom. Each to their own. If that works for them I have no issue with that. It's just not us.
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It’s hard on here. Often feels like people are just replying for the sake of replying and it doesn’t feel like they actually want to talk to you or are enthused.
People will ask questions and will try to keep the conversation going, WHEN THEY WANT TO. It’s a hard truth for a lot of us but sometimes it’s just that they’re not that into the conversation |
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Oh my gosh I find it difficult to get a good conversation going here. Most don't want to talk much or as you say it's one-sided. There are a few I chat with in more depth but I find it difficult to get it flowing on here.
Will admit it's possibly a me issue, I'm better chatting in person rather via on-line |
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 weeks ago
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Most of the conversations I have on here aren't sexual in any way.
Some its just idle chit chat for entertainment purposes. Others it a specific discussion on a subject or theme.
Very rarely is it anything geared to building up to a 'so, fancy a fuck?' thing.
But then I'm the same in clubs. I can happily chew the fat with anyone and have often actually missed opportunities to get naked with someone because we've just been too busy chatting. 🤷♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ |
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I find it hard to find motivation for stimulating conversations.
I'm not that interested in other people's lives unless they are extremely interesting or adventurous.
I hate people who pontificate, or want highly charged political debates. Even worse are people who watch a lot of podcasts or tik tok and parrot back what some dick on there thinks is wrong with the world.
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I have lots of great non sexual conversations here. Usually they are generated by status updates. I've had status updates about music, films I'm watching, books I'm reading, football. And on the back of that people have messaged and we've talked about that.
Similarly, on my profile I've specified several interests - musical theatre, running, board games, my dog - and have had some great conversations around those. |
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I like a good natter with the right people. But then it can soon get to being a sexual conversation here and I’m just not into that. I am with someone I know. And not with someone I don’t.
It’s a fine balance really. I find I don’t ask questions back OP when I’m either too busy to have the conversation - which knowing me I will have said more than once, or I don’t want to spend my time chatting on here and want to fuck about on the forums instead. |
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It's a hard balance isn't it? At the start when people contact me, I'm assessing if the person is genuine and if they're likely to meet you.
So often though people ghost or disappear or are just not genuine so you don't want to waste too much time on conversations.
I used to be way more chatty on here than I am now. Now I'd much prefer to meet up quickly and have a social so at least then you know if there's chemistry. You also know they're genuine too. It's surprising how few people you actually fancy and have great chemistry with
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"I like a good natter with the right people. But then it can soon get to being a sexual conversation here and I’m just not into that. I am with someone I know. And not with someone I don’t.
It’s a fine balance really. I find I don’t ask questions back OP when I’m either too busy to have the conversation - which knowing me I will have said more than once, or I don’t want to spend my time chatting on here and want to fuck about on the forums instead. "
What I find can be a problem is that a conversation about sex is received as a sexual conversation, if that makes sense? |
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"I like a good natter with the right people. But then it can soon get to being a sexual conversation here and I’m just not into that. I am with someone I know. And not with someone I don’t.
It’s a fine balance really. I find I don’t ask questions back OP when I’m either too busy to have the conversation - which knowing me I will have said more than once, or I don’t want to spend my time chatting on here and want to fuck about on the forums instead.
What I find can be a problem is that a conversation about sex is received as a sexual conversation, if that makes sense?"
I totally agree. |
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"I don't have knockers but I do have a novelty musical door bell.
That may not be a route into our pants. It's hard to say without experiencing your doorbell. "
Maybe I will put a doorbell video out there. |
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I need to have a vibe with someone through messaging before I'll even think about meeting them. So I need to have a reasonably decent conversation with them on messaging. So those one sided conversations where someone just answers with one word, doesn't offer information or throw questions and opinions back drive me to just give up. I understand people can be guarded - and quite rightly so - but you need to sell me the benefits of actually meeting you for a social. If I'm going to be sitting there nursing a diet soda trying to tease out a conversation and then make my excuses after the first drink, which is what some messaging feels like, I'd rather not waste my time thanks. |
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I have a lot of full conversations with people. But they don't like it because they just want the sex. The cyber interaction, in some odd cases they want to meet. Not many people actually meet these days.
It's almost like I've just had a conversation with myself. |
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By *YDB75Man 3 weeks ago
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"We love a bit of banter. A good natter is the way into our pants (sizeable knockers help, too).
I find that it's often hard to find people we can chat with. Some people hardly say anything. Some people only respond to things we say (like answer questions we ask) but never bring anything without some sort of prompting (like they never ask us anything or say something they want to say). Others there's loads to talk about and a conversation is a good sharing of thoughts, opinions, experiences and all sorts.
We find that last version rare, especially on Fab, but that's the version we seek. A lot of people want a few sentences and that will lead to the bedroom. Each to their own. If that works for them I have no issue with that. It's just not us.
How do you find conversations in the world of Fab? "
Can usually tell which way a convo is gonna go pretty quick but i do like banter and laughs. Some of my humour is dark and some is a little what ya might call “mid 90’s” banter and some just dont get it. |
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I agree it’s a hard balance … I want something sparky to initially connect with someone and (if I do say so) I think I’m fairly good at that bit so if I get a response it’s all good.
Then sex is introduced… I mean I know it’s a site to meet people for that but, can we not have that as a given and still do the non-sexual stuff to get to know one another a bit? Cos that’s what’ll lead to Doing It! |
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The forums are where to come for chat to be fair, messages are introductions and tend to be awkward unless there is a decent match of interests on the bio’s.
It’s great to find someone that likes the same things as I do and chat about those things at length, but it’s not the primary connection I am looking for on fab. If we have things in common other than attraction and kinks then it’s a bonus.
I see a lot of profiles that prioritise chat and that’s fine but most profiles don’t contain interests beyond the sexual restricting any other option but to talk about the sexual 😂😂.
The forums are great for non sex chat and it’s where you are most likely going to get the chat you are after.
Truthfully when I read a bio now that demands some sort of constant stream of mental stimulation I scroll right by, as I have to presume they lack the skills necessary to be in any way stimulating themselves.
Sorry if that sounded grumpy by the way 😂
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"I agree it’s a hard balance … I want something sparky to initially connect with someone and (if I do say so) I think I’m fairly good at that bit so if I get a response it’s all good.
Then sex is introduced… I mean I know it’s a site to meet people for that but, can we not have that as a given and still do the non-sexual stuff to get to know one another a bit? Cos that’s what’ll lead to Doing It! "
That's exactly what we like. There is a particular couple we socialise with. We've been out to dinner on a few occasions and nothing sexual happens. We just chew the cud. And then sometimes we end up in bed together. It's a lovely arrangement, and very hot.
It's that blurred line between the platonic and the sexual. If there was no prospect of anything happening between us, we'd still want to socialise with them. |
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I’m quite nosy, so I generally ask a lot of questions but if it’s all one way and they are boring in conversation then I just get rid. I don’t think I’ve ever slept with anyone who was rubbish at conversation and good in bed to me the two things are linked. |
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"I’m quite nosy, so I generally ask a lot of questions but if it’s all one way and they are boring in conversation then I just get rid. I don’t think I’ve ever slept with anyone who was rubbish at conversation and good in bed to me the two things are linked."
Quite true! I don’t really understand the view that chat/ conversation doesn’t matter … unless people hook up and literally just fuck and go? What about the tea break - WILL NO ONE THINK OF THE TEA BREAK |
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"I like a good natter with the right people. But then it can soon get to being a sexual conversation here and I’m just not into that. I am with someone I know. And not with someone I don’t.
It’s a fine balance really. I find I don’t ask questions back OP when I’m either too busy to have the conversation - which knowing me I will have said more than once, or I don’t want to spend my time chatting on here and want to fuck about on the forums instead.
What I find can be a problem is that a conversation about sex is received as a sexual conversation, if that makes sense?"
Yes it makes perfect sense. I’m happy to talk about dirty chewbacca and all but I don’t want one 🤷♂️ |
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Hey guys after all this being said I am baffled.
I found myself at the other end of this lets say problem, many people say they want there mind to be stimulated or someone who can hold a conversation and so on, I always put effort in my opening message even tho I dont think am great at them haha and maybe its that or my looks but there’s barely even any answer and if there is its just like you describe it. I would even say soulless
And still those are the people usually stating things about holding a conversation I mean its really strange |
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"Hey guys after all this being said I am baffled.
I found myself at the other end of this lets say problem, many people say they want there mind to be stimulated or someone who can hold a conversation and so on, I always put effort in my opening message even tho I dont think am great at them haha and maybe its that or my looks but there’s barely even any answer and if there is its just like you describe it. I would even say soulless
And still those are the people usually stating things about holding a conversation I mean its really strange"
But they might not want to chat right then. Or you’re not what they’re looking for on here. This happens all the time 😘 |
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"Hey guys after all this being said I am baffled.
I found myself at the other end of this lets say problem, many people say they want there mind to be stimulated or someone who can hold a conversation and so on, I always put effort in my opening message even tho I dont think am great at them haha and maybe its that or my looks but there’s barely even any answer and if there is its just like you describe it. I would even say soulless
And still those are the people usually stating things about holding a conversation I mean its really strange"
But your idea of getting a conversation going isn't going to appeal to everybody. People are free to choose who they do and don't want continue a conversation with and it doesn't change that they like to chat with people. |
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By *AYENCouple 3 weeks ago
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I regularly chat with two women on here - just normal conversation that can include sex, but not wank chat. I've tried chatting with guys, both single and coupled, on the understanding that I have no interest in wank chat, but it always turns pushed, grunty and monosyllabic - so I generally avoid chatting with other guys, but in theory happy to do so. K. |
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By *eliWoman 3 weeks ago
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Generally quite good. I can lose interest very quickly if the responses are a self focused dramatic monologue; they can main character someone else to mindnumbing boredom.
I'm quite curious (only slightly) and I love learning new people enthusiastically which isn't for everyone but for the most part I talk to people who, whilst they may not be as buoyant in conversation always, put up with it with grace. 
I like the teasing, the quick wit, that shared energy, building friendships. I was going to type poor conversationalists turn me off but I don't think poor is quite fair. Incompatible ones do.
Oh and people who are relaxed about replying times? You're great. |
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Natural flowing chat, not forced… topics can be so varied and I love that.
No pressure to keep replying to a message either.
There is a fine line between chatting and meeting though (my belief), that’s when it can fizzle out. Meeting face to face, not necessarily jumping your bones 😊 |
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