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By *hagTonight OP Man 7 days ago
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I saw this quote and it would be interesting to see what you think of it is, it was about if it is cheating if your partner is texting someone else every day?
The replies was mixed, for some it was and others it depends on what you are texting, like sending pics and such things.
I would say that, yes, it would be cheating, unless you know the person, because there wouldnt otherwise be a reason for the partner to text someone else in secret, because it brakes the established relationship boundaries.
Here is an interesting thing,did you know that it is called micro cheating, the reason it is called that is because it replaces the partners role.
It would be interesting to see what your view of it is, also would it depend what kind of relationship you have too?  |
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Anything physical or emotional that's done without a partner's knowledge and purposefully kept secret is cheating for me, whether that's as far as it goes or whether it leads to more, which is often the case. |
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I message a long term friend, she is married I have sent her naked pics of me and my male lovers she is one of 3 people who knows of my gay Her husband is aware we are friends but not of our intimate chats. I don’t see it as cheating 🤪👍 |
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By *eliWoman 7 days ago
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Cheating isn't just someone saying they're working/busy/ill and lying to a partner whilst they're fucking another.
Texting can be a form of it. If it wasn't an issue, why would you actively try and keep it secret from your partner? |
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"I message a long term friend, she is married I have sent her naked pics of me and my male lovers she is one of 3 people who knows of my gay Her husband is aware we are friends but not of our intimate chats. I don’t see it as cheating 🤪👍"
I do. Because he’s not aware.
If there’s nothing wrong with it, why hide it?
But each to their own |
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"I message a long term friend, she is married I have sent her naked pics of me and my male lovers she is one of 3 people who knows of my gay Her husband is aware we are friends but not of our intimate chats. I don’t see it as cheating 🤪👍"
I’m sure her husband wouldn’t see it that way.
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Anything thats hidden is being deceptive but as long as your partner is aware of the kind of relationship you have with the person, there isn't a problem. If the person you are texting is providing you something thats missing in your relationship then thats not okay and needs addressing. |
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Is texting cheating in a relationship?
Depends
I have an open relationship with my better half, she knows where I go and what I get up to, but she doesn't want to know the details
So when it comes to messages, she knows I am messaging others and most of those messages are of a sexual nature, but she doesn't know the context. If she did want to see them, I would have no issues showing
So I don't delete, I don't hide them, it's her personal choice not to see them or know about the content
But, if I was messaging without consent and hiding/deleting, then yes, I believe this is a form of cheating. |
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"I saw this quote and it would be interesting to see what you think of it is, it was about if it is cheating if your partner is texting someone else every day?
The replies was mixed, for some it was and others it depends on what you are texting, like sending pics and such things.
I would say that, yes, it would be cheating, unless you know the person, because there wouldnt otherwise be a reason for the partner to text someone else in secret, because it brakes the established relationship boundaries.
Here is an interesting thing,did you know that it is called micro cheating, the reason it is called that is because it replaces the partners role.
It would be interesting to see what your view of it is, also would it depend what kind of relationship you have too? "
Wish she was |
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Cheating is all forms of contact in an inappropriate nature with someone you shouldn't be or have not got the permission to contact. Deceiving your partner.
Now on a site like this if a partner has given permission to chat or more and vice versa, that's not cheating. The deception is the cheating. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 7 days ago
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"Anything physical or emotional that's done without a partner's knowledge and purposefully kept secret is cheating for me, whether that's as far as it goes or whether it leads to more, which is often the case."
Hi callmeflik, yes, you are right there, anything physical or emotional that is done without their knowledge is cheating too |
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Whether something is cheating or not is only dependent on the two (or more) people in the relationship.
Is it cheating? Only the partner can say yes or no.
I can have sex with other swingers without explicitly telling Mrs every time and that's fine. If I was intimately, emotionally texting someone I met at work that would not be fine.
A couple sets their own expectations, rules and boundaries and anything outside can be considered cheating.
But as others have said if you'd be worried about your partner finding out, that's probably a good sign that you've crossed a line.
Whether that bothers you or not is then your decision! |
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Cheating is subjective to the individual, if I had a gf or wife and she was fucking someone behind my back then relationship over. If she handed her number to somebody or texting someone else I’d be upset and I’d have the conversation but I don’t see it as cheating. I really only see cheating as a physical action kissing fucking etc |
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I'm confused here.
Do people consider your partner texting someone they are friends with every day cheating then, even if the conversation is completely non sexual? 🤯
Isn't that just friendships?
Is it okay if a partner texted a friend of the same gender every day but not if its someone of the opposite gender (or the equivalent for gay couples)? |
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I think it's more for us, if I'm texting and deleting them would be considered cheating. Or meeting someone and not saying prior, or withholding information after. He gets off on knowing I'm sexting someone else, so there would be no reason to hide it 🤷🏻♀️ |
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Anything done behind a partners back and without there knowledge is cheating ? and surely that's the whole point of being on here is the abilty to be honest/upfront and not sneaking around behind peoples/partners back or are we just a pair of weirdo's/odd balls for thinking that way ? but different strokes for differents folks we guess xx |
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It depends what has explicitly been agreed between partners. If it's not been discussed, then it doesn't make it acceptable and just shows the need to discuss it and agree - before the act starts.
If you sense your partner doesn't know and hasn't given consent, then it's time to get it, to prevent loss of trust.
It's cheating to try to use anything but the full truth, to gain consent |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 7 days ago
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"Cheating isn't just someone saying they're working/busy/ill and lying to a partner whilst they're fucking another.
Texting can be a form of it. If it wasn't an issue, why would you actively try and keep it secret from your partner? "
Hi _eli, yes, you are right there, texting can be a form of cheating, there would be no other reason for it too |
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I have a couple of men I text most days who are part of a couple but the female isn’t interested in chatting just play ( and yes there really is a female ) and my fella doesn’t mind but that’s because I’m open and honest with him and most of the time it’s talking about the weather, my partner knows for me I prefer to build a connection especially with men if I’m to play so messaging regularly helps me do this.
It would be totally different if I was to get a single man’s number and text him constantly or if my fella was to do the same with a single woman. |
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I'd be more likely to be forgiving of physical cheating than emotional cheating.
It would depend on the frequency and content of the messages and secrecy surrounding them to me as to whether I'd class it as cheating or not. I think I might find it odd if a partner was messaging someone else on a daily basis though. Explicit messages is much clearer cut. Intimate messages even more so. |
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I think this is a really deep question. I think most people would agree that physical activity is cheating, there is clearly a split of opinions about messaging, but what is the opinion on thoughts? Looking, imagining, wanting….. how is that perceived? |
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Relationships (Infidelity): Breaking emotional or sexual exclusivity (e.g., secret dating, physical affairs, emotional infidelity, hiding communication with someone else).
It’s cheating. How you perceive cheating is a different question though. |
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"How many people are on here without their partners consent "
There are absolutely loads!! Im married. My hubby knows I am on here. He takes some of my pics, but he's not on here himself. I talk to lots of guys through the messages I receive and so many of their wives/partners have no idea. |
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"I think this is a really deep question. I think most people would agree that physical activity is cheating, there is clearly a split of opinions about messaging, but what is the opinion on thoughts? Looking, imagining, wanting….. how is that perceived?"
PreCog ThoughtCrime. Double Plus Ungood. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 6 days ago
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"Anything thats hidden is being deceptive but as long as your partner is aware of the kind of relationship you have with the person, there isn't a problem. If the person you are texting is providing you something thats missing in your relationship then thats not okay and needs addressing."
Yes, you are right there, anything that is hidden is being deceptive, unless the partner is aware of it, then it is ok too |
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