I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice? |
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"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?"
It is possible for women to be prescribed testosterone to help with libido. Two of my friends are on it and it has helped them.
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"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?
It is possible for women to be prescribed testosterone to help with libido. Two of my friends are on it and it has helped them.
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Yeah, that's a good point two with some excellent case studies too! But I wouldn't rule out the younger guy out just yet, OP... |
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With many things, experience is a double edged sword …travel, performing, tech and even swinging, a been there and done that attitude & thinking about everything you’ve done in the past can be limiting, when you need an attitude of curiosity & learning.
finding people who are forward looking and who see things very differently is helpful.
We’re much more interested in what people want to do than what they have done. |
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By *orny PTMan 37 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?"
What floats your vanilla boat?
Do you feel like someone who has lost the sense of smell and can't enjoy the smell of fresh baked bread, perfume or even flowers or fresh tarmac? |
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"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?
What floats your vanilla boat?
Do you feel like someone who has lost the sense of smell and can't enjoy the smell of fresh baked bread, perfume or even flowers or fresh tarmac?"
Yes, that's exactly how I feel! |
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It’s happens OP - you’ve had it good and therefore you have a benchmark of what you want/like/enjoy.
It’s harder to get traction with people on FAB and you become more aware of the bullshit and that you can’t be bothered wading through the mire to find the diamonds. It does become a chore at times, going over the same conversations with people when you know within 2 messages (or 1 sometimes) whether there’s anything there or not.
Changing your routine may help - going to social event and meeting people that way or chatting to couples is also good 👀
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"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?"
Have you been to your GP regarding this. Could be a hormone imbalance after your menopause and HRT might help.
A friend of mines had the same issue after her menopause. Now she cant get enough..xx |
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"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?
What floats your vanilla boat?
Do you feel like someone who has lost the sense of smell and can't enjoy the smell of fresh baked bread, perfume or even flowers or fresh tarmac?
Yes, that's exactly how I feel!"
Finding a younger toyboy masseur helps. Lol! 
I find a lot of men in swingers clubs devoid of sensuality, pre-care and aftercare. Hence moving to the BDSM scene.
I've been tying men up with rope and how they respond is amazing. One guy said to me that no one has taken that much care of him in a long time.
It was just touch. No sex at all.
I'm not on HRT and it takes a lot to enliven my libido. I'm 44 next month, and I don't suffer fools gladly in my Karen Era.
Once I noticed my libido drop, I had to work at it to rediscover my sexuality without a man! I became a nudist and a swinger which led me to the BDSM scene.
A lot of the time, I can be dominant because I often have to tell men how exactly to arouse me but it does leave me drained, so I prefer to find a rope top and continue with my massage men for a more sensual relaxing experience. |
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By *DCQMan 37 weeks ago
South East |
"I've been around the fetish/ swinging scene since 2002. I used to love sex, meeting new pp, fulfilling my fantasies. I had such a great time and loved it so much. I've had a break since Covid and I'm dipping my toe into it again, but it's just not there. I've recently started going to clubs but I'm struggling to find guys I want to have sex with. It's like, been there, done that. How can I reignite my love for sex? ( I've also been through menopause which massively affected my sex drive..) Any advice?"
I know that feeling, I do kinda think when it sets in it feels like there’s almost an inevitability that those days are over and it’s time to hang up your hat. I’m speaking from experience here! |
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