Trust takes time, communication, patience and so much more. The short answer is no. The long answer is it depends on the people involved. If they are both willing to renew their relationship it's possible. I've seen some couples come back and succeed, while others haven't. And some couples have ended it. |
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Yes I think it's possible for some people with time, communication and possibly counselling. Whether or not I could do it would depend on soooo many things that it probably wouldn't be worth the effort |
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You would need to be pretty emotionally damaged to automatically never trust anyone who lied, cheated , stole etc it's like being unable to forgive or understand people can change. It just leads to bad choices and a repeating pattern.
But I guess you mean something else - going back to an ex who cheated etc ? |
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In most cases, probably not. The only time I've known a relationship genuinely recover after infidelity was when the unfaithful person confessed immediately after the event and didn't hide or minimise anything. I think that's pretty rare as people mostly go into self-preservation mode upon discovery, which has the opposite effect of what they intend and just feeds into more mistrust and anxiety. |
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By *riel13Woman 15 weeks ago
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I think only you could answer that... My ex husband cheated when our son was a baby (actually seems to be a thing)... We separated but ended up back together but not until I felt I could trust him again... We married a couple of years later... We separated and divorced many years ago now but he never cheated again... He was in love with beer so another woman wouldn't have gotten a look in.... So yeah, I don't believe the "once a cheat" thing... We are all capable of change but trust is a you thing... Always go with your gut not your emotion |
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I know I should be extra cautious having been cheated on myself by my former Wife. However I'm not of the opinion once a cheat always a cheat. There will always be some dodgy toxic people who will always cheat. But then for others cheating can be symptomatic of a relationship that's not right or broken down. No saying its an excuse for cheating either. Just sometimes relationships fail. And I've know people with really healthy established relationships which started as an affair. Plus people grow up, they learn, they mature. Sometimes that makes them fix their own toxic mistakes, sometimes that makes them pick healthier and more compatible partners, often its both. So no I don't think once a cheat always a cheat for everyone.
I think you have to take people as they are now, not as they where. Are they honest and open with you? Are the accepting and take responsibility for their actions or do they blaim others? Are they candid with you about their cheating? Do they display other toxic traits and red flags? Just things to think about going forward. But at the end of the day it's you who must use your judgment, life experience and spidy senses.
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