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By *tu.x OP Man 24 weeks ago
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So a good friend of mine is separated from his mrs for about months he's convinced she will come back. Anyway I bumped into her recently asked how she was doing fantastic she said I asked is it definitely over for you and Pete she put her hand on my crotch come back with me she said il show you its over. So I politely declined do i say nothing or tell him all or just part of it ...ps they split because she was convinced he was cheating with someone at work he still says he wasn't i dunno |
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"So a good friend of mine is separated from his mrs for about months he's convinced she will come back. Anyway I bumped into her recently asked how she was doing fantastic she said I asked is it definitely over for you and Pete she put her hand on my crotch come back with me she said il show you its over. So I politely declined do i say nothing or tell him all or just part of it ...ps they split because she was convinced he was cheating with someone at work he still says he wasn't i dunno "
Bro's before hoe"s man! 🤣
You were loyal enough not to go there, why be disloyal not to tell him?? Even if it upsets him and your friendship...you told him the truth...you can hold your head up and look both of them in the eye...at the very least,you can close your eyes on your pillow and not have to worry.🤔 |
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Possibly not the best idea to tell him she propositioned you - he will forgive her anything as she's his ex - you on the other hand will be cast in his mind as the baddie (as though youre making it up, you was trying to seduce her etc - all sorts of silly irrational thoughts) and will never speak to you again. But, you can say you spoke to her and shes adamant its over and shes actively looking to move on..... |
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Depends how close you are as friends if it was my best friend I'd have to say but if it wasn't a friend who is so close I would
maybe just make them aware there isn't the hope of reconciliation so they move on. |
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"So a good friend of mine is separated from his mrs for about months he's convinced she will come back. Anyway I bumped into her recently asked how she was doing fantastic she said I asked is it definitely over for you and Pete she put her hand on my crotch come back with me she said il show you its over. So I politely declined do i say nothing or tell him all or just part of it ...ps they split because she was convinced he was cheating with someone at work he still says he wasn't i dunno "
I think you need to tell him all. If he thinks there's a chance to reconcile, he will get "stuck" just existing, waiting on a call that will never happen (or worse) he needs to be able to move on with his life and be with someone (or noone) who can give him what he wants/needs.
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You did well there mate, I'd have given her your number or asked for hers in case you needed to get in touch, maybe text her a few times see how it went for the next 6 months then if they weren't together by then maybe meet up etc |
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"So a good friend of mine is separated from his mrs for about months he's convinced she will come back. Anyway I bumped into her recently asked how she was doing fantastic she said I asked is it definitely over for you and Pete she put her hand on my crotch come back with me she said il show you its over. So I politely declined do i say nothing or tell him all or just part of it ...ps they split because she was convinced he was cheating with someone at work he still says he wasn't i dunno
I think you need to tell him all. If he thinks there's a chance to reconcile, he will get "stuck" just existing, waiting on a call that will never happen (or worse) he needs to be able to move on with his life and be with someone (or noone) who can give him what he wants/needs.
Bro's before hoes! "
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Firstly, well done for your loyalty to your friend.
Secondly, I’d tell him there’s no hope, if he doesn’t ask why, don’t tell him. If he asks, don’t lie.
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"So a good friend of mine is separated from his mrs for about months he's convinced she will come back. Anyway I bumped into her recently asked how she was doing fantastic she said I asked is it definitely over for you and Pete she put her hand on my crotch come back with me she said il show you its over. So I politely declined do i say nothing or tell him all or just part of it ...ps they split because she was convinced he was cheating with someone at work he still says he wasn't i dunno "
Her end game could have been to cause trouble between you and your friend should you have accepted her invite and she let him know. |
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You be better telling him, before she tells him that, you came on to her! I guarantee she will say it, just to make your mate feel like shit and feel betrayed by you... Don't ever go where a mate has already been... I had a mate, who's girl dumped him,hoping that we would get together instead...wrong!! No thank you! Not happening!!😳 "Im just gonna", "WALK AWAY!"😁 |
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"Is she a similar age to you op? about ten years younger "
If he's the same age I'd say he's mature enough for you to have an adult to adult chat with him then, without unnecessary drama.
Be clear in your own mind how much you are going to tell him and why.
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By *tu.x OP Man 24 weeks ago
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"Is she a similar age to you op? about ten years younger
If he's the same age I'd say he's mature enough for you to have an adult to adult chat with him then, without unnecessary drama.
Be clear in your own mind how much you are going to tell him and why.
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that's exactly what im trying to do be clear with what and how much to say if anything. Il figure it out appreciate people's thoughts something to think about |
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I'd tell him you bumped into her and when you asked her about them two, she was adamant it was over for good, and said she was moving on looking for someone new.
A decent friend would never go there
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I’d say stay out of it as much as humanly possible. If they patch things up, the whole story suddenly gets a new shape and guess who becomes the villain? Yep, you.My advice.. never dive into drama that belongs to two other people. If someone needs you to guide every step, they’re not reading the signs..they’re just pretending not to.Everyone should be mature enough to make their own calls without you carrying the flashlight. |
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By *tu.x OP Man 24 weeks ago
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"Keep out of it, as 9/10 this will blow up in your face. Who would he believe if she said you'd propositioned her?  "
i dont think she would say that if she did id just have to deal with it |
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"Keep out of it, as 9/10 this will blow up in your face. Who would he believe if she said you'd propositioned her? i dont think she would say that if she did id just have to deal with it "
Would you have thought she would have grabbed your crotch? |
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By *tu.x OP Man 24 weeks ago
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"Keep out of it, as 9/10 this will blow up in your face. Who would he believe if she said you'd propositioned her? i dont think she would say that if she did id just have to deal with it
Would you have thought she would have grabbed your crotch? "
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By *ustinMan 24 weeks ago
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I wouldn't get involved. You will only upset him more if you tell him what she did and I doubt he will then believe you didn't go back with her. Best to say nothing she clearly doesn't want him so just let him deal with it and get over it. |
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By *im le2Man 24 weeks ago
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If you want to keep your friendship say nothing.
His wife tried to trap you. Do you honestly believe he will think you didn't go with his sexy wife. I'd think your feeling guilty and worried she will say something
It's none of your business keep out of it. Just keep drinking his booze. |
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"Anyone else just think the post is fantasy. "
You mean it got posted in The Lounge by mistake instead of the 'Stories and Fantasies' room  
Surely if that were the case he would have carried on the story, telling us what they got up to when he went back to her place? |
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By *tu.x OP Man 24 weeks ago
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"No don't tell him tell everyone else and humalite him . Phh sounds bullshit this tbh"
how is it telling everyone on a thread on here you think everyone i know is on here do you know them ??
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