Do any other guys get nervous about messaging people.
As a single guy I know our reputation isn't brilliant.
I've been here a while and got very lucky once which was amazing but I just can't pluck up the courage to message, I'm very polite etc...i guess it's just a polite no and take it on the chin 🤷 |
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I’ve always been hesitant in the past when messaging, specially the women only profiles, most of the time it will be ignored or just deleted, but as the saying goes, you don’t know if you don’t ask, what have you got to lose? |
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"Do any other guys get nervous about messaging people.
As a single guy I know our reputation isn't brilliant.
I've been here a while and got very lucky once which was amazing but I just can't pluck up the courage to message, I'm very polite etc...i guess it's just a polite no and take it on the chin 🤷"
I totally sympathise, not entirely sure why it makes me nervous  |
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As I’ve got older one thing experience has told me is that you never score the shots you don’t take.
So they reject you. Meh. Their loss (actually it isn’t, as they never wanted to meet you anyway but you get my drift)
If you’re polite and a decent chap (as you say you are) get yerself to a club and mingle there and let your personality flow out.
These days I do all my “sex people” activity in clubs. Cuts out all the admin and bureaucracy and much more effective way of getting your willy wet  |
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Dear OP, if your intent is to send 'solicited' messages then you shouldn't feel nervous or inhibited. Sending a polite and personalised message is totally fine, assuming that you've read the recipient's profile and there are some potential compatibilities.
Send with no expectations and delete your message from the Sent 'folder'. 🩶 |
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I guess I'm still new to all this...I worry that someone might reply! Lol!...
I always read everything as I really don't want to be rude? And I guess sometimes you get some information to start a conversation?
I'll have to put the proverbial big boy pants on I think... |
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"Go for it OP nothing ventured nothing gained you seem like a pleasant chap 👍"
Thankyou, I try to be, it's quite difficult getting that over in a message?
I always say "pleasant chap" with a posh English accent 😂 |
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"Go for it OP nothing ventured nothing gained you seem like a pleasant chap 👍
Thankyou, I try to be, it's quite difficult getting that over in a message?
I always say "pleasant chap" with a posh English accent 😂"
Good as thats exactly how i speak 👀👀👀🤣 |
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"Go for it OP nothing ventured nothing gained you seem like a pleasant chap 👍
Thankyou, I try to be, it's quite difficult getting that over in a message?
I always say "pleasant chap" with a posh English accent 😂
Good as thats exactly how i speak 👀👀👀🤣"
We know your posh 😘 |
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"Go for it OP nothing ventured nothing gained you seem like a pleasant chap 👍
Thankyou, I try to be, it's quite difficult getting that over in a message?
I always say "pleasant chap" with a posh English accent 😂
Good as thats exactly how i speak 👀👀👀🤣
We know your posh 😘"
Thank you kind sir 😘 |
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"Go for it OP nothing ventured nothing gained you seem like a pleasant chap 👍
Thankyou, I try to be, it's quite difficult getting that over in a message?
I always say "pleasant chap" with a posh English accent 😂
Good as thats exactly how i speak 👀👀👀🤣
We know your posh 😘
Thank you kind sir 😘"
LordBap of Bap Manor xxx |
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Yep, extremely nervous OP. I’m always a bit shocked when i get a reply. I try to send a polite message, referring to something in the profile.
I spend ages composing messages. I think perhaps I overthink or bore the pants off them 🤣 |
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I have found now . Being older , single male. Basically I either message , wink or both . Then wait and see. No reply ? Move on . Yes I do get some replies . Note messages I send are not cut and paste. |
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OP, send the message.
As a single woman on here, I reply most to messages that show they've read my profile, don't assume they will be answered, and attach a face picture when they send.
If there's an attraction for me with that then I'll reply with a face pic to see whether they find me attractive and then we chat.
Please don't copy and paste the same message to loads of women, it is very obvious and is an instant delete for me, especially if they've left the wrong name at the top! 🤣
Keep in mind that you can easily read the first sentence or two without opening the message.
Shoot your shot, you've nothing to lose and everything to gain! |
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Just remember we can’t all be suited for everyone otherwise that would just be boring.
My best advice is just be yourself.
The right connection will validate that, the wrong won’t so don’t chase!
Know your worth & trust your intuition 👍 |
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Rather than feeling you "got lucky" once look at it as you would a normal conversation with anyone on the street regardless of gender.
If you start out thinking that there are different levels on here or that you are out of someone's league that will often reflect in how you speak to them and many women aren't comfortable being put on a pedestal or spoken up to.
Forget about the pictures on profiles and don't base your messages on those alone.
Look at the bio which is often a better reflection of personality or character and go from there.
There is a fine line between a polite respectful approach and a sycophantic one but knowing and understanding the difference means luck doesn't come into the equation. |
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