I didn't really discover the lifestyle because I don't prescribe to the lifestyle; I'm not a swinger.
I craved intimacy and a colleague from work told me about Fab.
Through my ex. He introduced me to another site more for kink and fetish. He never kept me go to events so when we broke up I started to go to events etc.
I had been curious about it for many years, never imagining I'd actually experience it firsthand.
After my move to the UK and subsequent separation, I took the plunge shortly after. Never been able to revert to complete vanilla since.