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By *BWHunter OP Man 46 weeks ago
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I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection? |
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"I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection? "
Take it on the shin and carry on! Just because they’ve stood you up doesn't mean the next will |
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"I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection?
Take it on the shin and carry on! Just because they’ve stood you up doesn't mean the next will "
Is the shin less painful than the chin? |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection?
Take it on the shin and carry on! Just because they’ve stood you up doesn't mean the next will
Is the shin less painful than the chin? "
It’s more painful 😅 😂
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection? "
It's a shitty thing to do to someone.... Twice.. well that tells you all you need to know.
Discard her and move on. She's not worth your time or effort my good man.
Everyone deals with rejection differently; be it on here or in RL.
Some aren't fazed, others can take a a few days or what have ya.
Think or of it as a bullet dodged. I wish you well.
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By *BWHunter OP Man 46 weeks ago
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Didn’t expect this to take off. So will add more context.
In the lead up to us flirting we were thinking about what to do. I mention cinema as we are both into movies and wanted to watch the new superman. I may of mentioned something along the lines of “I’ll keep my hands to myself” she laughed.
She asked how many people I’ve been with this year. I said 4. When I asked her she said 12. I never care about how many people someone has been with. I sort of find it hot.
I take this rejection personal because you’ve been with 12 guys but don’t want us to do anything. Makes me feel I’m not good enough. She’s been very flirty too so I’m just lost with it all.
You are all right though. I should move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Didn’t expect this to take off. So will add more context.
In the lead up to us flirting we were thinking about what to do. I mention cinema as we are both into movies and wanted to watch the new superman. I may of mentioned something along the lines of “I’ll keep my hands to myself” she laughed.
She asked how many people I’ve been with this year. I said 4. When I asked her she said 12. I never care about how many people someone has been with. I sort of find it hot.
I take this rejection personal because you’ve been with 12 guys but don’t want us to do anything. Makes me feel I’m not good enough. She’s been very flirty too so I’m just lost with it all.
You are all right though. I should move on. "
You’ve got this bud! It’s her loss just keep your head up and carry on!! |
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By *viatrixWoman 46 weeks ago
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She’s just feeding on your attention, OP. Keep chatting to her if you like her but she won’t meet you- she just wants to have her ego stroked. And it’s not about you, she might do this to everyone she chats to! It happens a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"She’s just feeding on your attention, OP. Keep chatting to her if you like her but she won’t meet you- she just wants to have her ego stroked. And it’s not about you, she might do this to everyone she chats to! It happens a lot. "
Thisis accurate to the letter.
So many time wasters on here both make and female what are merely attention seekers, love the attention, but when it comes to meets of any description... They may stret h to a social meet (yet more attention to massage their ego) but outside of that, it ain't gonna happen.
AND OP..... You are enough.
Don't waste another second on her,or your own self doubt...YOU ARE ENOUGH my friend.
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"I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection? "
Move on, I learned decades ago that someone can be my perfect match looks wise etc but if it’s one sided you just have to move on before you invest to much one sided energy into them |
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By *ookie46Woman 46 weeks ago
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"Didn’t expect this to take off. So will add more context.
In the lead up to us flirting we were thinking about what to do. I mention cinema as we are both into movies and wanted to watch the new superman. I may of mentioned something along the lines of “I’ll keep my hands to myself” she laughed.
She asked how many people I’ve been with this year. I said 4. When I asked her she said 12. I never care about how many people someone has been with. I sort of find it hot.
I take this rejection personal because you’ve been with 12 guys but don’t want us to do anything. Makes me feel I’m not good enough. She’s been very flirty too so I’m just lost with it all.
You are all right though. I should move on. "
Like Aviatrix said she’s feeding off your attention and it’s likely that she could be doing the same to others. Men and women are both guilty of this
Never compromise your own self worth OP |
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"I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection? "
Just move on and do not even give them a thought if they cannot respect you.
It's not worth your energy or mental health to be breadcrumbs and toyed with when they have no basic decency.
You are better than they deserve.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Forget, block if you need to, and move on. I’ve had 3 socials cancelled by them and 3 guys deleted their profiles before we even met. Forgotten about "
Their loss! |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Definitely move on. I’ve had a number of interactions with people that go nowhere.The warning signs are when they only want you to talk about them and dodge talking about meeting up. |
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By *eliWoman 46 weeks ago
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You're good enough. More than. Why give headspace to someone who makes you doubt yourself constantly? Yeah, the flirting and temporary attention can be fun but you deserve far more than the confusion OP.
Giving someone a chance is fair. A third when she's not that in to you? Waste of time. I hope any meh fades soon.
P.S Did you watch the latest Superman? |
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I'd block her op tbh.
If she's had 2 chances, shes either flaky or not replay interested.
If someone cancels me in plenty of time, if give them one more chance. If they did it again, that would be it, I've learned from experience that if they cancel and you give them more chances they'll do it again.
Don't be messed about or blindsided because you fancy this woman op. |
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"I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection?
Take it on the shin and carry on! Just because they’ve stood you up doesn't mean the next will
Is the shin less painful than the chin?
It’s more painful 😅 😂
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Ooft, I'll continue to take rejection on the chin then 🤣 |
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By *BWHunter OP Man 46 weeks ago
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"You're good enough. More than. Why give headspace to someone who makes you doubt yourself constantly? Yeah, the flirting and temporary attention can be fun but you deserve far more than the confusion OP.
Giving someone a chance is fair. A third when she's not that in to you? Waste of time. I hope any meh fades soon.
P.S Did you watch the latest Superman?"
Thanks Meli. You’ve always got a way with words. I had already seen it. Was going to watch it again just to see her. Pretty sad really. I think I’ll block |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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She’s stood you up twice. That’s not mixed signals that IS a signal.
Doesn’t matter how much you get on or how much she’s your type if someone is into you, they don’t disappear when it’s time to actually meet.
Rejection always feels rubbish but look at it more as information rather than an insult. I personally sulk about the house a bit, put some uplifting bad bitch vibe songs on and give myself a stern talking to. Music is my biggest soother though.
Onwards and upwards OP  |
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"I’ve been stood up twice in two weeks by the same person. We’ve been flirting for a few weeks.
We were meant to go out last week Thursday. Few hours before she cancels. Thursday just gone supposed to meet for some drinks as she’s finished work for the summer and has more time. I messaged and got nothing back.
Tempted to move on as I feel shit but she’s my type physically and we get on.
How do you deal with rejection? "
You are not being rejected OP, you are being pissed about by someone playing games, just fuck them of and move on. |
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"Move on
Some people are full of banter and all the flirting but they never have any intention of meeting "
Agreed.
Some people enjoy a flirt and a chat and nothing more.
And that's fine but she shouldn't lie about wanting to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Get a cat.
Your attempts at affection will be rejected multiple times a day.
You'll become a master at handling rejection. "
So so true until 3am when she wants to make biscuits on your chest and sleep in your armpit |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"When someone tells you who they are, doubt them.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Move on.
Best example you'll see today "
Agree with this |
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learn to reject and you'll be on a roll 😝😂