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By *atex pvc OP TV/TS 37 weeks ago
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Are you one of many who think Bondage is inflcking or even hurting your play partner or are you like me think of it as a work of art a craft that needs perfecting..im the submissive one who enjoys chatting to masters/Mistresses about the the many prostrate position I could be put in and photographed alas they seem to be a disappearing breed on this site which is a shame...come on dont hide private me and lets chat... |
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Somewhere in the middle, not Shibari , it’s much more sexual than art, but not about inflicting pain. It’s about restraining for sexual pleasure, both how it looks when she’s restrained and the things it allows me to do to her, including taking arty photographs! |
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By *vaRoseWoman 37 weeks ago
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I’m really enjoying exploring Shibari and rope play.
I’ve always enjoyed bondage, I love designing new predicaments and the visual aspect. It’s sexual but it’s also art, and there’s something rather therapeutic and soothing about tying someone and learning the intricacies of each tie. |
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"Are you one of many who think Bondage is inflcking or even hurting your play partner or are you like me think of it as a work of art a craft that needs perfecting..im the submissive one who enjoys chatting to masters/Mistresses about the the many prostrate position I could be put in and photographed alas they seem to be a disappearing breed on this site which is a shame...come on dont hide private me and lets chat..."
I think the distinction between Western bondage and Japanese style bondage is this. In Western bondage a person is tied to so that something is done to them, e.g. sex or impact.
Within Western bondage there is a subset called "damsel in distress bondage" the classic heroine tied to the tracks, to a chair or wherever. The focus is on restraint, and the look of the tie, and sometimes the potential for sex. Dave Annis does some great and funny cartoons exploring this. Also Alazar has a great set of Adult cartoons on bondage. In terms of pictures the UK had an interesting website of elegantly restrained women (the rigger an internationallyknown UK rigger).
However, as much as I appreciate the skill behind this type of bondage (which in my experience is a minority interest and not to be confused with static shibari), to me it is too methodical and lacking in connection for me to enjoy it. I feel the same about any bondage which is purely based on look and being tied to be photographed e.g static shibari.
My interest is shibari, using the definition of an sadomasochistic erotic tying practice. In my mind there is a distinction between sexual and erotic. But also remembering that most of the great riggers (Japanese and American) worked in porn.
My definition (borrowed) allows for the sensual caressing rope (aibinawa) of Haruki Yukimura to the suffering rope (semenawa) of Akira Naka or the sadistic activities of both Kazami Ranki known as the 'atrocious nawashi' or Randa Mai RIP.
But as Akira Naka is alleged to have said "Rope is free". In other words everyone can and should do their own ropy thing.
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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I enjoy restraint as a part of impact play and fucking.
I have nothing but admiration for those who elevate their craft to highly intellectual, emotional and aesthetic levels and through that I've discovered what I like is kinky sex. Kink is the flavour, it's the spice. Its not the main course.
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By *enelope2UWoman 33 weeks ago
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Bondage for me is relinquishing control to someone who's earned and proven they are capable of that responsibility. Spanking is a further indication of them knowing their limits their power and my body. Trust is essential and I'd NEVER be with anyone man that isn't aware of their on self.
It has nothing to do with pain or a desire to be inflicted with pain. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Bondage for me is relinquishing control to someone who's earned and proven they are capable of that responsibility. Spanking is a further indication of them knowing their limits their power and my body. Trust is essential and I'd NEVER be with anyone man that isn't aware of their on self.
It has nothing to do with pain or a desire to be inflicted with pain. "
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"Bondage for me is relinquishing control to someone who's earned and proven they are capable of that responsibility. Spanking is a further indication of them knowing their limits their power and my body. Trust is essential and I'd NEVER be with anyone man that isn't aware of their on self.
It has nothing to do with pain or a desire to be inflicted with pain.
What is spanking if it's not infliction of pain?"
Spanking has many purposes and ways of it doing it. It can be done sensually. There is a great meme not all spanking are created equal.
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Bondage for me is relinquishing control to someone who's earned and proven they are capable of that responsibility. Spanking is a further indication of them knowing their limits their power and my body. Trust is essential and I'd NEVER be with anyone man that isn't aware of their on self.
It has nothing to do with pain or a desire to be inflicted with pain.
What is spanking if it's not infliction of pain?
Spanking has many purposes and ways of it doing it. It can be done sensually. There is a great meme not all spanking are created equal.
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That's fair enough actually. I just looked this up and I can see there are other ways to create sensations with spanking that don't involve pain. |
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"Bondage for me is relinquishing control to someone who's earned and proven they are capable of that responsibility. Spanking is a further indication of them knowing their limits their power and my body. Trust is essential and I'd NEVER be with anyone man that isn't aware of their on self.
It has nothing to do with pain or a desire to be inflicted with pain.
What is spanking if it's not infliction of pain?
Spanking has many purposes and ways of it doing it. It can be done sensually. There is a great meme not all spanking are created equal.
That's fair enough actually. I just looked this up and I can see there are other ways to create sensations with spanking that don't involve pain."
The key thing is that you thought it through and did the research.  |
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By *enelope2UWoman 33 weeks ago
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"Bondage for me is relinquishing control to someone who's earned and proven they are capable of that responsibility. Spanking is a further indication of them knowing their limits their power and my body. Trust is essential and I'd NEVER be with anyone man that isn't aware of their on self.
It has nothing to do with pain or a desire to be inflicted with pain.
What is spanking if it's not infliction of pain?"
It's the sound its the tingle its the fact others hear it..club settings im generally the only woman being spanked and I get off knowing that.
It's him knowing how much is too much and not going over the amount.
I get off being the only or rare.
im sensitive so its the sensation from the heat then his touch caressing my ass after it or kissing me after. There is a difference of heat touch pressure. I've never been spanked for pain and I don't require pain in anything or any form. For me pain is when someone is not capable of giving correct pleasure weathercthats spanking or anal and I don't have pain in either because I don't/won't entertain incompatible men.
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Everyone is entitled to their own view. However as someone who plays with masochists and someone who can do sensual play, I would categorically state that there are masochists who crave pain, a smaller subset are aroused by pain. Where scenes are fully negotiated and the boundaries set out before play and in play the top is keeping a close eye on the bottom there is nothing wrong in pain. If pain is poor technique, sharps, clothes pegs, whips and a multitude of other toys would not be part of the scene.
In terms of rope play, I would mention the use of coconut rope in rope play. I would also mention the shibari concept of semenawa.
Most serious consensual sadists I have met have been technically proficient and knowledgeable about anatomy and they play within their partner's and their own limits. It tends to be the hedonists who have not done the research and practice that cause issues. |
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I think bondage can be used in different ways. I’ve watched scenes where it’s been quite sensual to and I’ve seen a scene where the rope was being used to conflict pain. Both were very interesting to watch.
For me, being restrained is about how it makes me feel. Giving over that control and feeling quite vulnerable (with also knowing that level of trust is there). I do also enjoy the texture of the rope against my skin. Sometimes spanking can be a part of it as it’s something I enjoy but it isn’t always part of it.
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I really enjoy the feel of rope against my skin and often find the restraint relaxing. It's a thing in itself although I enjoy being spanked and nipple play while tied up too. It's all a question of following the mood with someone who enjoys what they're doing |
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Another non sexual alternative is instead of bottoms starting with private play with a new partner is to be tied at a Peer Rope or equivalent event. They are inclusive events.
Back in the day, I would do the first few meets at Anatomie in London.
Just inform the organisers to keep an eye on you and to check in. |
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Somewhere in the middle, I can appreciate the art of it and things like Shibari, but also enjoy using it for sexual and sensual restraint, it's definitely not about inflicting pain although that sometimes happens during restrain.
Obviously interested in the Photography side, although not had much success yet
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"Depending on your school of thought, rope can be used for aesthetic, pleasure or pain, western style rope, can be all 3, kimbaku is generally classed as a more Japanese style"
Hi 
We got a handmade hemp rope recently it's beautiful but very coarse will send you a photo |
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