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By *attie OP TV/TS 3 days ago
Nottingham |
I don't do social media so the only access I have to the hive mind is here on fab.
Here's a conundrum-
What do you do when your errant child walks in with a cardboard box in her arms and a tiny little fluffy black face peeks out?
Yep, that's right, she pulled the pin on the C bomb.
No not that one I meant Cat.
She actually came home with a stray kitten in a box.
What the actual fuck am I supposed to do with that
The apartment (as I've repeatedly told her) is too small to imprison a sentient creature and pets aren't allowed in the building. The kitten is from the street so most likely it's gonna need expensive tests and innoculations and probably eighteen years of care and attention.
If I take it to the RSPCA I instantly become the evil father that denied her the pet she's dreamed of and if I keep it I'm gonna feel guilty about breaking my own moral stance on housecats (I love cats but I think they need freedom to roam).
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That's a dilemma for sure. How old is the kitten, should it be away from it's mother?
It'll surely have fleas 🦟 and now so do your soft furnishings (sorry). Cats can and do live happily indoors but if you're not allowed them in the building what can be done?
So after being absolutely no help at all, I wish you luck  |
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By *olo180Man 3 days ago
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I don’t know how old your kid is but I suspect if she’s old enough to bring it home she would be old enough to understand your reasons for not keeping it. After all you have said them in the past. Although no doubt it will be upsetting but if it was me I’d take it to the RSPCA |
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As much as I would want to adopt the cat (❤️) you have rules -both your own and for the building; if you bend on those you’ll have to bend on every rule. In her own home she can adopt all the waifs and strays she wants. |
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By *attie OP TV/TS 3 days ago
Nottingham |
"I don’t know how old your kid is but I suspect if she’s old enough to bring it home she would be old enough to understand your reasons for not keeping it. After all you have said them in the past. Although no doubt it will be upsetting but if it was me I’d take it to the RSPCA "
Old enough to know better (17) but she's the troublesome middle child, boundaries and rules are clearly meaningless (I blame the parents). |
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I don’t agree that cats have to be outdoor cats. I have I for cats although they do need to be bred that way. In your situation, the unfortunately fact is that you aren’t allowed pets. You’re not the bad parent, as you have no control of that. But maybe consider why she wants a cat and work on an alternative that works for your situation |
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By *attie OP TV/TS 3 days ago
Nottingham |
"That's a dilemma for sure. How old is the kitten, should it be away from it's mother?
It'll surely have fleas 🦟 and now so do your soft furnishings (sorry). Cats can and do live happily indoors but if you're not allowed them in the building what can be done?
So after being absolutely no help at all, I wish you luck "
Definitely a no win situation for me. |
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By *attie OP TV/TS 3 days ago
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"I don’t agree that cats have to be outdoor cats. I have I for cats although they do need to be bred that way. In your situation, the unfortunately fact is that you aren’t allowed pets. You’re not the bad parent, as you have no control of that. But maybe consider why she wants a cat and work on an alternative that works for your situation "
it's only a few weeks since her first heartbreak with a boy so probably desperate for the kind of unconditional love that only a kitten can give. |
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"Local cats protection league.
They'll re home it.
As for your daughter, if she likes them so much, take her back to visit occasionally."
Or suggest she volunteer for CPL or a local rescue centre - that way she can fuss the animals without any of the responsibility of pet ownership, whilst learning adulty stuff |
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My brothers were always bringing animals home. Luckily we lived in a fairly big house with a fair amount of land. We had to stop one of them buying a monkey once. It wasn't unusual for me to come home from school to find a goat in the garden. I think you've got off lightly with a kitten |
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"I don't do social media so the only access I have to the hive mind is here on fab.
Here's a conundrum-
What do you do when your errant child walks in with a cardboard box in her arms and a tiny little fluffy black face peeks out?
Yep, that's right, she pulled the pin on the C bomb.
No not that one I meant Cat.
She actually came home with a stray kitten in a box.
What the actual fuck am I supposed to do with that
The apartment (as I've repeatedly told her) is too small to imprison a sentient creature and pets aren't allowed in the building. The kitten is from the street so most likely it's gonna need expensive tests and innoculations and probably eighteen years of care and attention.
If I take it to the RSPCA I instantly become the evil father that denied her the pet she's dreamed of and if I keep it I'm gonna feel guilty about breaking my own moral stance on housecats (I love cats but I think they need freedom to roam).
Answers on a postcard please... "
Awww bless her, keep it keep it keep it I live in a flat with my cat and it's not to small. As for pets not being allowed that sucks but cats don't make that much noise no one would ever known ( okay I'm bias I love cats and am probably not the best person to jump in on this) good luck p.s keep it keep it keep it |
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Clearly the cat stays, not even sure why you're asking 🤷♀️
On a more serious note... Cats can and do live happy lives as indoors cats, look into cat enrichment, cat wheels, shelves, toys etc, even harness/lead training.
Also some breeds are better adapted for indoor living, and some have to be indoors cats due to health issues, better to give a home to one of those than a regular kitten.
However, if your building has a no pets rule I would say I'd not be keen on potentially being made homeless over this new addition - and that's as a confirmed crazy cat lady.
Can your daughter volunteer at a shelter to get cuddle fixes, or do you have a cat cafe nearby?
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By *attie OP TV/TS 2 days ago
Nottingham |
"Clearly the cat stays, not even sure why you're asking 🤷♀️
If your building has a no pets rule I would say I'd not be keen on potentially being made homeless over this new addition - and that's as a confirmed crazy cat lady.
Can your daughter volunteer at a shelter to get cuddle fixes, or do you have a cat cafe nearby?
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Not overly concerned about the building's no pet policy, it's just a hassle negotiating with the management company.
There is a cat café a short walk away but there's no way that could ever compete with having your very own fluffy little kitten 24/7.
Honestly it's the blatant disregard of my parental authority that's the most upsetting.
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Children are able to start to learn boundaries from the moment they are born. It's obviously not wrong for people to want things but your home situation sounds fixed, so you have absolute, great reasons not to have the pet.
I'd welcome your daughter's sense of care, for a possibly abandoned kitten. My immediate expectation would be attempting to return it to its owner - the mother.
I'd use the opportunity to help your child to learn about boundaries, including your home ones, as well as what she's allowed to touch, etc.
Some things will be painful for her. Reward her for her caring for animals and work out if there's some ways she can get more involved with animals, as a reward
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