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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣"
Yes, I really get that many messages I struggle to get through them all and sometimes it's overwhelming and the delete all button comes in to play 😳 |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣"
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Definitely feel your pain, I get it, huge discrepancy between male and female user numbers so guess it's just a numbers game really |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣"
Only 90% your doing well 👀😋 |
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Most women will look at the profile before opening the message, if at all. If the profile doesn't appeal to them they will leave it unread or delete it.
You haven't asked for profile advice...but there's a few telltale signs that tell me why they may be reluctant to open, let alone respond. |
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"It could be for a number of reasons OP. None of which are really relevant. If someone wants to reply they will most of the time 😘"
Id always reply to 🫵😘 |
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They have probably been read when you are offline and then marked as unread to make you anxious about your messages not being read.
The best thing to do it remove everything from your sent box so you don’t get anxious about your messages not being read  |
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"Generally depends on content of the message and the profile. "
Yeah, I mean I read all the profiles and I don't start by saying "hi, whatcha doin'"
Here's just ONE example - lady winks at me and then adds me, within seconds I send a message.....nothing even though she's online. That was Friday. |
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" Yes, I really get that many messages I struggle to get through them all and sometimes it's overwhelming and the delete all button comes in to play 😳"
I prefer seeing that my message has been deleted rather than being unread. At least then I know 🤣 |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣"
You haven't messaged me. lol! It actually says you are near me. you are a little young for me, you meet a lot of couples and I'm not bog on cocksucking.
most men never really think through their name on here.  |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣
You haven't messaged me. lol! It actually says you are near me. you are a little young for me, you meet a lot of couples and I'm not bog on cocksucking.
most men never really think through their name on here. "
yeah most of your verifications come from men so... might assume you are more interest in men and couples than a single woman like me.
all assumptions. but a lot of people go by assumptions here. |
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" Yes, I really get that many messages I struggle to get through them all and sometimes it's overwhelming and the delete all button comes in to play 😳
I prefer seeing that my message has been deleted rather than being unread. At least then I know 🤣"
But that is what YOU would prefer OP. Mr Bond up there ^^ gave you the best tip. Delete your sent messages. Then any messages you receive are all a bonus 🌈 |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣
You haven't messaged me. lol! It actually says you are near me. you are a little young for me, you meet a lot of couples and I'm not bog on cocksucking.
most men never really think through their name on here.
yeah most of your verifications come from men so... might assume you are more interest in men and couples than a single woman like me.
all assumptions. but a lot of people go by assumptions here."
True, but read them first. Unfortunately you blocked all us single guys 🥴 |
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" Yes, I really get that many messages I struggle to get through them all and sometimes it's overwhelming and the delete all button comes in to play 😳
I prefer seeing that my message has been deleted rather than being unread. At least then I know 🤣
But that is what YOU would prefer OP. Mr Bond up there ^^ gave you the best tip. Delete your sent messages. Then any messages you receive are all a bonus 🌈"
[coughs politely]
Best tip
[coughs politely] |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣.
Definitely feel your pain, I get it, huge discrepancy between male and female user numbers so guess it's just a numbers game really"
We're in this together mate |
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" Yes, I really get that many messages I struggle to get through them all and sometimes it's overwhelming and the delete all button comes in to play 😳
I prefer seeing that my message has been deleted rather than being unread. At least then I know 🤣
But that is what YOU would prefer OP. Mr Bond up there ^^ gave you the best tip. Delete your sent messages. Then any messages you receive are all a bonus 🌈
[coughs politely]
Best tip
[coughs politely] "
You know I always love a good tip 😉 |
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"They have probably been read when you are offline and then marked as unread to make you anxious about your messages not being read.
The best thing to do it remove everything from your sent box so you don’t get anxious about your messages not being read "
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Heed well from this ^ gentleman. It's good advice. |
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"They have probably been read when you are offline and then marked as unread to make you anxious about your messages not being read.
The best thing to do it remove everything from your sent box so you don’t get anxious about your messages not being read "
I get you. I do that sometimes but then forget who I've messaged 🤣 |
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"All the action shots put me off op, I didn't even read your profile. Sorry.
So take down the action shots? I'm cool with that"
Look at action shots this way.. they mostly really appeal to men. So you’ll get straight men wanking over them. Women don’t seem to need the evidence you’ve had sex before. |
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages..."
Yeah i agree with the action shots they do absolutely nothing for me but im sure some will like it but i see more dont than do 😘 |
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages...
Yeah i agree with the action shots they do absolutely nothing for me but im sure some will like it but i see more dont than do 😘"
It’s an instant delete for me for any single profile that has them. Because if you have pics of someone else you’re balls deep in OP, who’s to say you wouldn’t share a pic of me 🤷♂️🤷♂️
It’s called consent. And it’s a single profile. The pics should be of you. IMO
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages..."
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And then you're good to go. You'll be issuing restraining orders to all the wanton women on this site.
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages...
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And then you're good to go. You'll be issuing restraining orders to all the wanton women on this site.
🏃🏻♂️💨💨💨 🏃♀️🏃🏼♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃♀️"
Taken them down. I'm expecting messages from everyone now. |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣"
I click on the profile - if it’s obvious they’ve not read up on what we’re looking for, I just delete it without reading it
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣
I click on the profile - if it’s obvious they’ve not read up on what we’re looking for, I just delete it without reading it
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Agreed but I always read the profiles. I genuinely don't understand why people ignore them |
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"All the action shots put me off op, I didn't even read your profile. Sorry.
So take down the action shots? I'm cool with that
Look at action shots this way.. they mostly really appeal to men. So you’ll get straight men wanking over them. Women don’t seem to need the evidence you’ve had sex before. "
I don't mind action shots...it's the same ones over and over.
Yes I see you get your cocked socked by a woman.... that's tells me nothing about you apart from the ubiquitous..all men like to get their cock sucked.
Which is why I don't want porn with a lot of cock sucking.
I get nothing from sucking cock unless I'm getting mutual please or it's one of my regular play mates who I have a tenuous emotional connection too.
So I don't like the gloryhole in clubs to suck. I might wank in the gloryhole.
Most of the time I want the cock in me and get bored of sucking and wanking it. |
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I read all my messages. If they are polite and show someone’s read my profile I’ll reply. However most of the time they aren’t polite and I can tell they are from someone who’s not read my profile. |
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"I read all my messages. If they are polite and show someone’s read my profile I’ll reply. However most of the time they aren’t polite and I can tell they are from someone who’s not read my profile. "
Yeah, I never get why some people aren't polite |
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"They have probably been read when you are offline and then marked as unread to make you anxious about your messages not being read.
The best thing to do it remove everything from your sent box so you don’t get anxious about your messages not being read
I get you. I do that sometimes but then forget who I've messaged 🤣"
You know you can add your own personal notes about a profile to remind yourself you've messaged someone?
Also, I'm fairly sure that if you message someone who hasn't replied to a previous message from you, a warning banner pops up which you have to actively dismiss, so you'd know that you've previously messaged them (unless that's changed since it last happened to me). |
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"They have probably been read when you are offline and then marked as unread to make you anxious about your messages not being read.
The best thing to do it remove everything from your sent box so you don’t get anxious about your messages not being read
I get you. I do that sometimes but then forget who I've messaged 🤣
You know you can add your own personal notes about a profile to remind yourself you've messaged someone?
Also, I'm fairly sure that if you message someone who hasn't replied to a previous message from you, a warning banner pops up which you have to actively dismiss, so you'd know that you've previously messaged them (unless that's changed since it last happened to me)."
You are write, it warns you before messaging them again |
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages...
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And then you're good to go. You'll be issuing restraining orders to all the wanton women on this site.
🏃🏻♂️💨💨💨 🏃♀️🏃🏼♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃♀️
Taken them down. I'm expecting messages from everyone now."
Any luck?? |
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages...
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And then you're good to go. You'll be issuing restraining orders to all the wanton women on this site.
🏃🏻♂️💨💨💨 🏃♀️🏃🏼♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃♀️
Taken them down. I'm expecting messages from everyone now.
Any luck??"
Not yet. Just messages of pity from these lovely ladies 🤣 |
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages...
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And then you're good to go. You'll be issuing restraining orders to all the wanton women on this site.
🏃🏻♂️💨💨💨 🏃♀️🏃🏼♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃♀️
Taken them down. I'm expecting messages from everyone now.
Any luck??"
I messaged him. he messaged back. i read it and messaged back. he's funny or it might my perimeno brain find him funny....like a toy boy.
I'm not sure he wants to be a toy boy or not. He might want to be a dom.
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages...
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And then you're good to go. You'll be issuing restraining orders to all the wanton women on this site.
🏃🏻♂️💨💨💨 🏃♀️🏃🏼♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃♀️
Taken them down. I'm expecting messages from everyone now.
Any luck??
Not yet. Just messages of pity from these lovely ladies 🤣"
Pity? you might break my dodgy left hip. |
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"I appreciate you all by the way. Let me take the action shots down and delete all my sent messages...
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And then you're good to go. You'll be issuing restraining orders to all the wanton women on this site.
🏃🏻♂️💨💨💨 🏃♀️🏃🏼♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃♀️
Taken them down. I'm expecting messages from everyone now.
Any luck??"
I just saw your status and cackled... Yes a long long time before you were born... when we ancients wanted to masturbate but the VCR was broken or our parents were watching Dallas recordings... we had to hump our pillow and use our imagination.
Yup you young people are indeed funny.
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Maybe write a-bit about your self on your profile as it doesn’t really stand out and make me go wow let me message this guy. Put some personality into it.
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣
I click on the profile - if it’s obvious they’ve not read up on what we’re looking for, I just delete it without reading it
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Agreed but I always read the profiles. I genuinely don't understand why people ignore them"
Honestly, I would say about 90% of the messages we get, it’s clear they haven’t read it. Or - worse - they have, but they’re so entitled that they message anyway, thinking we’ll make an exception for them
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I get women get so meny messages especially if there seen online so it's hard to keep up even though quite a few of them are from the same person. Must be difficult for them but also frustrating for a genuine guy trying to chat. |
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If they can read the whole message from the preview there's no need to open it.
Otherwise marking unread reduces the likelihood of being called an ignorant cunt for reading and not replying, so some mark them unread to save hassle. If it's a couple account many will mark unread until both parties have read it 💜 |
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over a year ago
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I have email notifications whenever we get a message on the couples profile. I can read messages in full on those, which means when I switch to that account I can hit delete without ever opening the message.
If either of us hasn't logged in for a while they'll sit there unread in the meantime.
Quite often there'll be a second message from the same person before we've had a chance to delete the first......🤦♂️🤦♂️ |
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It's going to partly be influenced by your profile and how well you've managed to influence the recipient that you might be right for them. This is probably the biggest influence, after their inbox load.
It's probably highly optimistic that you get 1% of the recipient and sender to be mutually compatible.
Your focus should be less about what's read or not and more upon how well you're really communicating who you are and how you look, to the extent and requirements of the message recipients.
If your profile gives close to 100% selling yourself accurately and lets others to be able to assess you for attraction, then you're using Fab's basic tools as good as possible |
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"If they can read the whole message from the preview there's no need to open it.
Otherwise marking unread reduces the likelihood of being called an ignorant cunt for reading and not replying, so some mark them unread to save hassle. If it's a couple account many will mark unread until both parties have read it 💜"
I get you. Thank you! |
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"It's going to partly be influenced by your profile and how well you've managed to influence the recipient that you might be right for them. This is probably the biggest influence, after their inbox load.
It's probably highly optimistic that you get 1% of the recipient and sender to be mutually compatible.
Your focus should be less about what's read or not and more upon how well you're really communicating who you are and how you look, to the extent and requirements of the message recipients.
If your profile gives close to 100% selling yourself accurately and lets others to be able to assess you for attraction, then you're using Fab's basic tools as good as possible "
Thanks Sophie |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣"
This happens a LOT..
Even the most "accomplished" people will get missed with the sheer volume of messages girls and couples get.
Admit, I get fatigue from being the first to message all the time. |
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"So why is it that 90% of the messages I've sent haven't been read?
Do you ladies really get too many messages to go through?
Or maybe it's the name? 🤣"
I can read 90% of my messages without clicking on them, so they still appear to be yellow and unread. |
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"I read then,set them to not read just to piss people off
It works"
Then stop attaching so much meaning to it
It’s one random person, who might not like the look of you, or they might not be in the mood, or they might have their eye on someone already etc…. |
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I've sent messages that have been left unread for a few days which I end up just deleting.
When I get an email notification telling me I have a message you can view the message there and I'm not sure it notifies FAB it's been read so there's also that to consider. |
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"I've sent messages that have been left unread for a few days which I end up just deleting.
When I get an email notification telling me I have a message you can view the message there and I'm not sure it notifies FAB it's been read so there's also that to consider. "
Yeah I'm deleting mine after a few days now also |
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