If I’ve understood correctly, you’re asking how to end a relationship with a narcissist? Sorry if I’ve misunderstood the post, just a few thoughts from previous experience.
If that’s the case, and they are a true narcissist, nothing you do will be right. They’re likely try a few tactics, whatever they think will best wear you down.
Ultimately, you need to be clear about why you’re ending it so that you can focus on that. It’s never easy to end a relationship but if it’s the right decision, you have to do the best thing for you.
It’s helpful to have a plan, including choosing a time and place where you can explain yourself clearly but sometimes circumstances can overtake that and you end up having to deal the cards you’re given.
What I would say is, don’t let yourself get caught up in endless discussion. There’s a point where it stops being productive, especially if you’re dealing with someone tricky, and you just put yourself at risk of being talked out to it. Drawing a line, at least for the time being, can be best all round. |
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OP It’s not easy as they twist things around always bring it back to you and your fault you have to be brave and cut all ties and that’s not easy . They have to be right all the time and will make you feel like you’re going mad as it’s all about them.
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Be clear for yourself why you are doing it. You don't need to explain anything other than it is now over, communicating with respect. Keep it brief for your own wellbeing and to limit pressure on you.
Have a plan for afterwards and stick to it |
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"If I’ve understood correctly, you’re asking how to end a relationship with a narcissist? Sorry if I’ve misunderstood the post, just a few thoughts from previous experience.
If that’s the case, and they are a true narcissist, nothing you do will be right. They’re likely try a few tactics, whatever they think will best wear you down.
Ultimately, you need to be clear about why you’re ending it so that you can focus on that. It’s never easy to end a relationship but if it’s the right decision, you have to do the best thing for you.
It’s helpful to have a plan, including choosing a time and place where you can explain yourself clearly but sometimes circumstances can overtake that and you end up having to deal the cards you’re given.
What I would say is, don’t let yourself get caught up in endless discussion. There’s a point where it stops being productive, especially if you’re dealing with someone tricky, and you just put yourself at risk of being talked out to it. Drawing a line, at least for the time being, can be best all round. "
Excellent advice. For me, this is spot on. X |
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I just simply terminate the relationship. No real explanation needed it’s done I have finished and no longer wish to be involved and have zero interest in comms regarding why . Just the reality matters not the but what ifs .
I am a brutal human mentally though when I decide to act on something especially if they was a narcissist I just wouldn’t allow them the ability to talk about it. The only thing they need to know is it’s done. Leave / move etc
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Has she been medically diagnosed with narcissism ?
When you end the relationship be sure not to apportion blame and also make sure you don't back down or react when recriminations come.
All any adult needs to know is that you no longer want to be in a relationship. Don't be sucked in to believing people have a right to a reason although a reason would be kindest. Keep it simple and non accusative. |
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Ive had the thought that the girl I was seeing was narcissistic yet she tried flipping it on me I couldn't go and see mates or family without her seeing me on video call but was soon like yeah ive have enough of this getting accused of cheating every week |
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"Sounds familiar pal.. it seems it’s out there for us blokes too . Don’t get me wrong , blokes are as guilty too "
I did always tell her who I was out with and what I was doing wather there was girls there or not as honesty is the best policy or so I thought |
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By *adox11 OP Man 15 weeks ago
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I once y to old her I was at her parents house having a BBQ and her sister was there whilst she was on a business trip… she flipped !!! On the phone and I had to leave to go home .. honestly you could not have made it up |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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Takes awhile, but as soon as you close the gate to your heart, the narcissist feels abandoned then moves onto the next victim most females are narcissistic these days I’ve never encountered a nice one |
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By *tu.xMan 15 weeks ago
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"Takes awhile, but as soon as you close the gate to your heart, the narcissist feels abandoned then moves onto the next victim most females are narcissistic these days I’ve never encountered a nice one "
most you say have you met most females
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"Takes awhile, but as soon as you close the gate to your heart, the narcissist feels abandoned then moves onto the next victim most females are narcissistic these days I’ve never encountered a nice one most you say have you met most females "
the ones I’ve ever had in my life have all been horrible that’s why I avoid them like the plague now
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By *tu.xMan 15 weeks ago
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"Takes awhile, but as soon as you close the gate to your heart, the narcissist feels abandoned then moves onto the next victim most females are narcissistic these days I’ve never encountered a nice one most you say have you met most females the ones I’ve ever had in my life have all been horrible that’s why I avoid them like the plague now "
how many have you had in your life is right to say most when you mean a few
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By *olfiMan 15 weeks ago
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"If I’ve understood correctly, you’re asking how to end a relationship with a narcissist? Sorry if I’ve misunderstood the post, just a few thoughts from previous experience.
If that’s the case, and they are a true narcissist, nothing you do will be right. They’re likely try a few tactics, whatever they think will best wear you down.
Ultimately, you need to be clear about why you’re ending it so that you can focus on that. It’s never easy to end a relationship but if it’s the right decision, you have to do the best thing for you.
It’s helpful to have a plan, including choosing a time and place where you can explain yourself clearly but sometimes circumstances can overtake that and you end up having to deal the cards you’re given.
What I would say is, don’t let yourself get caught up in endless discussion. There’s a point where it stops being productive, especially if you’re dealing with someone tricky, and you just put yourself at risk of being talked out to it. Drawing a line, at least for the time being, can be best all round. "
This 👆🏻
I did it last February, after living together for four years.
I made sure I had a plan, as much as it hurt me to stay longer, somewhere to go straight away.
It was difficult making that realisation, that my partner was narcissistic and abusive, but I managed it and managed to get out.
They were then blocked on any platform I had them on, so they couldn't make contact again |
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