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We were in our early 40s when our child was born. Every day is a joy, and becoming parents has been the best thing that’s ever happened to us. Our only wish is that our first child was still here x |
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If I was with the right person. At this point it’s something I’d consider j guess.
The big issue is me being transgender and the outside discrimination and pressure on others that comes with dating / being with a person like me in this current climate .
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Not a chance. I've had friends who have had 'happy accidents' (their words) in their early to mid 40s and I don't envy them one bit. I love the freedom we have now that all of ours have grown up.
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"We were in our early 40s when our child was born. Every day is a joy, and becoming parents has been the best thing that’s ever happened to us. Our only wish is that our first child was still here x"
I (Mr) loved / still love every part of being a parent , I had 3 girls & my only regrets in life is not having more children. We talked about adopting & surrogacy but it’s unlikely to happen now. I think we’ve left it a little bit late. |
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"If you was 40-50 years old and you had or have adult kids. Would you have another?
Or do you?
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No, I wouldn't.
I have done the baby stage and enjoyed my kids as they've grown up. I couldn't go back to waking up to screaming and crying, breast feeding through the day/night becoming more of a zombie than I already do. The clingy following you to the bathroom as they HAVE to be in your presence 24/7. I've done that, it was stressful at times, but I loved all that. Now though, that has passed and I want to enjoy the next stages of my life and my kids' lives. |
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"If you was 40-50 years old and you had or have adult kids. Would you have another?
Or do you?
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Difficult one! I was seeing a younger woman not long ago and getting quite serious, and I could tell I would have been holding her back because I’ve done the kid thing and she was getting to the stage where she needed to crack on if she was going to have one of her own. Don’t get me wrong, being a dad is the best thing ever, best thing that’s ever happened to me, but as you get older you just don’t have the energy to do it all again with the enthusiasm, innocence and commitment any new child deserves. I think too many parents become parents for the wrong reasons or sometimes it’s forced upon them, and children are too precious fuck up…  |
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"If you was 40-50 years old and you had or have adult kids. Would you have another?
Or do you?
Difficult one! I was seeing a younger woman not long ago and getting quite serious, and I could tell I would have been holding her back because I’ve done the kid thing and she was getting to the stage where she needed to crack on if she was going to have one of her own. Don’t get me wrong, being a dad is the best thing ever, best thing that’s ever happened to me, but as you get older you just don’t have the energy to do it all again with the enthusiasm, innocence and commitment any new child deserves. I think too many parents become parents for the wrong reasons or sometimes it’s forced upon them, and children are too precious fuck up… "
I wish more people had this attitude instead of the 'kids are resilient, they cope with things' way of thinking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"We have 4 between us and there is no chance we will have another but we understand what a difficult decision it must be for those that have to make it x"
5 would be a mission |
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Well I’m grateful my mum did. She was 40 when she had me, my older brother is 20 years older than me, my sister 10 years older.
Her & my dad had ‘the conversation’ & she decided to go ahead with the pregnancy, for which I will remain eternally grateful. The fact she lost a previous child in infancy, her second child, another older brother of mine, might have had something to do with that decision.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"Well I’m grateful my mum did. She was 40 when she had me, my older brother is 20 years older than me, my sister 10 years older.
Her & my dad had ‘the conversation’ & she decided to go ahead with the pregnancy, for which I will remain eternally grateful. The fact she lost a previous child in infancy, her second child, another older brother of mine, might have had something to do with that decision.
Mr."
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If circumstances were right, Yes 🤷🏽♂️
I had a partner who I loved
Financially stable etc etc
I never wanted children. But when I did, it turned out to not be the horrible experience I feared it to be. |
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"I want 5 kids. I want to still be having kids when I’m in my 70s with a fit lady half my age.
Ageing doesn’t mean growing weak. I plan to be strong and fit into my 80s, 90s and beyond. "
You'll need to be very lucky for that to happen |
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No fuck that
I would have liked a crack at having kids with someone who wasn’t a cunt and didn’t already have kids but that’s not enough to make me want to again, I came out of it all pretty good having had full custody of my son since we split and my daughter just over half the time and planning to move in with me at some point so can’t complain really |
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Yes. I was a grandmother at 34. I was almost a mother again, but sadly, it wasn't meant to be.
Being a mother puts every other aspect of my life in the shade.
I'm now a great grandmother and struggling a bit but every day with them is a blessing.
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No, i had my son at 25 i got divorced but decided at 32 there would be too big an age gap even if I met someone else.
I was lucky all my partners I had either didnt have children or their children where over 18 and that suited me perfectly.
One of.my close friends got pregnant at 45 her one and only child. We are all a generation ahead of her as we are all grandparents |
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