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Good evening all, I’m new to this all I had an account and had the app only to realise it was so restricted, so now I’m on the website I was just wondering if anyone can give me some advice on how to attract conversion with women on this website? Many thanks |
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Welcome.
Variety of pictures that show off your body.
Profile text that's informative (as Perky Pumpkin says, way more than you've got).
Read profiles of people you're contacting before contacting them. Show in your message that you've read it. (Hint: "I've read your profile", absent evidence you have, is probably a lie.) Be polite and respectful - if you can demonstrate that you believe that the recipient is a person who deserves respect, you're doing better than 50% of guys on here. (Again: "I respect you" is presumed to be a lie. Show, don't tell) But note that respectful is not the same as snivelling ("oh you most beautiful woman I beg of you to please contact me" is almost as bad as "oi slut you owe me sex, get here right now") |
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"I would expand your bio to include more than "sit on my face"
Sit on my face and squirt?
I guess that's technically moving in the right direction "
Sit on my face and squirt and then sit on my face again and then squirt some more? |
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"I have taken all your replies into consideration thank you for helping me, I’ve sat down and had a chat with Mr GPT with some assisted information hopefully the new bio is a bit more approachable "
Oh god. Please don't usd ChatGPT. |
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"I have taken all your replies into consideration thank you for helping me, I’ve sat down and had a chat with Mr GPT with some assisted information hopefully the new bio is a bit more approachable "
Scrap it all and just write something yourself 🤣 |
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"I’m new to this and I have no idea how to compose a structured bio "
Tell people about yourself. There's no fixed method.
ChatGPT doesn't know how to do it either, and the stench of AI writing is unmistakable. |
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 3 weeks ago
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Think of your profile as a CV.
Sell yourself to potential others. Your likes, what you're looking for and the such.
Don't pay attention to my profile, it's deliberately shit to reduce the amount of messages I get, as I get too many anyways  |
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"Think of your profile as a CV.
Sell yourself to potential others. Your likes, what you're looking for and the such.
Don't pay attention to my profile, it's deliberately shit to reduce the amount of messages I get, as I get too many anyways "
I think these questions are useful as a starting point for profiles:
* Who am I?
* What am I looking for?
* Why should you be interested in me?
(Also don't pay attention to my profile. Women get all the attention and can break all the rules) |
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Welcome to Fab. Just be yourself. Express your personality, the kind of person you are and what you are looking for in a partner. It helps attract the people you are looking for and hopefully starts a conversation. |
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You are out of my age range anyway but I would take one look at your profile and move on fairly quickly. It doesn't tell me anything about you as a person or what you can offer me that makes you stand out from the hundreds of other single men on here. |
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"I have now deleted the AI generated bio and constructed something of the top of my head, wonder if I’ll get anywhere with that now "
It's potentially a bit generic, but it's better.
Be aware that it can be a very hard slog to "get anywhere". There are a lot more men here than anyone else (my estimate would be that the site is 70-80% men. As a woman, when my filters allow it, I'm bombarded by messages). Be patient, don't take it personally. |
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By *Effy-Woman 3 weeks ago
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"I have now deleted the AI generated bio and constructed something of the top of my head, wonder if I’ll get anywhere with that now "
You typed 'infancy' instead of 'intimacy' just a heads up. |
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"I have taken all your replies into consideration thank you for helping me, I’ve sat down and had a chat with Mr GPT with some assisted information hopefully the new bio is a bit more approachable "
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I reached this far on the thread and thought...
AI. This is a no no. |
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Your bio still needs a bit of work. We think people like to know abit about what your looking for what you will and wont do and after 5 months I dont feel your new to this so maybe update your bio abit |
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Just an opinion
Delete the first sentence (I’m hoping that writing this bio will help me succeed on here so here it goes…..)
JUST SAY YOU ARE NEW TO THIS WORLD ONCE, not needed three times.
“Single man (that is a complete newbie to all of this DELETE) looking to play with interesting women (DELETE Female) and mixed couples. Honestly, I’m new to all of this so I don’t know where my head is at with it all. 
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"Welcome.
Variety of pictures that show off your body.
Profile text that's informative (as Perky Pumpkin says, way more than you've got).
Read profiles of people you're contacting before contacting them. Show in your message that you've read it. (Hint: "I've read your profile", absent evidence you have, is probably a lie.) Be polite and respectful - if you can demonstrate that you believe that the recipient is a person who deserves respect, you're doing better than 50% of guys on here. (Again: "I respect you" is presumed to be a lie. Show, don't tell) But note that respectful is not the same as snivelling ("oh you most beautiful woman I beg of you to please contact me" is almost as bad as "oi slut you owe me sex, get here right now")"
Incredible advice. You are a wonderful lady 🌷 |
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"Welcome.
Variety of pictures that show off your body.
Profile text that's informative (as Perky Pumpkin says, way more than you've got).
Read profiles of people you're contacting before contacting them. Show in your message that you've read it. (Hint: "I've read your profile", absent evidence you have, is probably a lie.) Be polite and respectful - if you can demonstrate that you believe that the recipient is a person who deserves respect, you're doing better than 50% of guys on here. (Again: "I respect you" is presumed to be a lie. Show, don't tell) But note that respectful is not the same as snivelling ("oh you most beautiful woman I beg of you to please contact me" is almost as bad as "oi slut you owe me sex, get here right now")
Incredible advice. You are a wonderful lady 🌷"
Thank you! |
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 3 weeks ago
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"I feel due to the structure and the length of some people’s bios and profiles I feel like I’m reading the 9th Harry Potter book, I suppose time will tell if the profile doesn’t the work or not "
It's trial and error.
Keep tweeking it as you go. |
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"I feel due to the structure and the length of some people’s bios and profiles I feel like I’m reading the 9th Harry Potter book, I suppose time will tell if the profile doesn’t the work or not "
The thing to remember is this.
No one starts with a novel of a profile. I think mine was initially two lines. Maybe three.
More gets added with experience. I work out how I want to present myself, what I want to say to try to get certain messages. The messages that annoy me and I'm trying to avoid. (And I'm aware my profile could be shorter. I'm also filtering for laziness tbh.)
It all exists for a reason, and that reason is our experiences here. That should give you clues as to how to approach people. |
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I don’t really, due to 0 confidence with my body hence my profile pictures, I don’t really know how to take the correct photos or also previously dealing with revenge porn I find it difficult to just freely put photos up |
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"I don’t really, due to 0 confidence with my body hence my profile pictures, I don’t really know how to take the correct photos or also previously dealing with revenge porn I find it difficult to just freely put photos up "
While I've not had my photos weaponised, I minimise my chance of being identified by not putting my face up in public. I'm not telling you not to have your face in public, just offering that as a consideration.
Confidence will be attractive, and it can be something you can fake, to an extent. (Although - similar to the difference between polite and snivelling - you also have to make sure that confidence doesn't bleed into arrogance) |
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"I fully understand thank you for your reply, hopefully I can find a better way to take photos while keeping my face on friends only possibly "
Find the self timer on your phone. Prop it up somewhere. Pose. Take lots of pictures. Lots will suck and you should delete them (not because you suck, because this is a universal experience). Pick the best 5-10% and use those. |
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 3 weeks ago
In a galaxy far far away |
"I fully understand thank you for your reply, hopefully I can find a better way to take photos while keeping my face on friends only possibly
Find the self timer on your phone. Prop it up somewhere. Pose. Take lots of pictures. Lots will suck and you should delete them (not because you suck, because this is a universal experience). Pick the best 5-10% and use those. "
Also (what I do) is position your mobile and take a video. Do several poses and watch the video back. Pause the video on a good pose and take a screenshot to create a picture. |
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