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By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
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Ok I’ll admit my initial opening message is crap and initially until I get going my messages are poor but giving half the chance to have a decent conversation things seem ok, anyone else find this? Or just me |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"Ok I’ll admit my initial opening message is crap and initially until I get going my messages are poor but giving half the chance to have a decent conversation things seem ok, anyone else find this? Or just me"
Your not the only want mate, my profile is shite tbh, I can keep a conversation going for a bit but after a while it all goes quiet haha. |
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A 'poor effort' initial message or similar nascent messages aren't going to help anyone's cause in the first instance. I can appreciate that some people don't carry conversations very well, some will interpret it as an artform, rightly or wrongly, and it's just the way things are.
Ultimately it depends on what's being said. For example, some people don't enjoy 'sex talk' at the early stages of a conversation, or simply talking about the weather or other such banality. |
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You only get one chance to make a good first impression so I don’t get why so many think things like hey u ok xx is a good opener.
Obviously you may be putting more effort in than that OP so that’s not aimed at you it’s a generalisation. It’s not hard to keep a convo going if you show interest in each other, getting to know each other should be fun and easy, not a chore. If it’s a chore it’s the wrong person you’re talking to |
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The thing is op, if the conversation is dull, you won't get past the first couple of messages.
I had a man who messaged me, hi how's you kind of thing. I replied that I was fine, how was he. He answered along the lines of yeah OK, how's you.
I'd already answered that and it told me he didn't really have much to say, so it didn't go anywhere.
Remember ladies and couples probably have lots of messages that aren't great in their inbox,so constantly replying to the same thing gets a bit tiresome.
It's not just down to you to keep the conversation going, but if it feels like pulling teeth talking, I soon loose interest. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
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I really appreciate your help and advice but I do make a little more effort than that usually based around the couples profile and I get people have different preferences, but once again appreciate your all just trying to help. |
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I struggle to conversate with a stranger that I have no idea if we've anything in common with, so yeah my messages are shit, I also don't do small talk it irritates me 😂
The simple answer to this is not to message anyone - works for me 😁
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Bot gonna lie it totally depends on what my mood is like when I open a message, lately its been a delete all as I haven't had the energy to engage in conversation and too full an inbox gives me the fear, apologies to all who have 😬 |
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