"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
Sorry to hear that pal.... get involved on the threads and chatting with people, hopefully take your mind off of being lonely.... happy to chat anytime  |
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
We all get like that at times.
Come have a mooch and a giggle around on here buddy 🤝 |
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Hey OP, never apologise for opening up. Your feelings are perfectly valid, and it's ok to feel how you feel!
Sorry you're feeling lonely. It can get to us from time to time, can't it - living alone. I think that's probably why I spend time in the forum. It gives a little bit of a sense of companionship.
Have you maybe got a friend or family member you can call and have a catch up and a gossip with? It might help.
Hope you feel yourself again soon. |
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
That why the forums are here, plenty of people to chat to and have laugh with here. |
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Unless you have experienced it, it is very hard to comprehend how all consuming loneliness can be. And that you can be lonely when surrounded by people.
When I struggle with it, I come on the forums. There is always someone around to have a chat and a giggle with and I have made some good friends from it.
Also make sure you are looking after your physical needs as well, eating properly, sleeping and trying to have some activity out of the house every day will also help. |
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"Unless you have experienced it, it is very hard to comprehend how all consuming loneliness can be. And that you can be lonely when surrounded by people.
When I struggle with it, I come on the forums. There is always someone around to have a chat and a giggle with and I have made some good friends from it.
Also make sure you are looking after your physical needs as well, eating properly, sleeping and trying to have some activity out of the house every day will also help."
The nit were you can be lonely surrounded by people is me.
For a few days every month I get like that .
It comes from nowhere ,hangs around for a while then ebs away.
Whenever I talk to someone about it they just don't get it. |
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It is very hard to describe almost like I can hide it away at work . Then when I get home on my own start dreading Christmas which i know sounds ridiculous etc
It would be nice to have a chat with fellow humans and interaction
Most the time I’m fine doing things on my own etc |
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
I think we all feel that way sometimes. I know I (Mrs) do at times. For instance when I'm a back shift at work, there's only me in my department, sure I see customers coming through but unless I'm being asked for garlic bread, they don't really speak to me. Then by the time I'm home, Mr is in bed ready for work in the morning and the kids are in bed, so it's just me, the dogs and the forum |
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"You don't have to be alone to feel lonely, it happens to the best of us
Reach out, chat to someone, there's always someone on here who chat 😍 "
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Yes i agree 💯, I've been exactly that myself in the past and it's not very nice at all.
Hope you are ok too my friend  |
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It’s not a nice feeling mate is there any thing you can start doing regular on an evening that gets you out the house and around people? I trained at home my whole live but when the kids mother left decided to train at a gym just to get out the house on a night time and got to know loads of people and stops feeling lonely |
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By *host63Man 1 week ago
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
Story of my life I just exist. Though lately I have been thi king ot would be nice to go to bed and not wake up.
Not that I am going to do anything silly. Just how I feel. |
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I can empathise, OP. I think the only thing I can recommend is throwing yourself into your hobbies and try and find a little fulfilment in that way rather than try and focus on what others can provide for you.
But it's a tough cycle to break, but you can get through this! |
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
Hi just wanted to say I know that feeling all too well.
I may not be the best at replying straight away but i will always reply so if you want to chat or anything just reach out |
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
I love my own company and living by myself, I've got rugby on the TV and on here without a nag insight
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry
That why the forums are here, plenty of people to chat to and have laugh with here. "
Don't over promise with the offer of a laugh...have you read some of the threads?!? 🤣
But hope you're feeling better soon, OP. As others have said, a good distraction here!
Longer term, have you got some hobbies you could use to meet new people? |
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
Don't be sorry for it and I hope you're in a better place today.
Sometimes we choose to be alone and others, for whatever reason beyond our control, it's forced on us. But there are times when it weighs heavily.
You've seen the good people on here who're here for you.
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"Not in a desperate way or anything just feeling a bit alone only seen people at work just feeling g it a bit tonight sorry "
Sorry to hear that OP. I get bouts but I blame that mostly on my mental health conditions and autism ( neurodevelopmental condition)
I'm single with no children, living alone and I struggle with people at work.( they don't understand autism- it's isolating)
1.Online forums and groups help me.
2. I go to swingers clubs/nudist spas/ Alternative sexual events..shout out to LAM this Sunday!
3.I have in-person support groups for mental health.
4. I do have poly playmates but they are not always available.
5. I go to the leisure centre.
I can only suggest similar. We all need a feeling of validation, understanding, connection and belonging. |
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To the OP to break the cycle of loneliness when I lived and worked in London I joined a theatre club, leisure centre for badminton and rambling it's so enjoyable meeting new people and finding new friends with the same interests, none sexual just a friendly get together. Mx  |
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"There's a couple of socials happening not far from you if you're looking for chats with real people. Drop me a line anytime.
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This.
Get along to a Hampshires most wanted social night or similar. Wonderful people and a great night out to shoo away that Black Dog when he comes visiting. I sometimes get down like this… working from home, single, kids grown up, friends busy. I’m so grateful to Fab and the swinging friends I have made. I’ll often drive an hour to go to Chameleons if I need company, better than my local pub and swingers are generally overwhelmingly positive happy people. |
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"I wfh, and alone nearly every day and night. Office most Wednesdays during the day.
I can be horrid at times being lonely. Ive sobbed on the odd occasion over this.
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We’re not meant to be like this, we are naturally social animals; humans need interaction and the increasingly online / streaming / wfh society means we are losing those essential ‘third spaces’. I’ll do a fitness / spin class at the local leisure centre to break the isolation. Go early, Chit chat, discuss weights, instructors.. anything. The endorphin hit from exercise plays a massive part too. Recommended. |
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"I wfh, and alone nearly every day and night. Office most Wednesdays during the day.
I can be horrid at times being lonely. Ive sobbed on the odd occasion over this.
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Awww I'm so sorry to hear this xx |
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"I wfh, and alone nearly every day and night. Office most Wednesdays during the day.
I can be horrid at times being lonely. Ive sobbed on the odd occasion over this.
We’re not meant to be like this, we are naturally social animals; humans need interaction and the increasingly online / streaming / wfh society means we are losing those essential ‘third spaces’. I’ll do a fitness / spin class at the local leisure centre to break the isolation. Go early, Chit chat, discuss weights, instructors.. anything. The endorphin hit from exercise plays a massive part too. Recommended."
I go to the gym 3 times a week, and yes this gives great endorphins.
I think it can be the long lonely days at-home and at weekends. Lack of human contact.
Currently my social life isn't as good, as waiting for surgery and my condition restricts me massively.
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"You know what the sad thing is, there's an actual loneliness epidemic in this country. With half of the population of adults feeling lonely. It is a sad situation we are in. "
its the lack of human face 2 face interactions, that I miss.
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"I wfh, and alone nearly every day and night. Office most Wednesdays during the day.
I can be horrid at times being lonely. Ive sobbed on the odd occasion over this.
We’re not meant to be like this, we are naturally social animals; humans need interaction and the increasingly online / streaming / wfh society means we are losing those essential ‘third spaces’. I’ll do a fitness / spin class at the local leisure centre to break the isolation. Go early, Chit chat, discuss weights, instructors.. anything. The endorphin hit from exercise plays a massive part too. Recommended.
I go to the gym 3 times a week, and yes this gives great endorphins.
I think it can be the long lonely days at-home and at weekends. Lack of human contact.
Currently my social life isn't as good, as waiting for surgery and my condition restricts me massively.
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For most people the gym can be a solo pursuit.
I'm not a gym goer. I can go to the gym anxious and leave anxious. I think it's because I'm autistic.
I did 8 weeks weight training in the gym with my weightlifting trainer. I hyperfocused on him instead of all the other sensory input. That helps plus he's superfunny and sassy for a giant Viking-looking baby face.
Some of us need a spotter not only in the gym but in life. If you are neurodivergent like me....I have 10 or more spotters. |
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Loneliness is horrible. People living in their own bubbles. People ordering online instead of stepping out into the world. I have crawled up the walls with it in the past
Not too bad atm
But constantly feeling I'm in the wrong situation
Also as we get older and people around us die or grow distant. Been slowing loosing both parents |
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I know the feeling... my work is very stressful and consumes a lot of my time and energy , which is now effecting my mental health.... inturn its impacting my social life.... I don't see many friends as they all got their families and own lives..... I just work to keep busy.... its a never ending cycle  |
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I have recently split from a lady who I met through swinging, we were together for 2 years as spent all our time together and now that isn’t so, so my lifestyle that has been familiar and with her is no longer, my weekends were empty until I decided not to let that happen and get back out there and meet awesome people like yourself and start having a life as a single guy again. |
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"I think k what a lot of women don't understand or will ever appreciate is how utterly invisible and unwanted, expendable the average guy feels no atter how good our intentions are."
I think you are right. I have this notion that guys are much more ok with being single & cope better. That lonliness doesnt affect them as much. I've no real reason to believe that though.
I am sure there are plenty of genuine nice guys out there who would crave some untimacy. |
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By *akedMMan 5 days ago
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I have been on my own for a long time now. I swim 3 times a week, Tai Chi once a week. Go to a local community cafe . In a photography group. And work part time. But yes I am busy, I miss having some to hold hands with. Kiss and cuddle, spend time naked together and make love |
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Aye ~ work is my only social life these days. All my friends seem to have drifted away; I'm not good at going out; wife doesn't speak to me any more. Sometimes I even look forward to working days (I'm part time now) so I can have a good natter and a laugh. |
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Tbh..... fab is jlmore then just a swingers site.... its great for just having a normal chat and striking a friendship with people if people do reply to the initial messages .
We are not all sex pest.... some of us are genuine people just reaching out for a chat to void the boredom and loneliness  |
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"I think k what a lot of women don't understand or will ever appreciate is how utterly invisible and unwanted, expendable the average guy feels no atter how good our intentions are.
I think you are right. I have this notion that guys are much more ok with being single & cope better. That lonliness doesnt affect them as much. I've no real reason to believe that though.
I am sure there are plenty of genuine nice guys out there who would crave some untimacy. "
I think guys are more lonely as they are more likely to drift away from family and friends... women are much better at feathering social circles. Men outside of teams, work and pubs struggle.. particularly Witt other men |
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