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Is online dating now the new norm?
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By *ingh89 OP Man 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
Hi All,
Here’s a thought - is online dating now the new norm and has become the go-to?
Has the old fashion way of meeting face-to-face organically become outdated?
Would be good to hear everyones thoughts. |
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By *agic.MMan 2 weeks ago
Orpington |
I would say it definitely is the new norm...but it's more a matter of convenience rather than anything else. I don't have to dress up, get an ubber, pay for drinks and than awkwardly start a conversation with someone there that might or might not want me to speak to them in the first place. You go on an app (where you know other people are there for the same reasons- dating) and just upload some pics and write a short bio, which will allow you to match with someone at any time of the day really. Now I'm not saying finding someone or dating has become easier because of these app...I'm just saying it's more convenient |
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I think it's actually becoming a bit outdated and the current trend is to meet irl rather than online.
I would like to dip my toe into dating again but if all it meant was dating apps I'd stay single. I don't hate being single so I'd only try dating again if it worked for me.
I know this is a sex site but there's too many men that just want sex on dating sites and it puts me off. Dating sites should be for dating. Sex sites should be for sex.
It's also incredibly hard to find your fit via algorithms where you can't refine by your preferences.
So for me I'm in the irl camp for now.
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By *ingh89 OP Man 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"It's not working for me. I've been on various online dating apps for well over a 15 years, and I've only ever had 1 physical meet.
I'm a real life undatable  "
I am in very similar situation 😬
Social media has definitely influenced individuals to set their standards high. |
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"It's not working for me. I've been on various online dating apps for well over a 15 years, and I've only ever had 1 physical meet.
I'm a real life undatable
I am in very similar situation 😬
Social media has definitely influenced individuals to set their standards high."
People should set their standards and their boundaries high. Otherwise you meet numpties.
I think what you mean is that it's based on looks and height which it largely is.
However I know what I'd be looking for and that's not based on them being handsome it's based on what their heart and personality are like and their moral compass. You don't get to find that out on dating sites.
Plus some men are not great at selling themselves when really they have a lot to offer. |
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I rarely ever leave the house these days apart from shopping, hair or nail appointments or visiting family 70 miles away, so on-line connections are pretty much the only way I ever meet anyone new these now. |
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"It's not working for me. I've been on various online dating apps for well over a 15 years, and I've only ever had 1 physical meet.
I'm a real life undatable
I am in very similar situation 😬
Social media has definitely influenced individuals to set their standards high.
People should set their standards and their boundaries high. Otherwise you meet numpties.
I think what you mean is that it's based on looks and height which it largely is.
However I know what I'd be looking for and that's not based on them being handsome it's based on what their heart and personality are like and their moral compass. You don't get to find that out on dating sites.
Plus some men are not great at selling themselves when really they have a lot to offer."
I dont sell myself. I stick to basics. Select pictures that show my character and personality and add a brief and basic write up.
If someone likes me, they'll message to find out more. Clearly that hasn't happened.
I have to say that I don't pay for the sites, always found at entry level. Could well be that my profile naturally defaults to the bottom of the algorithm as a non payed profile. Fuck knows! |
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By *oelMan 2 weeks ago
Midlands, London, Brussels |
Yes, but I have noticed when I go out on vanilla nights women now like being approached and complimented. The younger generation don't approach each other anymore, so they appreciate it. |
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"I rarely ever leave the house these days apart from shopping, hair or nail appointments or visiting family 70 miles away, so on-line connections are pretty much the only way I ever meet anyone new these now."
This sounds like me as well.
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By *ingh89 OP Man 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"Yes, but I have noticed when I go out on vanilla nights women now like being approached and complimented. The younger generation don't approach each other anymore, so they appreciate it. "
So would you say the younger/newer generation lack social skills in terms of meeting people in particular of the opposite sex with the intention of dating? |
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Its been online for 20 + yrs, but hardly anyone actually makes an effort to have a conversation or arrange to meet nowadays
Ive given up with online dating and joined a few local dating groups, who arrange date nights/meet ups, to see if that actually works. |
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By *ingh89 OP Man 2 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"Its been online for 20 + yrs, but hardly anyone actually makes an effort to have a conversation or arrange to meet nowadays
Ive given up with online dating and joined a few local dating groups, who arrange date nights/meet ups, to see if that actually works."
From a females perspective do you feel your in "control" as they will definitely get more matches in general compared to men? |
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"Its been online for 20 + yrs, but hardly anyone actually makes an effort to have a conversation or arrange to meet nowadays
Ive given up with online dating and joined a few local dating groups, who arrange date nights/meet ups, to see if that actually works.
From a females perspective do you feel your in "control" as they will definitely get more matches in general compared to men?"
Ive not been to an event yet, but hoping there is a good balance of people.
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I was doing online anonymous meetups in the 90s, dating in the noughties, and still naughty now. It's more like 50/50 for me though. I couldn't just meet online. The art of conversation and flirting, hopefully clicking, with someone new in-person is so much more fun than online. |
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