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If getting laid is your only objective you might find it difficult under the circumstances you describe.
Have you thought about one if the dating apps making it clear you're only interested in a fuck buddy or friend with benefits? |
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"Ok so clearly I cannot get luck on here, after being here for half a year and no meets, so tell me, how can I get laid elsewhere? Bearing in mind I don't go to clubs/parties or drink."
Wrong attitude unfortunately.
Joining just to get "laid" it's a swinging site and any experienced swinger will tell you the social aspects are as important particularly if you are looking to join a couple or hotwife, this means earning trust by showing respect and patience .
This can only happen if you are willing to build the foundations by working hard and being prepared to put yourself outthere and understanding that s3x is generally the last thing to happen and don't expect it just because you want it.
Good luck elsewhere  |
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By *rRK1Man 8 weeks ago
northwich |
Try going to clubs and partys and speak to people it worked for me the site is actually really good once you use it so be sociable and put your self out of your comfort zone, its a life style not just a platform to get laid, obviously theres people on here just for that but i found building connections and joining in with events makes it much more fun |
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By *rRK1Man 8 weeks ago
northwich |
"Ok so clearly I cannot get luck on here, after being here for half a year and no meets, so tell me, how can I get laid elsewhere? Bearing in mind I don't go to clubs/parties or drink.
Wrong attitude unfortunately.
Joining just to get "laid" it's a swinging site and any experienced swinger will tell you the social aspects are as important particularly if you are looking to join a couple or hotwife, this means earning trust by showing respect and patience .
This can only happen if you are willing to build the foundations by working hard and being prepared to put yourself outthere and understanding that s3x is generally the last thing to happen and don't expect it just because you want it.
Good luck elsewhere "
This 100 percent |
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“Getting laid” strongly suggests that you are looking out for yourself and you want people to do things for you. Work out what you can offer to other people instead and focus on making their lives more enjoyable instead. |
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"Yeah, I was asking how to get laid OFF the site, because clearly this site isn't for me."
Tap reply+quote so we know who you're answering  .
It's true to say that in most things in life you get out what you put in. Getting laid was never easy for mist people, it required a certain effort and putting yourself out there. The more people you meet the more likely you are to find someone who is also looking to get laid.
In my younger days, admittedly pre internet I met men at bus stops, on the train, in bars, cafes, at work, at friend's houses etc. We dated a couple of times before the getting laid happened though and both made a bit of an effort |
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By *oelMan 8 weeks ago
Midlands, London, Brussels |
"Ok so clearly I cannot get luck on here, after being here for half a year and no meets, so tell me, how can I get laid elsewhere? Bearing in mind I don't go to clubs/parties or drink."
Dating apps, meet with mates. Don't try to get laid, cut your hair etc? |
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You sort of answered your own question op. Join in with cam room chat/forum room chat and make friends. Don't think of fab as a place to "get laid". Make friends. Be patient and who knows? Good luck! |
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"Ok so clearly I cannot get luck on here, after being here for half a year and no meets, so tell me, how can I get laid elsewhere? Bearing in mind I don't go to clubs/parties or drink.
Dating apps, meet with mates. Don't try to get laid, cut your hair etc? "
What's his hair got to do with it?
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"I will never go to clubs/parties.
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Even if they offer tutti-frutti ice cream, lashings of ginger beer, marshmallow puffs, lemon sorbet and lime jelly?
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Which club is this please? 👀😋"
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It's the Famous Five⁵ Club. Are you in?  |
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I'm curious about how you met your sexual partners before Fab OP?
I think the ideas that people have posted, such as exploring some of your interests, are great, as you'll share something in common with the people there.
Volunteering is something that I've done since school days and still do. People who volunteer for others are generally decent people to get to know. The big plus, is that you're doing something for the benefits of others. If you choose people or concerns that you're interested in investing a little time to, it's a worthwhile endeavour. It might be befriending, helping people who are less able than you, improving wildlife or helping to care for animals, etc. There's massive scope for what you could give a few hours a month to. And it can give you good experience to add to your CV.
It's also something of interest to talk with others about. When you help, you tend to get more passionate about something, which is attractive in its own right. |
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"I will never go to clubs/parties.
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Even if they offer tutti-frutti ice cream, lashings of ginger beer, marshmallow puffs, lemon sorbet and lime jelly?
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Which club is this please? 👀😋
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It's the Famous Five⁵ Club. Are you in? "
Do they have Dick? |
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"I will never go to clubs/parties.
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Even if they offer tutti-frutti ice cream, lashings of ginger beer, marshmallow puffs, lemon sorbet and lime jelly?
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Which club is this please? 👀😋
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It's the Famous Five⁵ Club. Are you in?
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Do they have Dick?"
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It's Dick'ensian and offers its own type of nostalgic charm. I'll show you when you're next sauntering the cobbled streets of ye olde London Towne. |
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"I will never go to clubs/parties.
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Even if they offer tutti-frutti ice cream, lashings of ginger beer, marshmallow puffs, lemon sorbet and lime jelly?
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Which club is this please? 👀😋
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It's the Famous Five⁵ Club. Are you in?
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Do they have Dick?
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It's Dick'ensian and offers its own type of nostalgic charm. I'll show you when you're next sauntering the cobbled streets of ye olde London Towne."
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"I will never go to clubs/parties."
Based on your comments so far I am not surprised you not getting laid, you say you will not do clubs/parties etc the comments people make giving you helpful tips and your negative responses to them is quite disrespectful.
Most folk who look at your profile and read this thread would give you a wide berth in my opinion.
It could be that you are not suited for swinging and fact you ask where can you get laid is very poor and off putting to most people |
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"Women are so simple creatures, all you need to do is learn how to operate one, then you’ll be laughing.
The mr "
Yeah just make sure you put the batteries in the right way round otherwise they are a bugger to operate.  |
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"Women are so simple creatures, all you need to do is learn how to operate one, then you’ll be laughing.
The mr
Yeah just make sure you put the batteries in the right way round otherwise they are a bugger to operate. "
I fitting a solar panel to mine, saves me so much money.
The mr |
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By *oelMan 8 weeks ago
Midlands, London, Brussels |
"Ok so clearly I cannot get luck on here, after being here for half a year and no meets, so tell me, how can I get laid elsewhere? Bearing in mind I don't go to clubs/parties or drink.
Dating apps, meet with mates. Don't try to get laid, cut your hair etc?
What's his hair got to do with it?
🤣"
That was feedback from another poster on a previous thread. I think it was good feedback so repeating it  |
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"Ok so clearly I cannot get luck on here, after being here for half a year and no meets, so tell me, how can I get laid elsewhere? Bearing in mind I don't go to clubs/parties or drink."
You’re a grown man. You need to work it out yourself. |
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"I'm curious about how you met your sexual partners before Fab OP?
I think the ideas that people have posted, such as exploring some of your interests, are great, as you'll share something in common with the people there.
Volunteering is something that I've done since school days and still do. People who volunteer for others are generally decent people to get to know. The big plus, is that you're doing something for the benefits of others. If you choose people or concerns that you're interested in investing a little time to, it's a worthwhile endeavour. It might be befriending, helping people who are less able than you, improving wildlife or helping to care for animals, etc. There's massive scope for what you could give a few hours a month to. And it can give you good experience to add to your CV.
It's also something of interest to talk with others about. When you help, you tend to get more passionate about something, which is attractive in its own right. "
I basically didn't, all my sexual partners was from when before I was an adult for some reason, I've had sex a few times as an adult, one time I got lucky on Badoo and met a black woman in Manchester lol |
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"Have you thought about going to a social instead? They are usually in a pub and not a club. Everyone is there to meet people.
Maybe try that instead 🤷🏼♀️
Mrs x"
Heya, that's decent advice actually, I used to go to pubs a lot, not to drink but to sing in Open Mics since I'm a singer, or even play some pool, I love pool, don't know about any socials though |
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"Tinder mate
Doesn't work for me mate."
It's pointless asking on here most of the men have the same problem, and the ones that don't and the women can't give you any useful advice.
Maybe you are trying to solve the wrong problem
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By *attieTV/TS 7 weeks ago
Nottingham |
"I will never go to clubs/parties.
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Even if they offer tutti-frutti ice cream, lashings of ginger beer, marshmallow puffs, lemon sorbet and lime jelly?"
Sounds like my kind of party, count me in x |
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"Tinder mate
Doesn't work for me mate.
It's pointless asking on here most of the men have the same problem, and the ones that don't and the women can't give you any useful advice.
Maybe you are trying to solve the wrong problem
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Yeah probably though, is prostitution legal in the UK, maybe if I still haven't gotten laid again in 5 years I'll try that one lol |
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Best way is to stop this pity party you seem to enjoying, and actually embrace some of the advice you've been given! If you ask for advice, take the time to consider it and try it rather than shoot it down in flames. |
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By *oldmilkMan 7 weeks ago
Trouble, apparently… |
I feel the key issue here is one of social interaction and empathy. Despite how some of the profiles are worded here, women do appreciate being talked to, listened to and being treated with respect.
I’d advise you to forget about “getting laid” and just spend some time socialising and talking with people on an equal level. Join clubs that have a gender balance and do your best to be friendly and approachable without intending to shag them.
You’ll find that your confidence will rise and women will actively want to talk to you.
However, if you’re only interested in the mechanics, then there are women around who provide that as a service.
But do try and put the effort in, it’ll pay rewards in the long term. |
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Get out in to the real world and meet people.
Chat to them, create friends, ask someone out, walk them home, buy them some chips on the way. Get their phone number, call them, see them again. Maybe give them a kiss on the cheek. Then see them again..........
Just like the old days lol
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"Your a woman, much easier to get laid.
How to win friends and influence people.
By telling the truth? Tell me I'm wrong? "
You're wrong.
Well, no. If I removed all of my standards, and any sense of self preservation, I could have sex with ten guys tonight. Even with my parsnip as a profile picture.
However, I have standards, and I'd like to survive the night without visiting the hospital or the police.
Finding men who rise to a standard where I'm reasonably confident I'll be safe, and who have even the slightest chance of attracting me? That's much harder. If I open my filters I'll be bombarded with semi-literate bilge, pleading, and threats, most of which will be oblivious to the fact that I am also a person rather than a talking self cleaning sex toy.
Rarely, among all that mess, there are people worth talking to and getting to know.
It's a different problem, but it is *also* a problem.
I don't whine about it, make out like I'm owed something. I fill my life with other things, and work on other methods to get what I want.
I suggest you'll find happiness doing that, rather than complaining that life isn't fair. |
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Very mature reply sir, thanks for taking the time to respond, unfortunately not having had sex for over 5 years has basically tainted things for me, it will be tough for me to do what you suggest currently.. is prostituation legal in England lol? |
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"Ok so clearly I cannot get luck on here, after being here for half a year and no meets, so tell me, how can I get laid elsewhere? Bearing in mind I don't go to clubs/parties or drink."
Pay a h ook er |
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Go to socials. Go out with your friends. Find some new hobbies. Interact in the real world. Online dating is finished. Be patient, be yourself and don't overthink. This takes time. Be happy with your own company before you spend time with someone else. Be kind to yourself. All the best OP. 👍🏾☺️ |
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"Tinder does NOT work lol"
As you've noticed. You will only get mostly attacked on here. That said, leave the pub talk behind. This isn't a site for quick shags. They rarely exist.
Find an paid girl. if you are that desperate. That isnt a dig. A suggestion.
You have to remember this is a swinging site. That derives from couples. Singles are just an addition but will mostly be hampered
Also take on board what somebody said earlier. Go to the chatroom and have a laugh. Get noticed.
You've got a face pic. You have a huge advantage on others with dick pics.
Get yourself noticed. |
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"Go to socials. Go out with your friends. Find some new hobbies. Interact in the real world. Online dating is finished. Be patient, be yourself and don't overthink. This takes time. Be happy with your own company before you spend time with someone else. Be kind to yourself. All the best OP. 👍🏾☺️"
Hey mate thanks so much for the kind words and thoughtful advice, I agree with it and will try to heed to it |
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"Your a woman, much easier to get laid.
How to win friends and influence people.
By telling the truth? Tell me I'm wrong?
You're wrong.
Well, no. If I removed all of my standards, and any sense of self preservation, I could have sex with ten guys tonight. Even with my parsnip as a profile picture.
However, I have standards, and I'd like to survive the night without visiting the hospital or the police.
Finding men who rise to a standard where I'm reasonably confident I'll be safe, and who have even the slightest chance of attracting me? That's much harder. If I open my filters I'll be bombarded with semi-literate bilge, pleading, and threats, most of which will be oblivious to the fact that I am also a person rather than a talking self cleaning sex toy.
Rarely, among all that mess, there are people worth talking to and getting to know.
It's a different problem, but it is *also* a problem.
I don't whine about it, make out like I'm owed something. I fill my life with other things, and work on other methods to get what I want.
I suggest you'll find happiness doing that, rather than complaining that life isn't fair."
Ohh wow so only Women are in any danger on this site!! Interesting. |
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"Your a woman, much easier to get laid.
How to win friends and influence people.
By telling the truth? Tell me I'm wrong?
You're wrong.
Well, no. If I removed all of my standards, and any sense of self preservation, I could have sex with ten guys tonight. Even with my parsnip as a profile picture.
However, I have standards, and I'd like to survive the night without visiting the hospital or the police.
Finding men who rise to a standard where I'm reasonably confident I'll be safe, and who have even the slightest chance of attracting me? That's much harder. If I open my filters I'll be bombarded with semi-literate bilge, pleading, and threats, most of which will be oblivious to the fact that I am also a person rather than a talking self cleaning sex toy.
Rarely, among all that mess, there are people worth talking to and getting to know.
It's a different problem, but it is *also* a problem.
I don't whine about it, make out like I'm owed something. I fill my life with other things, and work on other methods to get what I want.
I suggest you'll find happiness doing that, rather than complaining that life isn't fair.
Ohh wow so only Women are in any danger on this site!! Interesting. "
Point out where I said that. Go on. You've got my words right there, and given how long ago I wrote them, you've clearly thought about them more than I ever did. |
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