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How do you settle an argument?
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
There are many ways to settle an argument, from hands on to talk calmly and to try to settle it peacefully, which is of course the best best way. I guess that it depends what kind of argument it is, in a relationship it might be a bit different than from what it could be on the street as it is a social serting.
I think that the best way is to focus on collaboration rather than winning, not just that, as I said above, is to settle it peacefully, the key is to start softly and try to solve it that way.
It would be interesting to see what kind of person you are and how you would settle an agreement, are you like me to try to do it the softly approach too?  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"In personal relationships - detailed communication to understand all view points
Everyone else - I don’t. Too old for all that now. I leave them be "
Hi con, that is good it would be detailed communication in personal relationship to understand all view points too |
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"There are many ways to settle an argument, from hands on to talk calmly and to try to settle it peacefully, which is of course the best best way. I guess that it depends what kind of argument it is, in a relationship it might be a bit different than from what it could be on the street as it is a social serting.
I think that the best way is to focus on collaboration rather than winning, not just that, as I said above, is to settle it peacefully, the key is to start softly and try to solve it that way.
It would be interesting to see what kind of person you are and how you would settle an agreement, are you like me to try to do it the softly approach too? "
Fuck the anger out of each other 👌 |
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By *l_xxxMan 4 weeks ago
South leeds |
"There are many ways to settle an argument, from hands on to talk calmly and to try to settle it peacefully, which is of course the best best way. I guess that it depends what kind of argument it is, in a relationship it might be a bit different than from what it could be on the street as it is a social serting.
I think that the best way is to focus on collaboration rather than winning, not just that, as I said above, is to settle it peacefully, the key is to start softly and try to solve it that way.
It would be interesting to see what kind of person you are and how you would settle an agreement, are you like me to try to do it the softly approach too? "
Try yo agree facts, no "I'm right you're wrong attitudes" but if that fails, agree to disagree and move on. Hopefully the other person doesn't keep raising it as an impasse will only flare tempers. |
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You don't let it get there, especially heated. You communicate well and there is little reason to argue, amongst relationship and friends.
Family arguements, just avoid them, family are optional after all. Anyone else, pretend they don't exist. Not worth the time or stress lines. |
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I think it's best not to approach it by trying to win it and thus to beat somebody.
Discuss with pleasure.
If it's about things that affect you, discuss the impact, especially on your feelings, so that others understand any emotional perspectives both ways
Assess why you need to win things too and how you impact others |
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MRS..make her laugh and that's the end of that one,youve really got to know serious your offence is seen as....in her eyes 50/50 chance
Your mates,piece of cake,theres probably 10 of us that have been together since infant school, over 40 years,practically family so you never go bed on an argument,and a sarcastic funny barb at each other and smile.
Know it alls,facts kill those off
Irate people are my favourites. Shouting spitting and frothing at the mouth,arms going un every direction,and your nice and quiet,suprsised smile,supportive wrapping round them as youre talking and start that annoying pat on their shoulder and a little squeeze, and every time you do it so it a bit harderand ask them why they upset,what they upset at who they're upset at,when did they upset them,and hope you can contain yourself,as youre watching them getting more annoyed......sometimes ending it with Ahhh you cant standfor that, no no you cant let that go.......i wouldnt😂😂 |
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I generally try to avoid having one in the 1st place, being all loud and shouty doesn't get the conflict/issues resolved any better than a calm conversation - it just makes people more angry and uncomfortable.
I don't do noise, I like a peaceful life.
Mrs |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I don't argue,will just agree to disagree and leave it at that.
I don't allow anyone to spoil my peace.
10 years ago I could argue and lose my temper quite easily and now I just don't care to."
Hi _earditall, that is good you dont argue, same here and how you agree to disagree is a good way too |
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By *igad999Man 4 weeks ago
wolverhampton |
Depends what the argument is about
If it’s serious will try to talk it calmly .. easier said than done
If it’s something soft I’m always in the right until she gives a cheeky look or wobbles her bum then she’s right 😜
Angry sex can be good too that’s happened couple times in the past |
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"Arm wrestling or pistols at dawn
That isn't right at all. Should be spears and shields instead of pistols to make it juicy "
Falchion & buckler?
I used to enjoy that style of fencing, did help I'm left handed & most people have never fought anyone cack-handed. |
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I channel Keanu Reeves.
He's not only hot af he's a beautiful human on the inside also.
Hugs work well, for those I am on hugging terms with. They don't need words. And they feel great.
Hug first, talk once both are open to listening.
Top tip... It's actually okay and often better to go to bed with an issue unresolved. Cool heads fix things faster. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I generally try to avoid having one in the 1st place, being all loud and shouty doesn't get the conflict/issues resolved any better than a calm conversation - it just makes people more angry and uncomfortable.
I don't do noise, I like a peaceful life.
Mrs "
Hi knightso, that is good you generally try to avoid it in the first place and how you like a peaceful life too |
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Have a debate, listen to each other, disagree, attempt to find common ground, compromise, agree on terms. Shake hands.
If it's a relationship then argue, have sex, argue some more, more sex, then the steps above if we're both tired. If not, more arguing and more sex. |
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By *ddie1966Man 4 weeks ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
Personally, I don't get into arguments. If a reasoned discussion seems to be going south, I change the subject if they decide they want to argue, I walk away.
I'm a very non confrontational person. Arguments never solve anything. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"You don't let it get there, especially heated. You communicate well and there is little reason to argue, amongst relationship and friends.
Family arguements, just avoid them, family are optional after all. Anyone else, pretend they don't exist. Not worth the time or stress lines. "
Yes, it is good to communicate well too  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"If its someone I care about i will take time out so I can talk about it logically
If its someone I dont care about i just tell them to fuck off"
Hi diamondsmiles, that is good you will take time out so you can talk about it logically too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Depends what the argument is about
If it’s serious will try to talk it calmly .. easier said than done
If it’s something soft I’m always in the right until she gives a cheeky look or wobbles her bum then she’s right 😜
Angry sex can be good too that’s happened couple times in the past "
Yes, it also depends what the argument is about too |
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After stewing on things for a bit I will ask myself a couple of questions
- Do I want to be right or do i want to be happy?
- Is this an issue or principle that's worth fighting for? Or is the relationship with the person I'm arguing with more important?
Once I have established in my own mind that I want to be happy and that I value the relationship more than the "victory", then I look at what I did to contribute to the disagreement. I then try to disregard anything that the other person said or did and focussing only on my part, I try to put that right.
It's amazing how often the other person responds by acknowledging what they did and the relationship can be healed or even strengthened.
The added bonus when I take this approach with Nadjia is that we usually end up having "make-up sex" 😜😁
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I have my say, they have theirs, we discuss it briefly before they realise that 99 times out of 100, the logical, rational, coherent & correct answer/solution……..
was MINE! 🤣🤣
Slight plagiarism from the best football manager that England never had;
Sir Brian Clough |
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"I don't argue,will just agree to disagree and leave it at that.
I don't allow anyone to spoil my peace.
10 years ago I could argue and lose my temper quite easily and now I just don't care to."
You need to guide me in your ways! |
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By *aked beachMan 3 weeks ago
small cave, behind the big cave. |
With my ex-wife, in the last few years, if she said something I didn’t agree with, I’d just agree anyway and save some time.
Now, I vary rarely argue, not bothered about so much these days, and if I were, I don’t know anyone I care enough about to argue with. |
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By *am450Man 3 weeks ago
Sidcup/Bexley |
"Boobs flash! Xx 😄"
I think technically that's cheating if you have an amazing body.(especially boobs and an amazing bum!)
By the way the world is definitely flat, care to debate any alternative opinion or argument?    |
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