An open and important question ❓
When you are about to have sex, do you verbally state that is what you want and wait for verbal confirmation or is consent more or less implied non verbal ly?
Ladies how do give consent?
And how do you ask for it?
Men, the same question ❓
Men are asking for consent or giving it?
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I normally carry written contracts on a scroll, 📜 to formally acknowledge consent, then I have fingerprint pads to thumbprint below the signature.
A 3rd independent party to act as a witness, who then remains to ensure if consent stops we stop immediately!
Prior to this I was old fashioned and it would have to be communicated between us, visually, audibly and with some body language thrown in. 🤣🤣
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"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea "
Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent. |
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"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea
Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent."
Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !
So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩🦽 |
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When I have sex with people, especially for the first time, I regularly check in with them throughout the encounter. ‘Is this ok?’ ‘Are you ok?’ Etc
This never happens to me from my partner but I’m ok because I’m checking in on them which maybe implies my consent is there anyway |
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"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea
Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.
Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !
So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩🦽"
I knew there was a reason why i liked you 😏 |
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"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea
Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.
Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !
So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩🦽
I knew there was a reason why i liked you 😏"
Ah u cutie you 😘 |
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No. If someone kept asking can I do this can I do that is this ok it would put me right off. Never felt the need to, although I’ve never done one night things so it may be different. If I’m about to have sex with someone they’ll know what I don’t like and vice versa.
If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop. |
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"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea
Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.
Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !
So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩🦽"
I'm getting Pink power rangers vibes. 😂 |
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"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea
Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.
Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !
So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩🦽
I'm getting Pink power rangers vibes. 😂"
Omg my fave one! Right im getting the outfit my mind is made up 🙅♀️ |
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"Ive never really thought about it tbh OP... i suppose when im not trying to fly kick him in the head or shouting get off generally gives him an idea
Can you please demonstrate the flying kick, so the OP can understand when you do not give consent.
Its like a hawk tuah but with my leg !
So basically a hi-yaaaaa 👩🦽
I'm getting Pink power rangers vibes. 😂
Omg my fave one! Right im getting the outfit my mind is made up 🙅♀️"
Sweet, I'll grab the OG Black Ranger one.
We just need some volunteers for Red,Blue, Yellow and Green, then we're cooking💫🤛🏽 |
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"No. If someone kept asking can I do this can I do that is this ok it would put me right off. Never felt the need to, although I’ve never done one night things so it may be different. If I’m about to have sex with someone they’ll know what I don’t like and vice versa.
If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop. "
Consent is just about so much more than verbal. I’m not only going to wait for a partner to say no, gotta look for other things to check in with too. But also, in my opinion, check ins between positions, when you’re unfamiliar with their reactions to different things etc is completely normal to me. I hadn’t thought it could be off putting tbf. |
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Vanilla, just crack on if I appear to be into it. Body language is enough usually and I'll tell you if I'm not into it.
Kink requires negotiation and absolutely clear verbal consent ahead of time 💜 |
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"No. If someone kept asking can I do this can I do that is this ok it would put me right off. Never felt the need to, although I’ve never done one night things so it may be different. If I’m about to have sex with someone they’ll know what I don’t like and vice versa.
If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop.
Consent is just about so much more than verbal. I’m not only going to wait for a partner to say no, gotta look for other things to check in with too. But also, in my opinion, check ins between positions, when you’re unfamiliar with their reactions to different things etc is completely normal to me. I hadn’t thought it could be off putting tbf. "
We’re all different Steve. I remember a very heated debate about consent between husband and wife and that they should ask all the time if they touched them etc. after 30 years he would have thought I’d gone mad if I asked his consent to fondle his bits every time he walked past me! Never once have we asked specific consent to touch each other.
Another couple may feel totally different though and that’s also cool  |
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Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.
Can I kiss you right now?
Does that feel good?
Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?
Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?
All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.  |
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In the main, it is implied consent, but only because I will have discussed it in advance, maybe had a social and flirting, and their body language in response to kissing etc.
However, if they suddenly ask me to stop, or say no to something, then I always respect that. |
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"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.
Can I kiss you right now?
Does that feel good?
Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?
Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?
All questions that gain consent without losing the moment. "
Phew. |
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"No. If someone kept asking can I do this can I do that is this ok it would put me right off. Never felt the need to, although I’ve never done one night things so it may be different. If I’m about to have sex with someone they’ll know what I don’t like and vice versa.
If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop.
Consent is just about so much more than verbal. I’m not only going to wait for a partner to say no, gotta look for other things to check in with too. But also, in my opinion, check ins between positions, when you’re unfamiliar with their reactions to different things etc is completely normal to me. I hadn’t thought it could be off putting tbf. "
I think like so many things it's a generational thing. |
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By *hortieWoman 3 weeks ago
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I talk to 'em.. lol.
This is going to sound a bit base / crass to some, but tough titty.. for the first social , I'll know within 30 seconds if I'm down to fuck .
So at that social, they'll get a bit more info , my hard limits. See what they're like with having nails broken off in their back or butt cheeks.. that kinda thing.
Now, I'll either scare them off at that point, they get a bit of wank bank material, or it'll progress to a meat meet. I always always reiterate my hard limits before that meet... You, I might happily have you throw me down on the bed and fuck my arse . The next guy I meet, different scenario. I might just want to do piss play.
Regular check ins are great.. communications key, always. Don't ever, ever feel bad about saying no. Or saying exactly what you want. Like a job interview.
This shit isn't to be trifled with.. be brave, be honest about what you want and what you don't want.
♥️
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"I talk to 'em.. lol.
This is going to sound a bit base / crass to some, but tough titty.. for the first social , I'll know within 30 seconds if I'm down to fuck .
So at that social, they'll get a bit more info , my hard limits. See what they're like with having nails broken off in their back or butt cheeks.. that kinda thing.
Now, I'll either scare them off at that point, they get a bit of wank bank material, or it'll progress to a meat meet. I always always reiterate my hard limits before that meet... You, I might happily have you throw me down on the bed and fuck my arse . The next guy I meet, different scenario. I might just want to do piss play.
Regular check ins are great.. communications key, always. Don't ever, ever feel bad about saying no. Or saying exactly what you want. Like a job interview.
This shit isn't to be trifled with.. be brave, be honest about what you want and what you don't want.
♥️
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I love this 🤣🤣🤣👌 |
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By *ugby 123Couple 3 weeks ago
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"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.
Can I kiss you right now?
Does that feel good?
Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?
Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?
All questions that gain consent without losing the moment. "
That would turn me off and lose the moment totally |
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"No. If someone kept asking can I do this can I do that is this ok it would put me right off. Never felt the need to, although I’ve never done one night things so it may be different. If I’m about to have sex with someone they’ll know what I don’t like and vice versa.
If anyone wants to stop or says no then of course that’s different and you stop.
Consent is just about so much more than verbal. I’m not only going to wait for a partner to say no, gotta look for other things to check in with too. But also, in my opinion, check ins between positions, when you’re unfamiliar with their reactions to different things etc is completely normal to me. I hadn’t thought it could be off putting tbf.
I think like so many things it's a generational thing."
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"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.
Can I kiss you right now?
Does that feel good?
Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?
Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?
All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.
That would turn me off and lose the moment totally"
Me too!! |
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"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.
Can I kiss you right now?
Does that feel good?
Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?
Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?
All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.
That would turn me off and lose the moment totally
Me too!!"
and me |
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"Gaining consent can be incredibly sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward or outside the moment.
Can I kiss you right now?
Does that feel good?
Should I start kissing your neck or your thighs?
Want me to keep going or should I tease you more?
All questions that gain consent without losing the moment.
That would turn me off and lose the moment totally
Me too!!and me"
Me three |
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By *eliWoman 3 weeks ago
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"I need to feel you inside me" or "please fuck me now" is kind of verbal consent isn't it?
Being a bit more serious... I don't know if I do then and there. It's normally pretty obvious - enthusiastic non verbal consent. If there's something I don't want to do? That's pretty obvious. It depends on who I'm with - I've checked in when I've been with couples before because it's difficult to always clearly read how they're feeling. |
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I don't feel the need to give consent as if im engaging with someone and it leads that way, there's the consent. Saying no is a different story though, im very clear about boundaries and not wanting to do things. |
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I think implied consent is usually the way things work out, it's important to know when someone can't give consent implied or otherwise...the tea thing really.
Not taking advantage of someone and making sure you're not, just being a fucking human being basically |
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I think I’ve been doing sex so wrong. 