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What is the best release for sexual frustration. In a long time relationship . Wife is going into the menopause and has no /low sex drive. We have good communication and talk. I don’t resent her . I’ve lost a sexual connection with her ( hard to maintain when they no interest) it is what it is but my drive is very active. Wondering ppls thoughts on what kind of outlet I can have to cope |
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I suppose continue in an open and honest dialogue with your wife, supporting her and empathising with her, in addition to perhaps seeking advice from your family doctor and, I'm guessing, a sexual/relationship counsellor.
I'm sure others will query your rationale for being on here and having a profile...
I hope it all works out. |
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Talk to her, intimacy is important I feel in a relationship and if all other aspects of your relationship are good it’s worth working on. Being on here without her knowing isn’t the answer and could be expensive if she found out. Think about maybe a weekend away or something that may bring back the spark. If it is the menopause you need to support her to come out the other side. Personally I wish someone gave me the same advice.
Now single and I have an ex wife |
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"Talk to her, intimacy is important I feel in a relationship and if all other aspects of your relationship are good it’s worth working on. Being on here without her knowing isn’t the answer and could be expensive if she found out. Think about maybe a weekend away or something that may bring back the spark. If it is the menopause you need to support her to come out the other side. Personally I wish someone gave me the same advice.
Now single and I have an ex wife "
This is exactly what I would say, support and understanding it isn't a relationship issue.
It's a physical change, that I'm sure will be impacting her more than you.
Don't want as a solution, especially if you're watching porn as that can become a very dark path. |
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I am also menopausal but haven't lost my sexual appetite at all. My partner on the other hand is nearly 60 and has lost all interest in sex. I have tried massage, initiating, and talking about it but he just shuts me down. 😞 |
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"I am also menopausal but haven't lost my sexual appetite at all. My partner on the other hand is nearly 60 and has lost all interest in sex. I have tried massage, initiating, and talking about it but he just shuts me down. 😞"
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I can't relate. I'm going into menopause and my sex drive is through the roof! Literally I don't seem to be able to anything else other than think about sex, have sex, then think about it more, have some more. It sounds fun but it's driving me crazy. |
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"I can't relate. I'm going into menopause and my sex drive is through the roof! Literally I don't seem to be able to anything else other than think about sex, have sex, then think about it more, have some more. It sounds fun but it's driving me crazy."
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Have you thought about plugging yourself into the National Grid, oh voraciously libidinous måiden? All that electrifying sexual zeal would rejuvenate us all.   |
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You are married to someone who doesn't want sex and you don't want to have sex with. Sounds pretty awful to me and you are so young. I would sit down with her and talk to see what the future holds. |
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"If she's menopausal, can you find ways to support her and put your own sex needs to the side?
Don't be daft, you're forgetting the op is male. "
Lol, that's hitting the nail on the head, hard! 
Open chats are best if you value your wife and your marriage. I am perimenopausal and struggling with the contraception method of my choice, my mojo is highly elusive. But I still crave intimacy with my partner, the cuddle, etc.
You said you talked with your wife, did you mention the topic of sex? And that you miss it? |
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"I am also menopausal but haven't lost my sexual appetite at all. My partner on the other hand is nearly 60 and has lost all interest in sex. I have tried massage, initiating, and talking about it but he just shuts me down. 😞"
Testosterone levels. Some men go through a type of menopause too. |
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"I can't relate. I'm going into menopause and my sex drive is through the roof! Literally I don't seem to be able to anything else other than think about sex, have sex, then think about it more, have some more. It sounds fun but it's driving me crazy."
It hits everyone differently. Mine also went up. |
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