 |
By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
|
all — I’m looking for genuine feedback rather than promoting anything live.
I’ve noticed a real gap for singles between online sexual openness and real-life dating. Even on open platforms, there’s still a lot of time-wasting, mixed signals, and conversations that never translate into meeting — or meetings where people aren’t actually on the same page.
I’m exploring the idea of a daytime social for open-minded singles that brings back the fun of dating with honesty upfront. Not a play party and not speed dating — more a relaxed, sexy, consent-led social where everyone attending is choosing openness, curiosity, and adult energy from the start.
The key difference would be that it’s supported by a dedicated app only for attendees. Instead of endless messaging beforehand, people meet in person first, then after the event (or optionally before, by mutual choice) can register interest and connect safely. No cold approaches, no guessing, no pressure on the day.
The aim is to keep dating open, honest, and playful, while removing the frustration of chatting for weeks with people you never meet — or meeting people who aren’t actually aligned.
From a singles point of view, does this feel like it fills a genuine gap?
What would make something like this feel exciting, worthwhile, or safe — and what would put you off? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
|
It’s a daytime social for openminded singles no speed dating, no forced interactions, no expectation of sex.
The venue just means consent and boundaries are taken seriously
. Makes it more normal |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It's not a bad idea to try to disrupt online dating but your concept isn't clear. When you disrupt you need to change how people behave so it sounds like you are on the right track but it's just not there yet conceptually in a way you can clearly describe it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
|
"
It’s a daytime social for openminded singles no speed dating, no forced interactions, no expectation of sex.
The venue just means consent and boundaries are taken seriously
. Makes it more normal"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
|
Fair point. The aim isn’t another dating format, it’s changing the order meet first in a relaxed, open setting, then decide what you want after. It’s a social, not a singles or play night, with an app that only connects people who’ve actually met. That’s the disruption I’m trying. Its also taking away the taboo of wanting to date but open to sex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
|
Yhe mechanics are still being shaped, but the principle is simple meet first in a safe, open setting, then decide what you want after with connection only by choice. That shift alone changes behaviour, especially for women. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
|
Exactly it’s open enough that you can make the night whatever you want it to be. Chat, flirt, connect, or just enjoy the atmosphere. Nothing’s assumed, everything’s a choice. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Have you done any research ? Online dating is dominated by men mostly being unfaithful, off line dating businesses are almost the opposite often struggling to get enough men to attend and end up cancelling events, apps like Meetup nextdoor Facebook dating inter-nations all bridge the 2 worlds fairly successfully. Most apps give more power and control to women to handle the imbalance of men v women. Lots of specialised apps launch and fail each year. The best app ideas do focus on honesty and openness really well as usp's but they hit problems getting approved by the Apple Store due to privacy.
It's costs minimum 10K usd to do a MVP for an app like this and people are unlucky to support you financially unless you can show revenue so you need fee pockets.
Generally if you won't remortgage your house for idea it means you don't believe it yourself |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
|
Fair points amd that’s why I’m not leading with an app. This is about testing a women-led, real-life model that changes behaviour first; tech only supports it later if there’s revenue and demand. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"with an app that only connects people who’ve actually met"
This is a good idea.
I would keep everyone as anonymous silhouettes before hand just maybe showing gender and age range.
My app is similar, it's not dating but I wanted to ensure participation wasn't chosen by profiling other users, it also helps loads with Apple approval |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
|
It’s really about changing stigma making it easier and safer for people who share sexual openness to meet and be honest about it, without pressure, judgement, or pretending. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
So a gathering that brings together women who enjoy sex and men that know this already about them?
I think this would lead to the men thinking they're onto a sure thing that day if a woman so much as half smiled in their direction and some angry disappointment if their advance was rebuked.
It doesn't sound like dating in any way, shape or form |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eliWoman 26 weeks ago
. |
Like Welli, I don't see how this is dating. I also know that there are a few current group socials where people can choose, after the event, to let someone know they're interested in them using the site they registered on.
I'm still stuck on the dating thing. Maybe it's a very loose definition of it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
