What’s the protocol when your friend with benefits says that they are getting feelings for you from day 1 everything has been put on the table no lies and it’s has just been about the fun nothing else don’t want to be a prick about it and hurt her? |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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Just be honest with her and say nothing has changed from your perspective of what you want from the situation. Its not the nicest situation but i would rather be hurt by the truth than be comforted by a lie.
Good luck OP |
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protocol defo includes discussing it out in the open in the forums 😂😂
Seriously though - just don’t be a dick. Be clear about original intentions and why. “Don’t be careless with other people’s hearts”. |
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By *111Woman 3 weeks ago
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"Just be honest with her and say nothing has changed from your perspective of what you want from the situation. Its not the nicest situation but i would rather be hurt by the truth than be comforted by a lie.
Good luck OP"
This |
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Been there before a few times. That's where it can get messy especially if you both want it but can't for various reasons.
Sex is built on connection and the more you have it with the same person the more that connection builds and it can be difficult if it evolves for one of the parties. |
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"You cam still do 'this' and have feelings for the other person
Those feelings can be just 'like' and not 'love'
I couldn't do what I'm doing if I didn't 'like' the person I'm with "
This ^ - its about boundaries - surely you have to like someone you’re intimate with… ? |
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By *Effy-Woman 3 weeks ago
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I agree with the advice already given.
It doesn't feel great when feelings aren't reciprocated so try and keep that in mind when you have the conversation. I think as well it's worth asking yourself whether it's a good idea to continue seeing each other afterwards. Given she has already developed feelings for you, doing so might give her the impression that there's still a chance that your relationship could develop further. |
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