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By *Duval69 OP Man 28 weeks ago
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Am I missing something really major here? Is there something really bad / wrong about my profile?
Do I come across too desperate, too needy? Just simply being me. I get I’m not everyone’s type. Am I alone on here or do lots of other guys have most their messages read and deleted with no response? Just didn’t expect that it would be 98% of the time, and happen for months and months on end! Deffo not renewing site supporter cos there’s no point at all! |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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Bottom line…..your profile screams desperate and lacking self confidence.
My advice…..and I mean this in the nicest way….if this is what you want, take a break, reflect, do the work on yourself first.
Stay strong 🤝 |
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Men far out number women.
Your message not being read, or being read and deleted is possibly just one of many messages that person has read and deleted. Women have a choice to who rhey contact (obviously) and you may not tick all the boxes they wish to be ticked.
Dont take it personelly, just move on |
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Must be missing something cos all I can see is 3 dots… that would be an instant no thanks
Pics are decent. We’d lose the really graphic stuff but that’s just preference. Not being able to accom would raise questions too.
No different to most other profiles really.
That being said… 2 verifications this year indicates you’re doing way better than most  |
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I used to send polite "thanks, but not for me" messages just so I didn't just read/delete.
Then I found out that the message filters don't apply if you've mailed someone before - so if I message someone with a polite "no", I have essentially given them a way to get around my filters forever.
Then I ended up blocking loads of guys who took a "no thank you" message as a chance to reply constantly and try to 'wear me down' to a meet.
So now I don't reply unless I'm genuinely very interested, it isn't worth my while otherwise, especially if your inbox can have a couple of hundred messages in it. |
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I am out of your age preference but thought I’d chime in anyway.  🎀
What were your expectations when you joined the site? That women would just message you offering meets? That you would be having sex with a different woman every day? Seems to be a growing trend nowadays amongst many men…
Having paid your fiver on Fab doesn’t give absolutely any more chances of meeting- it only gives you enhanced features such as being able to see who’s looked at your profile, watch or post videos, see who’s near, etc.
You have a good physique, but, respectfully, there are thousands and thousands like you on Fab for not that many women. So if you don’t appeal to them, they won’t reply. We have the pick of the crop, let’s put it this way. Is it fair? Probably not, but there are many men as well who are highly successful and meet several women and have groups of established friends. |
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"I used to send polite "thanks, but not for me" messages just so I didn't just read/delete.
Then I found out that the message filters don't apply if you've mailed someone before - so if I message someone with a polite "no", I have essentially given them a way to get around my filters forever.
Then I ended up blocking loads of guys who took a "no thank you" message as a chance to reply constantly and try to 'wear me down' to a meet.
So now I don't reply unless I'm genuinely very interested, it isn't worth my while otherwise, especially if your inbox can have a couple of hundred messages in it."
The price of being nice… 😞 |
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Variations on my standard advice (I'm not leading anyone to "an answer", just places which might be more fruitful):
Fab leans older. All single men have a hard time, but under 30 is almost as bad, I gather, as over 55.
Lose emojis in pictures, they're juvenile. Crop the face instead (or do something more creative - if you're a book lover, for example, cover your face with a book if you still want to show your head)
More photos, more variety, but apart from the emoji, they're good. Cock shots (I know you don't have them) are polarising. I think as long as they're less than 10% of your pictures and it isn't an extreme close up of you trying to str@ngle the poor thing - that's what I would do, anyway, if I were a man.
Text: answer these questions, and remember you're selling yourself to someone who you might want to meet. Who am I? (Not "I'm Bob Jones, I'm a teacher, and oops now some of the parents know and I'm in shit", more describe the kind of person you think you are, the way your friends might describe you to someone who might be interested in you) What am I looking for? (No shopping lists, don't be demanding. Give a general sense of the niche or niches you're interested in exploring) Why me? (Show off, but don't be arrogant. What makes you better than BiggusDickus down the road, though don't name anyone else on your profile) |
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If you want honest advice (and I'm trying to be constructive/helpful and not tear you down)
"open for trying near enough anything except the extreme stuff." this reads to me similarly to "no limits" type of phrasing, which I always see as a red flag 🚩 people have very different ideas of what extreme is.
I'd suggest replacing that with something simple like "sexually very open minded, enjoy both vanilla and kinky sex" or something similar rather than "I'll do almost anything" which it sounds like at the moment.
Your bio also pretty much just talks about what you want/like sexually. Maybe try adding some stuff about what you are like as a person, non sexual interests or what you look for in a partner etc. Give people a more full/rounded picture of you.
Also, more photos the better as far as I'm concerned, but they need to be well taken and well thought out.
Sadly, it's also just a sausagefest on here so it's difficult even for people with excellent profiles. But all you can do is try and stand out from the crowd a bit. |
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"Am I missing something really major here? Is there something really bad / wrong about my profile?
Do I come across too desperate, too needy? Just simply being me. I get I’m not everyone’s type. Am I alone on here or do lots of other guys have most their messages read and deleted with no response? Just didn’t expect that it would be 98% of the time, and happen for months and months on end! Deffo not renewing site supporter cos there’s no point at all! "
Unfortunately this is fab and women are outnumbered about 10000 to 1. Couple that with rude and disgusting messages sent to the fine ladies, it's impossible to get chatting unless you are a Greek god, with a massive cock! Yes, there are lots of shallow women on here too. |
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In addition to what has already been said, I would add that the last sentence will not do you any favours.
Women have lots of choice and are unlikely to contact you to find out if you tick the right boxes.
You need to sell yourself.
Think of your profile as a shop window to entice the ladies in. |
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The odds are stacked against you: there are far more singleton men trawling this site than women (and couples). Your message will be one of hundreds in their inbox and most women typically look at the profile first before even opening the message itself...assuming they feel inclined to do so.
Do you feel that you and your profile stands out compared to your peers? What is unique about you or your profile that will pique the interest of the person/s you are messaging...? |
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We learned when we reply with no thanks the ping pong starts with questions then abuse. It would take some hours of our time to reply to the volume of messages! Its not personal. If you are not blocked then maybe another time a meet will happen. Would love Eve to shag more of you but its her call. |
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The vast majority of people are not mutually compatible with most other people. For this reason almost 100%of messages, especially from single men, will not be replied to here. Don't lose hope OP, your profile is reasonably good and I'd probably strongly consider you, compared with most here. |
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By *mandoMan 28 weeks ago
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"I am out of your age preference but thought I’d chime in anyway. 🎀
What were your expectations when you joined the site? That women would just message you offering meets? That you would be having sex with a different woman every day? Seems to be a growing trend nowadays amongst many men…
Having paid your fiver on Fab doesn’t give absolutely any more chances of meeting- it only gives you enhanced features such as being able to see who’s looked at your profile, watch or post videos, see who’s near, etc.
You have a good physique, but, respectfully, there are thousands and thousands like you on Fab for not that many women. So if you don’t appeal to them, they won’t reply. We have the pick of the crop, let’s put it this way. Is it fair? Probably not, but there are many men as well who are highly successful and meet several women and have groups of established friends. "
Sorry for thread hijack.. but I really like your videos 🤷♂️🙃 |
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"Am I missing something really major here? Is there something really bad / wrong about my profile?
Do I come across too desperate, too needy? Just simply being me. I get I’m not everyone’s type. Am I alone on here or do lots of other guys have most their messages read and deleted with no response? Just didn’t expect that it would be 98% of the time, and happen for months and months on end! Deffo not renewing site supporter cos there’s no point at all! "
Well somebody on here liked you enough to see you twice...and left glowing reviews. If they actually exist.
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"Must be missing something cos all I can see is 3 dots… that would be an instant no thanks
Pics are decent. We’d lose the really graphic stuff but that’s just preference. Not being able to accom would raise questions too.
No different to most other profiles really.
That being said… 2 verifications this year indicates you’re doing way better than most "
Agreed |
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