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By *iddler83 OP   Man 2 weeks ago

barnet

Ladies we guys all know the ratios as massively swung in your favour.

With guys messaging you. Do you ever look / search for guys (message them first),or is there no need to as your inbox is already massively full and don’t need to search.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 2 weeks ago

Reading

I don't but many women do.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman 2 weeks ago

Reading

I don't send a lot of first messages but it does happen.

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By *eyond PurityCouple 2 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We search as leaving it to our inbox and expecting that perfect person (to us) to message us, is improbable. Not impossible but not likely for sure…

K

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman 2 weeks ago

Donut City

It's not unusual for me to message first.

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By *rdere OpusCouple 2 weeks ago

Brum - ish

I always used to search and often sent messages first as a single woman.

L

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By *parkle1974Woman 2 weeks ago

Leeds

I'll look and definitely message first when someone catches my eye.. nothing ventured, nothing gained x

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By *oomerangboyMan 2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I can count on one hand the amount of first messages I’ve received of ladies in all the years I’ve been on fabs, but yeah many probably don’t feel the need of their inbox is bulging x

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By *emma200Woman 2 weeks ago

Warwickshire

I don’t do it very often but If someone’s really took my interest then I have x

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By *62GeneralMan 2 weeks ago

Loughton

The only first messages ‘I’ve had from a lady’ both were from men pretending to be ladies 🤦🏼

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By *exyScientistsCouple 2 weeks ago

Castlebar


"Ladies we guys all know the ratios as massively swung in your favour.

With guys messaging you. Do you ever look / search for guys (message them first),or is there no need to as your inbox is already massively full and don’t need to search.

"

I've never done a search but if someone caught my eye I might send a wink 😉 😇

I have sent an occasional message if they have winked or fabbed a picture and I'm interested

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By *uliette500Woman 2 weeks ago

Hull

I occasionally send first messages but these tend to be off the back of a forum thread or a status update, it's very rare for me to actively look for men to message.

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By *astetheRainbow40Man 2 weeks ago

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By *thfloorCouple 2 weeks ago

Hove

On my solo account sure I look around and will message if someone moves me to.

Wanted to say though OP, many men with completely empty profiles will randomly inbox you all their blurb and pics, like some private gallery viewing event. So there's also that.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman 2 weeks ago

Altrincham

If I message first it's from forums, I don't go actively searching

Inbox is usually pretty full and then if I join the status update game it gets ridiculous because I open filters too

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By *luebell888Woman 2 weeks ago

Glasgowish

Quite often I message men who catch my eye. Life is too short to sit on the fence.

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By *exyInLatinMan 2 weeks ago

Warsop

As a bloke if a woman messages me first it’s like winning the lottery 🤣 and honestly it’s a wonderful feeling, not just because you know she’s fancies you, but it’s attractive, she obviously has the confidence to say what she wants.

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By *oomerangboyMan 2 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"The only first messages ‘I’ve had from a lady’ both were from men pretending to be ladies 🤦🏼"

This ⬆️

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By *mmaleiaWoman 2 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I message 1st if I’m interested, it’s rare a guy has messaged me & I was interested in replying

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By *attooboy100Man 2 weeks ago

Dudley


"As a bloke if a woman messages me first it’s like winning the lottery 🤣 and honestly it’s a wonderful feeling, not just because you know she’s fancies you, but it’s attractive, she obviously has the confidence to say what she wants."

I second this 👍

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By *hechonkyduoCouple 2 weeks ago

The Heart of Hollownest, Dudleyish.

I do reach out to blokes first as the guys who message me rarely match what we are looking for.

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By *anchesterTaurusMan 2 weeks ago

Prestwich

It's a nice feeling to get a message off a female, even if it's nothing that could lead to a meet etc, just to converse with like minded people.

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By *exyInLatinMan 2 weeks ago

Warsop


"It's a nice feeling to get a message off a female, even if it's nothing that could lead to a meet etc, just to converse with like minded people. "

Yep! This 100%

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By *peedyGMan 2 weeks ago

Telford


"As a bloke if a woman messages me first it’s like winning the lottery 🤣 and honestly it’s a wonderful feeling, not just because you know she’s fancies you, but it’s attractive, she obviously has the confidence to say what she wants.

I second this 👍"

I 3rd it

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By *inger_SnapWoman 2 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

If they had appealing photos and a good bio, that matched what I was looking for, then I definitely would!

But so few put the effort in it's a rare occurrence.

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By *ittlebirdWoman 2 weeks ago

The Big Smoke


"Ladies we guys all know the ratios as massively swung in your favour.

With guys messaging you. Do you ever look / search for guys (message them first),or is there no need to as your inbox is already massively full and don’t need to search.

"

Yes 👍🏻

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman 2 weeks ago

Reading

I don’t actively search as I’m not chasing anything at the moment but if I see someone that takes my interest, maybe from a forum post or a status update or a hot picture, then I will message first.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman 2 weeks ago

little house on the praire

When I was meeting, definetly. Not to many only ones I thought i was comparable with

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By *rPunxMan 2 weeks ago

Hull

Somehow I just seem to get them off guys who claim to be straight asking if I'm really straight 🤔

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By *vaRoseWoman 2 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork


"Ladies we guys all know the ratios as massively swung in your favour.

With guys messaging you. Do you ever look / search for guys (message them first),or is there no need to as your inbox is already massively full and don’t need to search.

"

Yes I have

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By *2000ManMan 2 weeks ago

Worthing

Best let them find you op.

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By *hunky GentMan 2 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

Ive not done the calculation, but i approximately 1% of my messages are first time messages from women.

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By *hirleyMan 2 weeks ago

London

I had a girl message me first once or twice. Was good, I treated myself to a glass of wine

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