We received a message from someone this morning with some face pictures attached to try to entice us into meeting him.
A quick look revealed the pictures were 6 years old, which for us was a red flag - if a guy is using old pictures, he’s either changed considerably or hasn’t quite twigged that his approach for the last 6 years isn’t working (no verifications in 6 years too)
What are your red flags?
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I think the main one has to be when someone clearly hasn't bothered to read our bio.
Its not overly complicated, we keep it nice and simple.
Yet most messages are from people wanting something totally different.
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"I think the main one has to be when someone clearly hasn't bothered to read our bio.
Its not overly complicated, we keep it nice and simple.
Yet most messages are from people wanting something totally different.
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Yep. That’s a definite red flag |
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Anyone who gets abusive or rude at being told no or who tries to push me to do things I'm not into.
I was once chatting to a man on here, we were planning a social. Then he started trying to tell me what to wear and trying to get an invite straight to my house.
It ended with a block, he couldn't respect me on here, so I dread to think what he would have been like in real life. |
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"Someone who tells you if you dont like anal its because youve obviously never had someone who knows what there doing.
Yawn "
just tell them it's because all your partners were too big ... But fairly okay to them for admitog they have a learner cock |
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Literally just had another red flag fly high!
This has happened a couple of times this week, where a bi guy has said to the effect of "your husband looks great in the photos, and I'd love to have some fun with him".
This goes hand-in-glove (or is that "cock-in-condom") with not reading the profile before messaging, as it states that my husband isn't in any of the photos, and that men in them are guys we've met from the site. |
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Single male account offering meets with their "other half"
Calling me "beautiful" from just the public photos available on my profile
Old meet verifications- nothing in the last year or so (that mainly applies to single women's profiles)
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When I'm told in the first or second message, "I think we'd get along really well"
Seriously? What does it take for you to decide that? A pulse and some boobs? I need a bit more to conclude we'd even be able to have a conversation, let alone get along really well! |
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"Repeat messages, needy or persistent behaviour, really excessive flattery, someone who tries to convince you that you’ll enjoy something you’ve already said you’re not into."
yes to repeat messages. I'm not sure which is worse, the short ones which just feels lazy. Or the long ones that suggest gaming.
Either way, surely they realises ppl can see history.
Also. Repeat messages. |
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"Single male account offering meets with their "other half"
Calling me "beautiful" from just the public photos available on my profile
Old meet verifications- nothing in the last year or so (that mainly applies to single women's profiles)
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Oh yeah, the who wants to meet my wife, see her pics, when she's no idea about his single profile. Gross. |
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When a woman comes on strong right from the beginning. It usually turns out to be a fantasise or someone who just wants attention at that moment, with no intention of meeting.
Also the ones who are like "I never would, but it would be amazing to feel that load inside me". Spoiler: they would  |
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"I think the main one has to be when someone clearly hasn't bothered to read our bio.
Its not overly complicated, we keep it nice and simple.
Yet most messages are from people wanting something totally different.
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This is a big one for me. If they can’t make an effort to get to know me I doubt the actual meet would be good x |
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"Anyone who gets abusive or rude at being told no or who tries to push me to do things I'm not into.
I was once chatting to a man on here, we were planning a social. Then he started trying to tell me what to wear and trying to get an invite straight to my house.
It ended with a block, he couldn't respect me on here, so I dread to think what he would have been like in real life. "
Yes, it often starts with ‘What are you wearing’ and a fixation with what one wears and an attempt to dictate what is worn when meeting.
In my case I get ‘Are you dressed?’ or ‘Will you be dressed!’ even though my profile clearly states that I live as a woman and am not an occasional cross dresser or a transvestite who dresses up for sex.
I normally reply that I haven’t got undressed and changed into a nightie yet (unless I have!) or that I don’t walk around naked even in summer (not a sight I would inflict on anyone without good cause!).
I normally know at this stage that it is not going to be a productive conversation in terms of meeting for sex! |
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"BBC only i know it's a preference but there is really no need to plaster it all over your fab "
Well, I'd prefer to see BBC as a headline if that's an absolute requirement; then I can move on by and look for someone who might want to meet this white boy... |
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Not always, but mostly.
Any single male or "cpl" that message after 1 in the morning.
In other words, thier not single and wife or gf is in bed out the way or in fact thier cheating on the partner. |
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