I admit to using the wink button as I feel it's very gentle / non intrusive way to express my interest. I know lots of people think that it's a lazy way to contact someone.
Is it lazy and do most people just ignore them ? |
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"Most women ignore them. Some couples find them useful. If you're winking men they're more likely to at least notice 💜"
You are spot on 👍 Most of the positive responses I've had are from couples...I tend not to wink at men 😉 |
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By *kibirdWoman 24 weeks ago
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I definitely don’t ignore them , I see them the same as you OP. I always have a look at anyone who’s winked me just to see if there’s anything there.
I’m always perplexed by people who wink with an empty profile though. What am I supposed to be looking at ? Lol |
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It’s a shame that so many people have a bit of a stigma about wink use, as used properly they’re a great tool to show interest and save everyone time.
So many people get upset about “cut and paste” messages from men in particular and expect a unique piece of prose every time someone messages them, yet most men experience the majority of their messages being left unanswered.
So what’s the incentive to spend ages crafting a unique message to a profile on here if it’s going to be ignored?
With a properly functioning wink system, you send a wink and if it’s reciprocated THEN it’s your chance to impress (or not!) with your unique message.
As it is the wink system only really works now if you’re a woman winking a man (we get so few that winks still do stick out for us) |
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As some have said I use the wink system to show my interest in a profile. If I get one back then let's have a chat and see where we get to.
When I recieve them I look at the profile and if there is something to read and pics to look at then I will send one back and maybe a message. If the profile is a shadow pic and no words then I just ignore.
So please keep winking.  |
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"I admit to using the wink button as I feel it's very gentle / non intrusive way to express my interest. I know lots of people think that it's a lazy way to contact someone.
Is it lazy and do most people just ignore them ? "
I've been here nearly a year now and only really started to use the 'wink' option - like you say, it's a gentle way to show your interest |
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