Please be aware this may trigger people so best be upfront.
This week I found out a very good took her own life we have known each other decades and knew she was battling mental health.
We were in daily contact,I fell asleep sunday night and found monday morning she ended her life.
Having checked my phone there was missed call and text message I cannot believe I missed the call and text which said thank you for everything.
Had I heard phone its possible I could have helped her to a safe place mentally.
I have been in touch with her family,police and coroners team and sent all messages were sent to them.
PLEASE IF YOURSELF OR ANYONE YOU KNOW AS STRUGGLING DO NOT BOTTLE IT UP. |
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Sorry for your loss.
It’s clear from everything you’ve said that you cared deeply for her and were there for her. She obviously thought highly of you too and wouldn’t want you blaming yourself for falling asleep.
Be kind to yourself too.
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My sincere condolences for your loss.
Don't beat yourself up. Don't overthink. You're only human. Be kind to yourself.
Mental health is a struggle for everyone. Some battles are harder than others. |
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By *Effy-Woman 4 weeks ago
Scotland |
I'm sorry to hear that, OP.
It sounds like you were a good friend to her. The decision she made isn't your fault. Take the time to grieve for your friend, but please do not blame yourself ever. |
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Very sorry for your loss.
You clearly looked out for her, and unfortunately we are all only human. And can't always be there at that crucial time. I'm sure there are many thoughts going around your head and probably will for a while.
Just make sure that you seek support for yourself if you feel your need it, as you're going to be grieving yourself. The impact on yourself may not be fully realised for some time.
So as well as remembering your friend, also don't forget about yourself in the coming weeks/months. |
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By *ydaz70Man 4 weeks ago
Rotherham /newquay |
Sorry to hear about that I've lost loads of friends over the yrs when I was younger it felt like every month a funeral don't take it out on yourself get help if you're struggling good luck. |
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"Please be aware this may trigger people so best be upfront.
This week I found out a very good took her own life we have known each other decades and knew she was battling mental health.
We were in daily contact,I fell asleep sunday night and found monday morning she ended her life.
Having checked my phone there was missed call and text message I cannot believe I missed the call and text which said thank you for everything.
Had I heard phone its possible I could have helped her to a safe place mentally.
I have been in touch with her family,police and coroners team and sent all messages were sent to them.
PLEASE IF YOURSELF OR ANYONE YOU KNOW AS STRUGGLING DO NOT BOTTLE IT UP."
Can I start with please don't blame or put pressure on yourself
I attempted suicide about 20yrs ago,felt i had no other choice at that time. You never open up,and strangely people think suicide is a easy way out!!
It's not,imagine choosing that option. When I attempted it I didn't think of anything,not even my son
Thankfully I was found/helped/and don't look back. Still suffer and recently diagnosed ADHD and now I campaign to help
I know exactly how hard it is |
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Suicides are hard to deal with. Because nobody teaches what to do next.
The is a FB group called Life After Dan and it gives you a sense of structure and a chance to organise your thoughts.
This is a Peterborough based couple whose son ended his own life.
Hope this helps.
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I'm so very sorry to read this. You must be hurting a lot right now.
The fact that your friend reached out to thank you says a great deal about how much she cared about you and valued your friendship. That's huge, and as awful as things feel right now, I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that you meant something to her.
I know others have said similar, but please try not to view the missed call as a missed opportunity to change the outcome. When someone is in that much pain, things are rarely that simple, and I very much doubt your friend would have wanted to leave you with that burden.
Be kind to yourself while you process it all. |
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