"Have you had one, do you want one, do you want your other half to have one??"
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No I haven't, I have been on the receiving end of my then husband having one though. The one who didn't want to swing ffs, he is my ex now obviously.
So I would say it's pretty hurtful to the ones who have no idea.
So I wouldn't engage with one knowingly. |
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I have been involved in one, but only because he was so incredibly neglectful of his family that for over a year of being available whenever I asked and going away for nights regularly I had no clue, until his wife showed up screaming on my doorstep.
I certainly don't want one or to be involved in anything of the sort.
I value honesty, and so I don't want to have partners who think that's appropriate behaviour 💜 |
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Unfortunately I have been involved in this and it caused pain, trauma and a lot of damage.
Affairs and cheating are not swinging.
The key point in swinging is the ethical aspect; ensuring that no one is emotionally or physically harmed by what we do, honesty and openness is the heart of that.
Affairs and cheating is the absolute opposite of that |
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Yes, no and no.
I was single (and a lot younger!) when I had one with a married chap I’d met in a pub on my first night out after the loss of a family member I thought the world of. I was extremely vulnerable at that time. That is not an excuse, just an explanation.
I thought I was in love with him, but looking back with the eyes of maturity and common sense, I wasn’t. I look back at that time with annoyance. At the time I wasted on him, that I was so foolish as to get involved with a married man to start with, and it made me not like myself for a very long time after I ended it.
For those who believe in karma, a subsequent fella of mine attempted to cheat on me. So I guess I got my comeuppance.
But I would never ever knowingly get involved in a relationship with a married man ever again. It isn’t sexy, thrilling or whatever. It makes you miserable eventually and you start to hate yourself. It’s also a waste of time that you can’t get back, ever.
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Unfortunately I have been involved in this and it caused pain, trauma and a lot of damage.
Affairs and cheating are not swinging.
The key point in swinging is the ethical aspect; ensuring that no one is emotionally or physically harmed by what we do, honesty and openness is the heart of that.
Affairs and cheating is the absolute opposite of that"
This front and centre. |
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By *m8591Couple (MM) 48 weeks ago
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I had a married woman for 5 years her husband didn’t have a clue I got her to make him wear protection if she had to have sex with him and I always sent her home to him full bruises and used ! But before anyone judged me, that is what she loved remember I was single |
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By *m8591Couple (MM) 48 weeks ago
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I had a married woman for 5 years her husband didn’t have a clue I got her to make him wear protection if she had to have sex with him and I always sent her home to him full bruises and used ! But before anyone judged me, that is what she loved remember I was single |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I've never had one
I wouldn't want one
I can get my head round physical infidelity
Emotional infidelity is a huge line for me
The curtains would be drawn on anyone who crossed it
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This |
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Nope never been unfaithful never intend to be either, the ex did play with other guys but only as a threesome and with full knowledge. Wouldn't want to be involved with someone that was in a relationship either,unless again it was part of a known fully aware thing for fun |
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"Have you had one, do you want one, do you want your other half to have one??"
In every relationship I've ever been in, I've had an affair, this marriage is the result of an affair
We've been together 24yrs and I've been faithful and he's given me his consent to have an extra man in my life |
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