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I am still finding it hard as never been on my own . I have family but they have there life’s . My other half died over year ago so down sized on the Norfolk coast it’s lovely having the sea and beach on my door step but I am struggling to go out into pubs and things alone. I have Just join the sailing club to make friends I hope and there’s lots going on here. It’s just getting out there to do it on my own . X Just how do you cope with it if alone like me first time in your life .?  |
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I’m alone with no family at all so I feel you. It’s not the first time in my life for me, but I generally enjoy my own company so it’s not a bad thing all the time. I like to make friends online though and chat when I can. I think it’s really positive you’ve joined a club and that will hopefully widen your circle of friends.
You’re not alone and you will get to enjoy it. Just remember to reach out to friends when you need to. Always here if you would like a natter 😘 |
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"I am still finding it hard as never been on my own . I have family but they have there life’s . My other half died over year ago so down sized on the Norfolk coast it’s lovely having the sea and beach on my door step but I am struggling to go out into pubs and things alone. I have Just join the sailing club to make friends I hope and there’s lots going on here. It’s just getting out there to do it on my own . X Just how do you cope with it if alone like me first time in your life .? "
I think as adults we don't realise how difficult it is to be alone. When my marriage broke down I got a dog for company and its absolutely incredible. Don't get me wrong in an adult context I have next to know social connections which is absolutely shite at times. Music, books, being outside are my go too things to try and focus my mind |
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Finding like minded folk can be hard, you seem to be on the right track. I am lucky to have my son as otherwise I would be alone and do crave adult company sometimes. I have always been quite happy on my own so can only say that for the times when no one is around, finding an activity that you enjoy is crucial. |
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I'm used to my own company. I used to travel alone as well. Have a adult child who will probably live with me for life as London is so expensive to move out. |
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"Hi OP
I’m alone with no family at all so I feel you. It’s not the first time in my life for me, but I generally enjoy my own company so it’s not a bad thing all the time. I like to make friends online though and chat when I can. I think it’s really positive you’ve joined a club and that will hopefully widen your circle of friends.
You’re not alone and you will get to enjoy it. Just remember to reach out to friends when you need to. Always here if you would like a natter 😘"
Thank you that’s very sweet of you x it just going into pubs and restaurants alone I feel self conscious maybe in time will over come that x |
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"Sorry for your loss.
I’m adapting a bit from a divorce but mostly enjoying it and catch up with things and people I let slip over the years."
I hope to get out to more clubs and meet new people . It’s all a bit strange asking people you don’t know around your house x |
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It's not easy, as someone who knows and struggles.
Being out of the school run/workplace social life and not having a dog is going to be hard.
Why not arrange a beach visit with someone in your in box and take it from there? |
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"It's not easy, as someone who knows and struggles.
Being out of the school run/workplace social life and not having a dog is going to be hard.
Why not arrange a beach visit with someone in your in box and take it from there?"
I have two dogs one old lab and a westy I take her out on the beach at times x |
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"It's not easy, as someone who knows and struggles.
Being out of the school run/workplace social life and not having a dog is going to be hard.
Why not arrange a beach visit with someone in your in box and take it from there? I have two dogs one old lab and a westy I take her out on the beach at times x "
That's something positive. Waves! Woof woof!
I miss that, living up the road from the beach and having a dog, not at the same time though. |
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"I'm used to my own company. I used to travel alone as well. Have an adult child who will probably live with me for life as London is so expensive to move out."
I would love to travel go on holiday but alone at the airport lol and hotel be very strange . X
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"Do you have any interests or hobbies OP?
Something that could get you socialising with others without committing to anything serious.
I'm thinking walking,or dancing,art, music.....
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I am going to take yoga up they do it on the beach here. I love swimming too so be doing that and some lovely beaches here . |
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"Hi OP
I’m alone with no family at all so I feel you. It’s not the first time in my life for me, but I generally enjoy my own company so it’s not a bad thing all the time. I like to make friends online though and chat when I can. I think it’s really positive you’ve joined a club and that will hopefully widen your circle of friends.
You’re not alone and you will get to enjoy it. Just remember to reach out to friends when you need to. Always here if you would like a natter 😘 Thank you that’s very sweet of you x it just going into pubs and restaurants alone I feel self conscious maybe in time will over come that x "
The going out alone takes a bit of getting used to. The only advice I can give you on that is be in the right headspace first. Some days I don’t bother because I just can’t face being sat alone in a place full of people; but others I’ll chat to anyone. It’ll come OP. I promise 😘 |
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By *idssissyTV/TS 3 weeks ago
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I have spent most of my life alone. I have friends and family to see and talk to but most are busy with their own lives.
I try and get out every day even if just to the local spoons and interact with the bar staff. That way at least someone knows I still exist. |
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"I have spent most of my life alone. I have friends and family to see and talk to but most are busy with their own lives.
I try and get out every day even if just to the local spoons and interact with the bar staff. That way at least someone knows I still exist. "
yes and if that helps you that’s good xx |
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I think traveling alone is great.
I used to go around Rome, Naples, Athens etc... learning stuff.
When you are alone you can be a self absorbed geek without compromise.
You can meet men along the way. |
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I’m starting to get used to being on my own now and am learning to be comfortable with my own company. I travel regularly for work so being in a restaurant or bar on my own isn’t unusual for me, the difference is not having someone to call or check in with.
My real life social circle is widening now, I started an acting class to meet new people and I am about to start attending a local book club. For those occasions when I am home alone and feeling lonely, I have become much more active on the forums, there is always someone to chat with even if it is something that I know nothing about.
I have had to learn to be gentle and kind with myself, it is a massive transition and won’t always be easy. |
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It's so strange how many people actually are find themselves alone..
Everyone have their reasons..
Personally..spending the majority of my adult life looking after my disabled Mother until covid took her..
But it's something that isn't easy..and it's hard to explain if you've not experienced it.. |
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"I'm not alone but read your post, viewed your profile, FABd plenty of pics  and just wanted to say hi - here if you ever want to chat 😘
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hi nice to meet you xx Thank you And your pics are lovely. X |
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"I am still finding it hard as never been on my own . I have family but they have there life’s . My other half died over year ago so down sized on the Norfolk coast it’s lovely having the sea and beach on my door step but I am struggling to go out into pubs and things alone. I have Just join the sailing club to make friends I hope and there’s lots going on here. It’s just getting out there to do it on my own . X Just how do you cope with it if alone like me first time in your life .? "
Aww bless you, reading this post just makes me wanna come give you a hug! Being alone can be rough but you're a good looking woman so when you're ready I'm sure you'll find someone. Stay strong xx |
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"I am still finding it hard as never been on my own . I have family but they have there life’s . My other half died over year ago so down sized on the Norfolk coast it’s lovely having the sea and beach on my door step but I am struggling to go out into pubs and things alone. I have Just join the sailing club to make friends I hope and there’s lots going on here. It’s just getting out there to do it on my own . X Just how do you cope with it if alone like me first time in your life .?
Aww bless you, reading this post just makes me wanna come give you a hug! Being alone can be rough but you're a good looking woman so when you're ready I'm sure you'll find someone. Stay strong xx"
kisses that’s very sweet I will take all the hugs I can get thank you xxx |
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I always hated the fact of being alone after a relationship so I never got deeply involved with anyone. Seen so many people going through it after break up or losing their partner.
Being single suits me better than being with someone.
It will take some getting used to. You may even find someone who suits your needs. At the end of the day it's you that counts and needs to look after yourself.
Then you'll get used to it, or meet a new soul mate if destiny leads you that way. Good luck and stay positive. |
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I’m starting to feel alone now my children are moving on with their lives.
I often find myself alone in my home with mainly YouTube as my companion. Other hobbies include reading music and the gym but my osteoarthritis has temporarily put a stop to exercise.
I walked away from fake frenemies and on the whole I don’t mind my own company.
I do appreciate however it can be difficult as adults making new friendships.
Good luck OP |
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It is strange, when your on your own you want to be with someone, then when your with someone you wish you was on your own again. When you are on your own, at least you can watch the football any time you want. |
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"Hope it's getting better.
By the way are you a model you look 39
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lol well you made me smile. Age is a number and I know there’s a lot of life in me. It’s just navigating this new life this new place I am living it’s lovely and maybe I just need to be brave . Your a lovely lot here I forgot why I loved fab over the years and it was forums the people you somehow see a different side to me his site . Xxx |
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"It is strange, when your on your own you want to be with someone, then when your with someone you wish you was on your own again. When you are on your own, at least you can watch the football any time you want."
I was looking after my other half 8 years ill and I do think it’s now time for me . X
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"Love being on my own hate having people around me
But you're profile says looking to make friends 🤔"
friends on my terms as opposed to having someone around me 24/7 (ie in a relationship) I love my own space and detest being told what I can and can’t do |
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By *2021Man 3 weeks ago
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Hi OP,
Like you, I'm struggling with being alone - I moved across Europe to be with someone, but after 4 years it's all over and I'm coming back to the UK.
My problem is that I sold my house in Scotland and am going to have to live with my mum whilst I financially recover, for probably 2 years.
I've signed up for Parkrun, joined a local walking group, and am trying to reach out to any groups that I might fit into.
This is compounded by my new job being mobile, so I'll be on the road 4/5 days a week.
If I'm ever down near you, I'll come and sail with you |
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"Hi OP
I’m alone with no family at all so I feel you. It’s not the first time in my life for me, but I generally enjoy my own company so it’s not a bad thing all the time. I like to make friends online though and chat when I can. I think it’s really positive you’ve joined a club and that will hopefully widen your circle of friends.
You’re not alone and you will get to enjoy it. Just remember to reach out to friends when you need to. Always here if you would like a natter 😘 Thank you that’s very sweet of you x it just going into pubs and restaurants alone I feel self conscious maybe in time will over come that x
The going out alone takes a bit of getting used to. The only advice I can give you on that is be in the right headspace first. Some days I don’t bother because I just can’t face being sat alone in a place full of people; but others I’ll chat to anyone. It’ll come OP. I promise 😘"
I was going to add similar to what Littlebird has said. Ive been single for quite a while.
I date myself, but it took a while. Started by Going to coffee shops, lunchtime out for food, then progressed to holidays etc.
Ive joined a local singles group, (not a dating group), as I miss friendships. |
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"Hi OP
I’m alone with no family at all so I feel you. It’s not the first time in my life for me, but I generally enjoy my own company so it’s not a bad thing all the time. I like to make friends online though and chat when I can. I think it’s really positive you’ve joined a club and that will hopefully widen your circle of friends.
You’re not alone and you will get to enjoy it. Just remember to reach out to friends when you need to. Always here if you would like a natter 😘 Thank you that’s very sweet of you x it just going into pubs and restaurants alone I feel self conscious maybe in time will over come that x
The going out alone takes a bit of getting used to. The only advice I can give you on that is be in the right headspace first. Some days I don’t bother because I just can’t face being sat alone in a place full of people; but others I’ll chat to anyone. It’ll come OP. I promise 😘
I was going to add similar to what Littlebird has said. Ive been single for quite a while.
I date myself, but it took a while. Started by Going to coffee shops, lunchtime out for food, then progressed to holidays etc.
Ive joined a local singles group, (not a dating group), as I miss friendships."
That’s a new way of looking at things dating yourself. I may just have a go at that see how it feels x I love hot holidays I dive and go to Madives and places and love it . Would love to go to more in winter time . |
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Hello Jo,
I remember you well. I remember how social and friendly you were. I'm sure you will settle back in here and people will take to you right away.
There are online friendship groups to join for people in the same boat as yourself. You could meet a mix of people and not those who are just looking for sex. You can be choosy there.
Best of both worlds. x |
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I’ve always loved on my own all my adult life never married or lived with anyone so it’s normal for me .
I don’t have any family left now and was never what you could call close and travelled with work a lot so never lived in same town to family in many years |
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Technically not alone, as my daughter lives with me... but single dad life has been tough at times. Teenagers aren't the most sociable creatures! Ha ha! It does get easier with time, have been alone for 6 years now and quite enjoy my own company. Privacy is a bit of an issue... but where there's a will, there's a way |
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I have been alone for a a few years now, I do however like my own company which is just as well. I have friends and family but do sometimes miss having someone to bounce off. I have done solo holidays which are not as bad as you would imagine and holidayed with family. I like to make new friends and chat, some people are okay being alone others prefer being in a couple everyone is different. |
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I’ve recently (last few years, since lockdown) discovered that I’m quite comfortable in my own company. On paper I’m quite a ‘catch’ but converting that into a situation where I’m in a relationship is becoming more difficult lately.
I’m lucky insofar as I’m financially comfortable, but having no immediate family left was highlighted recently by losing my beautiful cat.
I’m becoming more insular each day, but I’m ok with it. Maybe it’s not too late to find a less solitary ‘normal’ one day. |
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"I am still finding it hard as never been on my own . I have family but they have there life’s . My other half died over year ago so down sized on the Norfolk coast it’s lovely having the sea and beach on my door step but I am struggling to go out into pubs and things alone. I have Just join the sailing club to make friends I hope and there’s lots going on here. It’s just getting out there to do it on my own . X Just how do you cope with it if alone like me first time in your life .? "
Hello
I'm sorry to hear about your partner, that's very hard. My brother died a few years ago and it's not easy.
I love being on my own but also being in the company of others.
I live in Norwich and have a good social life but I also love doing things on my own too.
Whereabouts are you on the coast? There's a Norwich Social on the 1st Saturday of the month. I find it really fun.
Plus there's lots going on women's friendship group wise. Loads of walks and activity groups too. Being on the coast can be beautiful but a little isolated depending on where you are on the coast.
If you want to chat then let me know. I think my filters are on so I can message you if yours are off?
Jx
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I have been alone for years..I have family but only hear from them when they need something usually.. friends are all still around but all have families
It becomes a way of life and you get used to it |
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I was on my own for 3 years after my divorce had a great time lot of sex with different women but it was killing me slowly so was great meeting my current wife who calmed me down but still gave me lots of sex |
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Very difficult.
It is important to get out, join the clubs, go to gyms/pubs/social settings and be brave. There is a local board game cafe to me that do single player nights, not dating, just people who might not have a social circle to come and play a game, break some ice and meet some new people. I think that'd suit me to a t. |
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