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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago

Thought experiment for the straight males...

Is it "gayer" to play with a FTM biological female who looks male or to play with a MTF biological male who looks female?

TLDR;

Vag and beard vs dick and tits?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS 51 weeks ago

Coventry

Why not try both and see how you feel after

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By *hat.coupleCouple 51 weeks ago

Kent

"Why not try both and see how you feel after

Who cares whether it's gay or not! Take the Nike approach to life and fuck what people think I say.

Just do it!

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

while there is probably technically biological defining factors that would make a straight man still straight or bi for having sex with a ftm or mtf, does it really matter this much?

I suppose I can understand if you're straight and you're concerned about doing something regarded as gay or bi behaviour then it is a very personal thing and does matter to them

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

"Why not try both and see how you feel after

Who cares whether it's gay or not! Take the Nike approach to life and fuck what people think I say.

Just do it!

Mrs x"

you should be one of the representatives for the company miss

lol

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

Why does it matter ... just fuck who you want and enjoy it 👌

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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago

To be clear, it doesn't matter. As stated, it's purely a thought experiment regarding biology/aesthetics and I'd love to hear other opinions is all!

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

"To be clear, it doesn't matter. As stated, it's purely a thought experiment regarding biology/aesthetics and I'd love to hear other opinions is all!"

I hope you get some good ones OP 😘

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By *bmhookupMan 51 weeks ago

London

DISCLAIMER: I have nothing against the non straight groups, just wanted to share my opinion

I think mtf would be gayer because they entered this world with the body and biolgogical makeup of a male - I think it would be strange for a straight man to go for ftm but on paper it's a lot less gay imo

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

I really dont mind.... if they're sexy, they're sexy. Not that interested in the label. 😛

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple 51 weeks ago

Swansea

Hi OP,

I will provide an opinion but may not necessarily answer your original poster.

From my experiences of both I have never gone on to question what these experiences mean for my sexuality moving forward. I simply had a great time with lovely people.

However, what I personally do enjoy and pardon my language is the mind f#ck. To see a person as male or female yet also physically the other sex adds a layer of sexual energy for me.

Labels or other people's opinions of my sexuality do not enter my head, and I don't question it of myself.

Hope this helps contribute towards your OP.

Mrs

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By *agic.MMan 51 weeks ago

Kent/London

I think what the OP is trying to ask is... are you gay if you have sex with a trans person that looks 99% male (aka Vin Diesel with a vagina) or are you gay if you have sex with a trans person that looks 99% female (aka Megan Fox with a penis)... and the answer is YES - in today's society if you have sex with men you are gay...and if you have sex with women you are gay...if you wear skinny jeans you are gay...if you wear a man bag you are gay...if you wear anything pink you are gay...if you put moisturiser on your skin you are gay...if you shower every day you are gay ... if you drink anything with a straw you are gay...if you are on fab you are gay...the truth is no matter what you do...you are GAY ...and everyone is GAY

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By *bmhookupMan 51 weeks ago

London

"I think what the OP is trying to ask is... are you gay if you have sex with a trans person that looks 99% male (aka Vin Diesel with a vagina) or are you gay if you have sex with a trans person that looks 99% female (aka Megan Fox with a penis)... and the answer is YES - in today's society if you have sex with men you are gay...and if you have sex with women you are gay...if you wear skinny jeans you are gay...if you wear a man bag you are gay...if you wear anything pink you are gay...if you put moisturiser on your skin you are gay...if you shower every day you are gay ... if you drink anything with a straw you are gay...if you are on fab you are gay...the truth is no matter what you do...you are GAY ...and everyone is GAY "

Can't do anything anymore 😭 (I'm joking)

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By *he OpalsnakeMan 51 weeks ago

Thirsk

Realistically either way falls under the Q as in Queer or Questioning. Basically you don't subscribe to societal gender/sexuality norms. You're embracing the full spectrum of sexuality and exploring it.

By that token questioning what is more gay becomes redundant.

What you're asking is which will receive the most judgement from others and the answer is it doesn't matter. It's your world dude and its only what you feel about it that actually matters. 🤷‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

Oh my god!! Thanks for the effort on this, soooooo good! 😂😂😂😂

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By *agic.MMan 51 weeks ago

Kent/London

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 "

If you think my comment is sarcastic but also funny...you are gay

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

If you think my comment is sarcastic but also funny...you are gay "

Thank you 😘

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By *arefree3000Man 51 weeks ago

Colchester

I have been very lucky to have a sexual time with a beautiful ftm.

Look 100% a man and was very handsome

I class myself as gay, I did enjoy the sexual time with ftm and would do it again, but like someone already said it don't matter what people think

Do what makes u happy and enjoy

Why let others views stop you

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By *ad NannaWoman 51 weeks ago

East London

Is it important to label oneself?

Can we just enjoy the person instead of focusing on genitalia and sex.

If I'm attracted to someone it doesn't matter what's under the clothing.

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By *cnugatugMan 51 weeks ago

Chatham

Is say give both a go and see what you like myself having tried both I prefer ftm but it's a matter of personal taste there's no right answer

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By *weet and SpiceCouple 51 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

"Shower every day" 🤣🤣

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By *9alMan 51 weeks ago

Bridgend

I am a bi man I have had sex with FTM & MTF I enjoyed both

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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago

🤣🤣 Tbf... a man using a straw is way gayer than either FTM or MTF 😜

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By *tephTV67TV/TS 51 weeks ago

Cheshire

FTM I suppose a straight guy could be androsexual, a person who is attracted to masculinity, they like the look of a masculine looking woman but would be turned off if a penis was involved. In that case he’d be completely straight.

Gynosexuality, is attracted to femininity, even if they (FTM) had a penis and its not involved in the act itself, surely it could still be considered straight sex.

I have no real opinion but I thought I’d add it to the mix.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 51 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

FTM with a penis is definitely the gayest 💜

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 51 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago

I don’t think Mtf is gay at all under the provisions they are feminine. As you would be attractive to the feminine side. Where as the more a ftm has transitioned you could be sleeping with a man with a pussy. The way it’s been put ti me is what’s more gay fucking hulk hogan with a pussy vs Megan fox with a dick

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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago

All very interesting points of view and exactly what I was looking for - Thanks!

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By *rincess_nikki_transgurlTV/TS 41 weeks ago

salford

Wrll now.

What would you be doing with both typed? Because if you're going for a t girl because you want her to top her and you are fixated on milking the peen, then regardless, definitely a gay act also, if you are attracted to the stubble and hairy chest of a T man, then again, pretty gay.

But if you want to tenderly pump away and top the feminine body and mind of a t girl. Then I'd say that's pretty damn straight.

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By *werty1977Man 41 weeks ago

North Walsham

"Thought experiment for the straight males...

Is it "gayer" to play with a FTM biological female who looks male or to play with a MTF biological male who looks female?

TLDR;

Vag and beard vs dick and tits?"

FTM as Ur still shagging a born female

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By *oydykeTV/TS 41 weeks ago

Hampshire (they/them)

Fellas, is it gay to have sex with women?

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By *rBeejayMan 40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Thought experiment for the straight males...

Is it "gayer" to play with a FTM biological female who looks male or to play with a MTF biological male who looks female?

TLDR;

Vag and beard vs dick and tits?

FTM as Ur still shagging a born female "

Interesting viewpoint, though I tend to see people as they are/present now. For instance if someone had sex with a 45 year old woman I wouldn't consider them a p*edo because she was once a baby.

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By *he MinionMan 40 weeks ago

Surrey

I'm not.

I'm a lesbian

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By *rBeejayMan 40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I'm not.

I'm a lesbian"

Lesbians are soooo Gay!

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By *ow-Key LokiMan 40 weeks ago

chelmsford

There's nothing more gay than worrying about people thinking you're gay.

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By *parky123Man 40 weeks ago

Lincoln

In an ideal world, nobody would give a shit about who someone else was in whatever kind of relationship. Personally - if someone presents as a woman, I’m more likely to be interested than presenting as a man. If they’re a Transwoman, I’m ok with that

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By *unguy2429Man 40 weeks ago

worthing

People label things so bad and negative because there jealous there not doing it. Who cares what people think do what pleases you and u enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago

"Thought experiment for the straight males...

Is it "gayer" to play with a FTM biological female who looks male or to play with a MTF biological male who looks female?

TLDR;

Vag and beard vs dick and tits?"

Doesn't matter, your ass gonna hurt! 😁

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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago

"People label things so bad and negative because there jealous there not doing it. Who cares what people think do what pleases you and u enjoy "

So are you confident enough to go in the Pub and tell to your brothers that "listen Im sucking the cum out of this trans woman, but I'm still straight!" They gonna agree with that?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple 40 weeks ago

Coventry

For me it's not a matter of gay or straight, it simply a matter of genitalia. My main attraction to someone is them as an individual, their vibe, their soul. However the genitalia between their legs has a veto power. I'm not into dicks sexually however much I like the individual.

I've been with pre op transmen and while respecting they're men I've liked them as an individual and they've had (at that time) female genitalia. And there are some absolutely beautiful trans women out there inside and out. But pre op I doubt I would play one on one. Simply my avoidance of male genitalia would be a problem. Not a problem in 3some or group but a bit limited on what you can share together on a one on one basis.

I get that's a bit of a strange position and a little contrary almost but that's me. It's not genders for me, it's dicks that's the barrier.

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By *iscreetGloryhole4UrDickMan 39 weeks ago

Liverpool

I'm gay but I'll answer anyway...

I have been fucking an FTM lad for a few months now, he still has his pussy

It had been one of the most incredible experiences of my sex life and its now a regular thing. He's a great lad and great fuck

I'm still gay. I just fuck who I want to fuck

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