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Most people - including those who want to "just chat" - are here for sexual gratification.
If there's no attraction, for many there's no point in chatting.
Conversely, many who find pictures to be an unreasonable impediment think that chatting will override a lack of attraction.
They're mistaken. |
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Hardly tragic, and better off knowing whether you float each other's boat from the off in my opinion.
I don't think I've ever had to ask for a pic, but have heard stories on here where people have been blocked after sending a face pic, after spending quite some time chatting. Why go through that? 🤷🏼♀️ |
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People need to use their time effectively here. When almost 100%of people who make contact not being mutually compatible, there are high volumes of people who need to be eliminated, before finding them. This is laborious, when people may get hundreds of messages to go through.
Physical attraction is essential for most people and seeing pics is the likely way that we can do this.
Some people also want wank fodder, which will usually be pics and sex chat. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Hardly tragic, and better off knowing whether you float each other's boat from the off in my opinion.
I don't think I've ever had to ask for a pic, but have heard stories on here where people have been blocked after sending a face pic, after spending quite some time chatting. Why go through that? 🤷🏼♀️"
i’ve sent a face pic after chatting for a while before and then the chatting abruptly ends. I’ll send pics when I’m ready to. |
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"Hardly tragic, and better off knowing whether you float each other's boat from the off in my opinion.
I don't think I've ever had to ask for a pic, but have heard stories on here where people have been blocked after sending a face pic, after spending quite some time chatting. Why go through that? 🤷🏼♀️i’ve sent a face pic after chatting for a while before and then the chatting abruptly ends. I’ll send pics when I’m ready to."
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"Hardly tragic, and better off knowing whether you float each other's boat from the off in my opinion.
I don't think I've ever had to ask for a pic, but have heard stories on here where people have been blocked after sending a face pic, after spending quite some time chatting. Why go through that? 🤷🏼♀️i’ve sent a face pic after chatting for a while before and then the chatting abruptly ends. I’ll send pics when I’m ready to."
So what I hear you saying is that you don't care about whether someone else is getting something out of the conversation, as long as you're getting what you want. |
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary."
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary.
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. "
thanks for sharing. Most enlightening. |
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There are probably services, none of them which should be advertised here, which will give you what you want, OP.
If you want it given voluntarily, you also have to consider the desires of others. If they want to see you before they go further, you need to respect that. |
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"I get turned on by good erotic conversation, pictures should be a bonus, not a demand."
Why shouldn't people want to see who they are speaking to?
What's the point when there's no attraction? You may be able to just knock one out to anything and be done, others want attraction and we can't guage that by a penis alone.
Wanting to chat to someone your attracted to isn't a bad thing.
Any holes a goal isn't for everyone & off-putting for many.
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" I don't think I've ever had to ask for a pic, but have heard stories on here where people have been blocked after sending a face pic, after spending quite some time chatting. Why go through that? 🤷🏼♀️i’ve sent a face pic after chatting for a while before and then the chatting abruptly ends. I’ll send pics when I’m ready to."
Guys who don't show face but do show peen is weird. How can you think your dik is less offensive than your head? Unless you are hideously ugly. |
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"I get turned on by good erotic conversation, pictures should be a bonus, not a demand. but that’s you most women don’t like erotic conversation for you to wa*k to "
Sometimes around here you do feel that people expect a free adult worker.
If I ever get that impression I shut down conversation fast. |
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There are many people on here who get very ratty if they do not get their requested pictures straight away. Try to explain your reasons for not instantly complying and you usually get a nasty comment. At least it gives you a reason to terminate their usually boring conversational thread. |
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"There are many people on here who get very ratty if they do not get their requested pictures straight away. Try to explain your reasons for not instantly complying and you usually get a nasty comment. At least it gives you a reason to terminate their usually boring conversational thread."
Imagine wanting to see the person your speaking to, so rude of them 😂
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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I think I should clarify some things. The requests are swiftly followed by question marks if pics aren’t sent. That’s I mean. No problem with wanting to see someone you’re interested in. |
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"Most people - including those who want to "just chat" - are here for sexual gratification.
If there's no attraction, for many there's no point in chatting.
Conversely, many who find pictures to be an unreasonable impediment think that chatting will override a lack of attraction.
They're mistaken."
do photos do justice or an injustice are they natural or photo shopped |
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I chat quite a lot on here , the odd compliment or light flirt here and there , sometimes a silly form of flirting 😂 mostly though it’s general chat and a shared giggle at things and pic sending is pretty much always day to day things completely not sexual .
Does that mean I’m doing shit wrong ? 😂
If so I kinda like doing it wrong |
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"I chat quite a lot on here , the odd compliment or light flirt here and there , sometimes a silly form of flirting 😂 mostly though it’s general chat and a shared giggle at things and pic sending is pretty much always day to day things completely not sexual .
Does that mean I’m doing shit wrong ? 😂
If so I kinda like doing it wrong "
I'd say you were doing it right.
Decent pics, general chit chat without expecting to knock one out immediately without seeing their face is absolutely better than the above.
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"I think I should clarify some things. The requests are swiftly followed by question marks if pics aren’t sent. That’s I mean. No problem with wanting to see someone you’re interested in. "
Are you continuing to chat after someone has requested pictures?
If so, the rude person is you.
They're telling you what they need for the conversation to continue.
It'd be a bit like... Let's say we were engaged in an erotic conversation.
And halfway through my detailed description of a blowjob I feel like taking a bite. Not a love nibble, a screaming straight to hospital bite.
Because what I want is the most important thing, isn't it? |
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary.
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. thanks for sharing. Most enlightening."
Not trying to enlighten. Personally couldn't care less. But humans need a purpose and therapist's need money too. |
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Why is it op? Some ladies and couples get loads of mail. To save wasting time, they want an idea of if they'd be attracted to you.
People can ask for pics, after all they're here for what they want and like.
You can't tell anything from those pics, except you have a cock. Why keep chatting to someone, when they've no idea what you're like. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary.
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. thanks for sharing. Most enlightening.
Not trying to enlighten. Personally couldn't care less. But humans need a purpose and therapist's need money too. "
And you don’t start a sentence with ‘but’
Happy fabbing. |
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By *eys00Man 28 weeks ago
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To play devils advocate, this is a very particular site where most who are here are here for a fairly specific reason! For many (not all I know) physical attraction is high on their list of priorities, so asking for pictures can help in deciding on whether to keep the conversation going
And also asking for pics can help out time wasters or people who are not as genuine as they say! |
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary.
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. thanks for sharing. Most enlightening.
Not trying to enlighten. Personally couldn't care less. But humans need a purpose and therapist's need money too. And you don’t start a sentence with ‘but’
Happy fabbing."
Oh bless, thinking that correcting grammar goes well on here |
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By *BCBWCCouple (MM) 28 weeks ago
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"Hardly tragic, and better off knowing whether you float each other's boat from the off in my opinion.
I don't think I've ever had to ask for a pic, but have heard stories on here where people have been blocked after sending a face pic, after spending quite some time chatting. Why go through that? 🤷🏼♀️"
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we have that it drives us crazy |
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary.
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. thanks for sharing. Most enlightening.
Not trying to enlighten. Personally couldn't care less. But humans need a purpose and therapist's need money too. And you don’t start a sentence with ‘but’
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Why not? |
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By *eys00Man 28 weeks ago
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary.
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. thanks for sharing. Most enlightening.
Not trying to enlighten. Personally couldn't care less. But humans need a purpose and therapist's need money too. And you don’t start a sentence with ‘but’
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Why not?"
You actually can, not being allowed is just a common misconception. It doesn’t actually break any grammatical rules |
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"No point in chatting if there is no initial attraction and that can only be assessed by an exchange of face pictures. "
Absolutely this. Not wasting our time to find out there’s no physical attraction. That goes both ways x |
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By *eys00Man 28 weeks ago
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"Absolutely this. Not wasting our time to find out there’s no physical attraction. That goes both ways x"
I’ll double down on the time wasting point, asking for a pic potentially cuts out so much wasted time and effort!
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary.
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. thanks for sharing. Most enlightening.
Not trying to enlighten. Personally couldn't care less. But humans need a purpose and therapist's need money too. And you don’t start a sentence with ‘but’
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Why not?
You actually can, not being allowed is just a common misconception. It doesn’t actually break any grammatical rules "
I know. Thats why i was asking him. Its good when people try to be clever but havent the brains for it. |
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People approach Fab in a multitude of ways and there is no wrong or right method.
I chat for weeks because I'm a slow burn and I'm not quick to share photos. If someone was suspiciously persistent in asking me for a photo with very little chat then I would simply humour them with something equally inspiring - like a photo of my toaster. |
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"I think I should clarify some things. The requests are swiftly followed by question marks if pics aren’t sent. That’s I mean. No problem with wanting to see someone you’re interested in. "
Maybe they liked the pictures which are on your profile and then wondered whether your face would match up!
Your chance to progress... |
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By *eyeYCouple 28 weeks ago
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Ermm, because you are a complete stranger and frankly no one owes you a thing here or anywhere else for that matter.
A decidedly entitled opinion to believe otherwise.
Apologies OP, but if you believe you'll talk yourself into their pants, you're going to be very disappointed.
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We will happily chat to people who we feel we are compatible with.
Chatting to someone who isn’t, is in our interest.
We are here to meet and connect with people so won’t waste our time chatting to people we never will.
K |
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By *kibirdWoman 28 weeks ago
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"Ermm, because you are a complete stranger and frankly no one owes you a thing here or anywhere else for that matter.
A decidedly entitled opinion to believe otherwise.
Apologies OP, but if you believe you'll talk yourself into their pants, you're going to be very disappointed.
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I couldn’t have said it better myself. Why do people find this so hard to understand ?  |
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By *eyeYCouple 28 weeks ago
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"Ermm, because you are a complete stranger and frankly no one owes you a thing here or anywhere else for that matter.
A decidedly entitled opinion to believe otherwise.
Apologies OP, but if you believe you'll talk yourself into their pants, you're going to be very disappointed.
I couldn’t have said it better myself. Why do people find this so hard to understand ? "
Thank you, suggest it's because they don't want to and by the fact we're all here, we'll fuck anyone.. 🤷😂 |
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"Is it too hard to just have a good conversation without the 2nd reply consisting of “send me pics”.
So tragic and unnecessary.
Want to chat. Go see a therapist. They are professional listeners and people here are not obliged to chat to anyone if they don't want to. thanks for sharing. Most enlightening.
Not trying to enlighten. Personally couldn't care less. But humans need a purpose and therapist's need money too. And you don’t start a sentence with ‘but’
Happy fabbing.
Oh bless, thinking that correcting grammar goes well on here "
Maybe this is the real reason for the abrupt end to his 'chats' |
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