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"Would you rather ask them and have difficult conversations or rather just carry on in blissful ignorance "
I'm poly and if you're ENM communication is key.
One of things with swinging as a couple, being in a polycule etc. it will make a strong relationship stronger but it burns weak relationships to the ground as all the cracks get exposed.
That means having the hard conversations.
If you sit on it, it will generally only get harder.
This is a generalisation.
But in most cases |
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One of most close friends are on fab as single and. Bisexual, I am widowed and bi oral. I do not want to destroy our friendship and have not asked anything but I am so tempted to confuse and be honest |
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"Would you rather ask them and have difficult conversations or rather just carry on in blissful ignorance
I'm poly and if you're ENM communication is key.
One of things with swinging as a couple, being in a polycule etc. it will make a strong relationship stronger but it burns weak relationships to the ground as all the cracks get exposed.
That means having the hard conversations.
If you sit on it, it will generally only get harder.
This is a generalisation.
But in most cases"
I agree with everything you’ve said here |
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By *eliWoman 5 weeks ago
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Sometimes I choose blissful ignorance. I already know the answer, really. The other person will respond in a particular way (I don't do well with any signs of aggression) and I just think what's the point? Not every conversation needs to be had.
If it really does though? I'll awkwardly but determinedly get through it. Like discussing sexual health. It's happening. |
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Gotta weigh up if the person has an emotional ego or if they are logical adults.
I'd say most people aren't capable of being real adults. So you must avoid. Particularly in a professional setting you know some people are there on merit while others are related to people or have the employer wrapped around their little finger.
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"Would you rather ask them and have difficult conversations or rather just carry on in blissful ignorance "
If you're thinking about asking, then in honesty I think you already you know the as answer and are looking for confirmation... What will you do with that info. Once you've opened Pandora's box, you can't close it
I guess it depends on the purpose and what you will do with the information |
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"Part of my job is difficult questions/conversations. I don't relish doing it at all but you learn techniques to handle the responses and situations"
Funnily enough I have a work training on high quality conversations coming up. Just had one in emotional intelligence. |
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"Sometimes I choose blissful ignorance. I already know the answer, really. The other person will respond in a particular way (I don't do well with any signs of aggression) and I just think what's the point? Not every conversation needs to be had.
If it really does though? I'll awkwardly but determinedly get through it. Like discussing sexual health. It's happening."
Like discussing sexual health with your small c conservative West Indian family. |
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"I always ask. And I always only accept honesty. I can deal with tough conversations. I can’t deal with lies 😘
Ok. Why are you sexy?
You’re not allowed to say ‘I’m just me’
I’m just me 🤣🤣"
If I was closer I’d spank your bum.
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Depends on the outcome of the conversation. If it means something will change I might avoid the conversation if I'm not ready for that change. But if it something that has to happen then I'll do it. Eventually. |
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"Depends on the outcome of the conversation. If it means something will change I might avoid the conversation if I'm not ready for that change. But if it something that has to happen then I'll do it. Eventually."
Eventually is better than never |
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If a conversation is avoided long enough, then the topic of why are we avoiding conversations becomes even more pertinent.
If we can't trust each other with the truth then what's the point in talking at all? |
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Always ask.
Hard conversations are definitely the important ones and are only hard because they’re important.
Communication is paramount and pretending that everything is ok is only hurting both people |
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I don’t always like it, but I’ve learned over the years that if you need to say a thing, say the thing. No good can come of suppressing or avoiding things. I really value when others treat me the same way too.
What about you, OP?
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"Would you rather ask them and have difficult conversations or rather just carry on in blissful ignorance "
There's a third option. Not everything needs to be said. The people that impress me the most are the ones who know when to let a thing work itself out. |
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Whether I ask the question depends on what I'm going to do with the answer.
Sometimes it's nosiness prompting me to ask, rather than a real need to know. Once I have the answer I can't feign ignorance any more, so the lazy part of me sometimes chooses to leave things be.
If it's something that matters to me then I'd rather just have the conversation. |
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